Do you have flaws?

Plenty.

I’m not skinny, my hair is too curly, i’m short, i’m blind as a bat, i’m a nerd, i’m dorky, and I read waaaay to much.

Those sound good to you?

Tons and I prefer the term quirks.

@blueberry_kid Now I’m kind of turned on. You sound like fun.

@Adirondackwannabe Slow your roll Adi, BBK is only 13.

@FutureMemory I know, I was going to put jailbait in there. lol

The concept of flaws is a subjective one. I see many flaws in my body that my lover sees as marks of a tremendous beauty. There are flaws in the way I interact with people that others see that I do not consider as such. Basically, to the people that I love and trust, those aren’t flaws of personality whatsoever. I try to do my best, to be fair and just, to be consistent, to talk everything out and to be loyal. When I get depressed and metaphorical, it can get tedious (again, in my mind, no one has ever said so) to be around me, because everything is felt so deeply. My ex-husband disliked how much I analyzed everything in life, my current husband thrives on it. So what can I tell you? It’s all in the eye of the beholder.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir , I couldn’t agree more. I had this conversation with someone recently and I feel the same as you. Just curious on others imput- . The way i see it I ask the question ” flaw according to who…. and why does that who get to decide ”

I am a perfectionist.

I have flaws of appearance.

I’ve got shit tons of flaws. I’m cowardly about a lot of things, I lack a lot of “common sense” skills, I’m overly touchy and quite reactionary about a lot of subjects, I have poor people skills, I’m jealous and competitive, I overthink most everything, etc. etc. (don’t really feel like beating up on myself today).

“Do you ever find that what some view as a flaw actually turns out to be beneficial, or is rather endearing?” In these situations I tend to assume that people are not being honest with themselves. They might be scared to admit their “real” flaws and are therefore saying things that aren’t really flaws. It’s like in a job interview when they ask your weaknesses and you say “I work too hard” – please. Maybe I’m being overly judgemental here, but it’s irritating to me when someone says their only flaw is “loving too much” or something like that. Guess it is all subjective though.

In my case, you might as well ask if I have any strengths. Everything else is flawed.

Oh yes! Quite a few. My lips are lopsided, my hair is too thick and hurts my head, I need to lose a few or forty pounds, I’d like to be a couple inches shorter, I’m very critical, I don’t have a lot of patience, I’m always tired, I get extremely moody, I can be too honest, I like to be alone a lot, and I get bored easily.

Do any of you still wanna be my friend?

Yeah, they’re all over my home, we use them to walk on.
Of course, essential so that we can go through life without looking like an elitist shite!

Oh sure lots. Especially when I say “SAMMICH, sammich, sammich
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syz

@redfeather Yes.

@woodcutter What’s with your obsession with syz lately?

@FutureMemory It’s plain to me she be crushin on me

@woodcutter Sweet, get some mod ass.

I have one flaw. I am human and thus riddled with flaws.

Yeah, everyone does. I’m pretty apathetic and somewhat selfish.

I’m lazy and I procrastinate. Otherwise, I’m perfect.

right

sigh

@FutureMemory Yeah, I got a case of it!

@Mariah, I hear you on the job interview bit, that actually made me laugh and I agree… I guess i was wondering about things a little more broad than the “I love wayyyy too much” people. for example: my little cousin has a beauty mark that takes up her entire cheek.she could get it removed but chooses nit too. some see flaw- I see character. not neccessarilly beneficial but somewhat endearing.

@Blackberry , that could be beneficial, sometimes I think well I’ve gotta look out for myself or else noone else will, at the end of the day I’ve got myself to rely on type deal…, there’s degrees of selfish. I’d be suprised if you’re a raging greedy asshole.

@boxer3 Ah, I get your drift a bit better now. I love that some people like your cousin can embrace their own uniqueness and see it as a part of themselves instead of a flaw. I would be immediately drawn to somebody so confident in herself, that’s a benefit in itself.

According to me, I’m damn near perfect.:D:D:D

My ‘flaws’ include being on the hedonistic side, goes with my extroverted personality, I am orally fixated, like to eat, drink, talk, my mouth is very important to me. lol

I can talk too much sometimes when I am feeling passionate about smething. My Enneagram personality type is the #7 ” The Enthusiast.”
I can bounce from one topic to another like a rubber ball. I suffer from speed brain, but, I also hear and comprehend very well and am very articulate, so, it’s just a matter of watching
myself when the brain train picks up speed and slowing it down for the sake of others at times. lol

I can be on the undisciplined side, in some areas and very together and organized in others.

As far as I am concerned any ‘flaw’ that is not a character flaw is a non-issue, unless it is enough of an issue to cause issues in your life or relationships.

I am very tolerant of quirkiness, prefer it actually, but, have zero tolerence for character flaws.

Lots of flaws. They’re evident to anyone who has read any of my posts.

