NSFW What is the key to sexiness for you?

Before I’ve talked to someone, I notice height, eyes, smile, and hair. After talking to someone, intelligence and humor

Confidence and intelligence. People who are the life of a party (or gathering or whatever).

Cleanliness, intelligence, humor, confidence, and a vibrant personality makes me weak in the knees.

Intelligence, yes but not just knowledge, but the ability to navigate around different disciplines and use their knowledge in flexible and creative ways, a witty sense of humor, intensity, a way with words (I’m ‘linguaphile’ after all), integrity, honesty, and the cojones to be able to handle my strength and personality.

Intelligence and beauty is a lethal combination. I am so turned on by this woman it’s not even fathomable. I want her so bad…..

Lingerie.

yes. I am that shallow.

Acquiescence.

The light in a persons eyes. Ever see that glint that some people get in their eyes. I find that extremely sexy.

Confidence, Humour, Intelligence.

Confidence, quick wit, intelligence, kindness and compassion. Doesn’t matter what the package is…if you have those points I’d probably develop an attraction to you. Alas, I’m closed for that kind of business.

You can just feel when things are going to get sexy…

Sexiness is rather suggestive because a woman can be sexy in a potato sack if she wears it in a way that conveys sex, or allure. When the fat hits the skillet, no matter what people say it is all pie in the beginning. There are two things that trump personality, ambition, attitude, etc; that is your eyes and your ears. Part of what makes a woman sexy is her voice. Even if she doesn’t look sexy in life, she can have a sexy voice that will raise a tent in your trousers easily. You can have a voice on an attractive face that will knock some of the pretty out of it. What is the first hook is looks, The ”plate value”. What that is from person to person varies, and from culture to culture. If she has very long hair almost to her arse and neat straight if not totally straight and jet black, I find that sexy. But it is not complete in itself, she has to have a full petite to slender athletic frame. I find short women more sexier than tall woman. Small boobs but natural and firm. She also looks killer in a set of 5in pimps. Most anything else is after that. Eye color make little difference, though I lean to chocolate brown eyes, blue, hazel, green, Gray, etc will do. One the outer vestige gets my attention, I then concentrate on the inside to see if it matches or best the outside. Like a pie, it is not good if the crust is flakey to the touch, the color golden brown, but the filling is only half way to the top, stiff and not very sweet. The pie looks good you take it, but you didn’t get it to look at, you got it to eat. So the inside is actually more important, but the outside helps you get there and brings a certain joy to your mind before you sink your fork into it. If she is logical, compassionate, reasonable, real, honest, tempered, thoughtful, gentle, kind, considerate, genuine, respectful, her sexiness increases.

Charisma- not clownishness

Intelligence- social more than bookish

Physical health- trim body shape more than bulked by weights

Confidence- not arrogance

A sense of humor, a little lipstick, hot legs and knowing how to kiss.

I only care about big boobs.

She says something nice about me.

Her appearance says, “It’s more important to me to be interesting than to be conventional, but I’m not stupid, either.”

She gets my jokes.
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Boobs are nice, of course.

Attitude, looks, and conversation

Sexiness is really relative…to what one finds sexy.

Beautiful eyes, a killer smile, a ready laugh with a fab sense of humor which to me is wit (borne out of intelligence) rather than bathroom humor or humor at someone else’s expense. Someone who actually lets me cry first (without trying to fix me) and isn’t intimidated by raw emotion. (That cancels out most men in Great Britain by the way.) He should smell nice…soapy or squeaky clean or wears a good French boutique cologne (rather than, say, an old bottle of Aramis that has been sitting on the bathroom windowsill so long it’s acrid.) And intelligence is really sexy to me…an ability to converse on multiple subjects. (No intelligence? Dealbreaker.) So is a kind heart with inner strength…there is a balance. (See my Alpha Male answer to a previous Fluther question: link )

And of course, he has to love books, music, and counting shooting stars. Oh, and it would also help if he was besotted by me as opposed to…well…someone else. That would cancel out sexiness for sure

Sexy to me: Tip-top choice is: link followed by link or link or link

Classic Sexy: link

Not sexy to me: link or link or link or (egads) link

And if any of you guys on this last list are in the Fluther…deepest apologies…but I’m sure none of you need to worry about my opining of no importance

Humility….. and sexy eyes.

