Does appreciating the same sex make you homosexual?
I have never had a problem with questioning my sexuality. I’m straight, at least I think so anyway. But now all of a sudden I’m not so sure. I’ve always had an appreciation for strong women, or I would look at a woman and think how beautiful she was, but I’d always just mean it in a, wow I want to be like you way. Or Why can’t I be as pretty as you. I’ve never actually had feelings for anyone of the same sex, But I have had for guys. So now I’m just freaking myself out over it, Obsessing about it non-stop for ages, because I started thinking what if its not just admiration? cause I haven’t had feelings for a guy in a while. Am I just being paranoid? or do you think there is something there? Also, I cant actually imagine myself being with a woman, I don’t like the idea of it for me. Not in a denial sort of way, I just like the idea of being with a guy better.
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No it doesn’t.
You sound straight to me.
I think it’s great that you can recognize and appreciate strong beautiful women.
Like you, I also appreciate and admire, strong, beautiful, smart, funny and kind women.
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How you are feeling is probably more common than you can imagine. And not that I am an expert, but I would go as far to say that your feelings are quite healthy. There is nothing wrong with being a female and appreciating the positive factors in another woman, be it physical or personality-based. Look at it this way, if only the males in your life ever appreciated you for who you were, how would it make you feel?
Like you, I went through a very long period (years) without meeting a guy that held my interest. I, too, started to wonder if I might be a lesbian and was so out of tune with my feelings that I didn’t recognize it. Then, one day while on vacation with extended family, I asked my niece, a psychology major, what she thought. Her response came in the form of one simple question: “When you have sexual dreams or fantasies, are they ever about women?” I told her no, that they were always about men. She said, “Then you are straight.” I don’t know if this is a valid diagnosis or not, but it certainly made sense to me.
Nope, you’re probably just being paranoid.
If you end up not being “heteronormative” though, so what?
Not at all. Appreciating beauty wherever you find it is not the same as desiring sex with women. I second @everephebe, though, and ask “But so what if you do turn out to be gay or bisexual?”
That is pretty normal.
I say that I am 51% straight.
No more than appreciating vegetables makes you a vegetarian.
Nope. Weezer said “Everyone’s a little queer”. While that’s not necessarily true, there’s absolutely nothing strange or abnormal about appreciating someone of the same sex yet considering yourself to be straight.
I can appreciate a beautiful and attractive woman in exactly the same way as I appreciate a beautiful and attractive man. I even fantasize about women about half the time. While I wouldn’t immediately dismiss the possibility of having a sexual encounter with a woman, I never have. I think I’m straight with bi-curious tendencies, if I feel the need to label it. And I don’t. Why bother?
I’ll snuggle up with my best girl friend to watch a movie and I’ll tell her if I didn’t love her so much I’d be so jealous because she’s so gorgeous. I appreciate the hell out of her. She’s funny, smart, athletic, friendly, kind… But I don’t wanna get in her pants. I think you’re being a little paranoid. If you ever do find yourself wanting that sort of a romantic relationship with a woman, don’t let paranoia about what other people think stop you.
No, not at all. I appreciate a lot of men. But they don’t arouse me sexually.
This question seems very simple to me. To answer it simply ask youself which do you like best, boys or girls?
no. Of course not, it’s not our fault there are no hot men out there, everyone needs eye candy.
Bar Rafaeli is sexy beyond words but I just like looking at her pictures that’s all.
It means your non-homophobic. Homophobes, doofuses, and those afraid of their own homosexuality (many are all three), tend to overdo and project their homophobia onto others by suggesting that appreciating members of your own gender is gay.
No. Or I never found it to be homosexual.
Relax! We live in a so society that is so homophobic that many people grow up fearing that something may be aberrant about their sexual orientation. If you find you are sexually attracted primarily to people of your own gender, and not sexually attracted to those of the opposite gender then it is likely you are homosexual.
People need to stop worrying so much if things make them gay. You are either gay or you aren’t, no stress needed.. You just have to be yourself. Be happy, do things that make you happy. Life sucks, so live for what feels good and who cares what label other people want to slap on you?
I asked myself the same question, especially when I worked with costume design for a while and much preferred designing costumes for women than men and again when I realized I preferred to draw women in art classes than men. I even asked myself that question when I realized most of my female friends were lesbians, and even had girl-crushes… but the bottom line is, I prefer to be in a long term, sexual relationship with a man.
I’m the same way! But I’m a guy, so the pressure is even worse. People question me just because I call other men attractive. It’s just the way society works, and until it changes, people like us will just have to be comfortable with ourselves and know the truth :)
I’ve always appreciated the same sex, my first sexual feelings were towards another female. I’m straight ( I think) well maybe not straight as a board, but I appreciate beauty in both sexes.
Not at all. I appreciate many men and enjoy their company. That doesn’t make me homosexual. I may be attracted to other men’s intelligence, personalities, and even some aspects of their physical appearance, but I don’t get sexually aroused by it. There is a difference between liking and finding something attractive, and liking and finding something sexually appealing.
It seems that you are straight. Strong admiration and sexual attraction and two different things.
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