Sure I do. I worry about things that don’t warrant worrying about, I’m pretty lazy when it comes to stuff I “should” do, I don’t appreciate the moment when I’m in the moment. We won’t go into physical flaws, but I have a few of those. (I could also lose a few or forty pounds, @redfeather, so yes, I totally want to be your friend.)

@Coloma – I’m also passionate about smething. I love to smeth!

@Seelix, thank tha lawd!

Nope. Not a one. Not a single one. Nopity nope nope nope. Oh, and did I mention nope?

Oh, dear, without my glasses I thought it said “Do you have fleas?” Never mind.

@JilltheTooth Those Hartz collars really work.lol

I annoy people to no end… mostly by accident!

My mother always maintained I was a PERFECT CHILD. I’m gonna go with that, and not look too closely.

I have a bit of a temper…. :)

I can’t juggle.

I used to love you, @Cruiser , but I’m not sure I can get past that. You have shattered my world. <sigh>

I fluther too much when I should be writing code.

Yes, of course. I could be the most perfect me ever ...and someone would still find flaws. It depends on who’s observing and perceiving.

No, I don’t have a single flaw.

Pfft, what kind of question is that???? Everyone has flaws! People who think they aren’t flawed, are completely in denial. Not to mention arrogant.

@FutureMemory I’m 14!

Well, duh. :P

@WillWorkForChocolate : Except, of course, for me!

Oh, right, not fleas. Still confused. Nevermind.

@JilltheTooth keep away from us! Dag fleabitten varmint ... :::scratch scratch::: gahhh!

@blueberry_kid Update your profile then, kiddo ;)

No. They say that I’m a bad person, I’m a bitch, I get angry easily, I’m always talking, I never take anything seriously, I’m rude, I scare them, etc. I couldn’t care less about what they say, but, they’re right. I am bad. But I always help the people I love, I try to be there for them when they need me, I give them presents, and I listen to what they have to say. That’s if I love someone. If I hate someone..okay I’m not gonna say what happens in that case..

Anyway, I really like me, and I don’t care about what others think about me. I love being who I am.

ps. Don’t hate me

@Plucky : But I said I didn’t have fleas!

Yes I have but they are just for me :)

Absolutely, but I’m working to improve all of them. I have trouble with people who aren’t trying to improve their flaws.

Sure. Tons of them. Wouldn’t life be boring if we were all perfect?

Everyone has flaws. I quite like my flaws and yes, They’re endearing to me.
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I’ve never really ever actually fired a hadouken at an oppenent in a street fight.. not successfully anyway..

Nope. Got them all worked out. Time to enjoy life.

Well I’m a geek, I could lose some weight, I can barely see ten feet in front of me without my glasses, I tend to talk a lot, I’m only about half an inch taller than five feet (and will never get any taller than that), I read a lot, I don’t have much of a life, and I can’t sit still. Ever. But those are all a part of me, and I’m proud of who I am. Although I am working on the weight thing.

Um… @laineybug , never think of being 5’ ½” a flaw. We’re not short, we’re gravity-proud.

@laineybug Psssssst. I’m only 5’2”, can’t see 5 feet in front of me without my contacts/glasses, and I need to lose weight. You are not alone, sister! =0)

@laineybug Reading a lot doesn’t belong on a list of flaws ;)

@laineybug We’re like twins! But being short isn’t bad. I’m 5“3.

one of my legs is a tad longer than the other, shhhhh.

I’m an unmarried, vegetarian who doesn’t want kids. Those 3 things alone seem to work people into a tizzy.

Math baffles me, I hate most new technology because it hates me, I have a terrible phobia about flying and I couldn’t care less about sports (except for figure skating and gymnastics) so I don’t fit in with most average Americans.

I don’t like Facebook and I only use a cell phone for emergencies, not for chatting. These 2 things seem to really bug people.

I have a hard time finding clothes that fit, because I have wide shoulders and my hips and waist are almost the same width (no hour glass figure here), although I’m not overweight, just more shaped like a boy. People never believe me when I tell them that I wear a size14 pants and XL sized blouses, because I’m only 5 ft 4 and fluctuate between 135 and 140 lbs. I look medium to small sized, but because of the width of my shoulders and the width of my waist, I have to buy sized 14’s that are usually for much larger women. It’s not fun to go to Target and know that I often will not be able to squeeze into a XL sized blouse because my shoulders are so wide. People often ask me if I’m a swimmer, even though I’m not.

Sometimes I’m too nice, too sweet, too caring, too smart, too confident, and too awesome. That is all!

I’ve been told by quite a few people, including my own mother, that I’m really stand-offish and seem ‘tense’. I never answer my phone and am really bad at making plans/keeping in touch with friends. I have ‘too many’ (hah!) cats. I’m very, very anxious most of the time and I guess I lack a bit of confidence. I tear up at some point during nearly every episode of Doctor Who. I procrastinate terribly and spend too much time online.