What makes you feel loved?

Quality time, definetly. I know when someone says they love you, they may or may not mean it. But quality time, for me, always sells it. Especially if they actually enjoy it.

I also really like it when a guy compliments me. It makes me feel really good about myself. I would show my love by being with them, staying around them, giving them an occasional gift, and loving them. I honestly just love quality time.

Sigh.

Since I’m single, I’d say it would be any of the 5 things mentioned: quality time, affirmative words, gifts, acts of service, and touch.

In past relationships, touch has been very important, but gifts were also greatly appreciated. I love to give gifts as well. I love giving inexpensive things that I dress up and make special.

Quality time was always important. Going out for coffee or to the beach with just the 2 of us was very meaningful. I absolutely love walks through the park.

I guess that acts of service would be the bottom of the list. I can’t think of anything off the top of my head that really stands out in this category from a past relationship.

I’m not even sure what “love” is, but things that have made me feel liked and wanted are things on that list, except for gifts. You can give a gift to anyone and it’s just shelling out money.

I’m not the best a giving certain things back, which also helped me realize that I probably never have been in love, but who knows, people show love in different ways, and I certainly have felt very deeply for someone.

One thing I always mess up is “showing my love”. I’m not big on cheesy, lovey dovey words and expressions. It reminds me of being a teen and I just think it’s lame.

Sometimes schedules would conflict so that we may not see each other for a day or two, but when we finally have free time, I may want to not do anything, while does want to do something, or I may have gotten an offer from the guys to go out before she came with her plans (or I guess I was supposed to go to her first…).

People have shown me love, and I either have not reciprocated enough, or shown full appreciation for what was shown to me. There was only one woman I really did go out of my way for, though.

I mean, I’m single too but, you know. That’s what I’d wish for…

I will never forget waking up on Valentine’s day to a quiet whirring noise. I opened my eyes and there was a plastic model of a dirigible that had a message window blinking the message “I love you.” My husband and son had built it together for me.

What makes me feel loved—being accepted, understood, my thoughts and feelings respected, my autonomy respected, being equals and most of all being appreciated. What makes it even better, laughing and conversing together.

What I’ve learned is that none of this will happen if I don’t first consider myself deserving of this. I can’t hope it will happen (it won’t), I have to expect that it will happen, and it will. :D

Physical touch definitely.

I feel loved when my wife anticipates my needs. Like when I come home from work and she has made exactly what I was wanting. She reads my mind like that.

In this relationship my wife is definitely the giver and lord knows I don’t cook. I show my love in being her support, the person she can trust. I let her know how much I appreciate what she does for me and that she will always be needed and wanted.

Physical touch and words of affirmation. Then quality time.

Acceptance, sacrifice and forgiveness.

(I was thinking of my parents when trying to answer this, but it definitely applies to my husband as well.)

I feel loved when I know I can count on them no matter when. [of course I’m not gonna go there in the middle of the night and ask for 50k Euro just because I need some] And after knowing I can count on then comes the moments when I see it to be real. Nothing can compare to really close friends in which you can read “For you I would do anything”.

Quality time, definitely I mean I love spending time with my loved one, it might be just a day in bed watching tv together or going out together. I love it when he tickles me or gives me a gentle kiss while hugging me. It’s the little things that make me melt for him :P.

A good hug and appreciation for all that I do for them. Not that I ‘expect’ anything, but nothing is worse when they voice their opinion that I don’t do anything for them…that is pure BS! ;)

Their actions.
I treat people the way they treat me.

Every now and then my boyfriend will do/say something that makes me realise just how well he knows me. I love that.

Also, sometimes when we have sex he will hold my hand. I feel very loved and safe in that moment.

I like the options listed by that website.

Quality time
It definitely makes one feel special when one’s SO makes an effort to set some time apart to be with one. Social situations are nice and all, but there’s nothing like some nice one-on-one time.

Words of affirmation
I guess this is a part where, to me, it’s more important to be a giver than a receiver. Making my partner feel better with my words is a very big thing in my book. It makes me feel loved when my words are trusted and appreciated.

Receiving gifts
Who doesn’t like receiving gifts? In the past, gifts have had greater meaning when the person giving it shows attention to the receiver’s unspoken preferences.

Acts of service
Pretty self-evident why this is someting that would make one feel loved.

Physical touch
An extremely important part, and also self-evident. However, I’d say that this concept should be broad enough to include voice and body language. There are subtle variations in the tone of voice that make one feel so good. And the sparkle in the eyes… ah, that can’t be faked. Lastly, this song comes to mind.

Unexpected things: “thinking of you” texts, “saw this and thought of you” gifts, “just to make you smile” flowers.

Caring about the things that are important to me (like reading the better part of a 60+ page, boring, technical document I wrote).

Cute pet names. Lots of them.

And the most important one is touch. I want to be touched all the time. I’m a touch addict. My favorite feeling in the world is waking up just a little bit in the middle of the night and being held.

I’m not very good at reciprocating in most categories. I never buy gifts, I need a lot of alone time, and I don’t give a lot of compliments. Lots of physical affection, though, always.

Maybe intimate touching? No physical crap, just cuddling, rubbing, you know…nothing crazy.

Oh, I forgot to add a fairly obvious one: being told “I love you”, and knowing the other person means it.

@bob_, I like that one too.