@jonsblond….....Superb answer….!

@DarlingRhadamanthus: Wow! If I knew how to make fancy red “links” then I might have picked the very same men for examples as you did.

I’m not alone. I’m not alone. I’m not alone :D

@DarlingRhadamanthus Sweet holy moly, you Brits….. I am surprised your ”not sexy” list did not have Brad Pitt, Taylor Lautner, Justin Timberlake, Arron Carter, and those types, you know, the blokes the average Yankee gals fall off their arse for. The guys you chose they would not have on the Bachelorette, except maybe Depp, Surely, they didn’t have as great a personality and charm as the Pitt and Lautner types. How else would they possibly get passed up for those Pitt type of men. We all know women only look at a mans charm and personality 1st.

Sorry about that, they say sarcasm is the dish best served dry, but I think it makes a point to how suggestive sexy it, or can be.

By the way, WB home :-)

Confidence without arrogance.

Tough to put into tangible terms for me. It is something that is just felt.
It might be the way a person smiles, to their wit, charm, clothing, walk, eye contact, intelligence, endearing traits.

Just don’t know what specifically it may be, but when I feel that uber sexy hit – uffda; oh la la!

@Hypocrisy_Central….My list of “sexy” includes men that are “sexy” because of the whole package. I have never picked a man just by looks (ever), though there have been some very lovely men in my life. Yanks don’t necessarily pick the “Brad Pitt” men either. (Though Brad is a nice guy.) Most women enjoy men that are pleasing to the eye, but they don’t have to be gorgeous. For me, I prefer a bit of the unexpected. That’s why my list had Colin Firth, Paolo Nutini, Adrian Brody and Depp. They are interesting and thoughtful, creative guys. You’re right, they aren’t “stunners”. But they have that “it” that does it for me. (So does John Cusack, but I forgot to toss him in there.) My not sexy list? Its fairly obvious…lots of looks…but not a lot of substance. I like substance .

I would have also put Arnold Schwarznegger in that “Not Sexy One Bit” list (who this week won my award for “Most Mean-Spirited T-Shirt” when he donned a t-shirt that read: “I Survived Maria”. As if his ex-wife hadn’t been put through enough.) But he probably would have been on a list titled: “Not Even if the World Ended and We were The only two people on Catalina-That’s How Not Sexy I find Him.”

@Neizvestnaya…I promise, I promise, I promise….you are not alone.

@blueiiznh….Uffda…that’s exactly how it is! :) You should know that…lol

@Blackberry….Your choice knocked the socks off me! LOL!! You think you hold your own wiht her? You are a brave, brave man….and my respect for you has rocketed! lol

@DarlingRhadamanthus I would love chance to prove myself to her. :(

@Blackberry…. I think you would do just fine! (Write to her…! Don’t be shy!)

A lurve score of at least 25k.

There is no “key” no specific tangible thang. When you see it, feel it, experience it, you just kind of know & boy what a fucking rush!!

The key to sexiness for me is how she plays. There are many different ways of playing, but usually they involve humor—a kind of wryness and self-mocking that is serious at the same time. I think my favorite kind of sexiness is when she looks at me and sees me staring intently at her and she knows my desire and she smiles and primps and vamps.

I know she knows how clicheed this is, and yet it works anyway, because we both know and we don’t care. This is between us both, and so we play with it and…. well, just thinking about it gets me aroused, shall we say.

I suppose some people would say she knows how to “work it.” She has a really hot body, but even if she didn’t, her humor and intelligence and ability to work it would have me wrapped around her finger.

I’ve been with other women, some more sexy than others. One, in particular, had a kind of quiet sex appeal. She wasn’t noisy and the clues she left about how she was feeling were very subtle, but I only needed to touch her skin or have her lie down next to me in order to get turned on.

The naked women in porn look exciting, but if they only mouth the cliches without throwing and sense of real liking into it, I might as well shoot the computer. But it’s really not the same at all. It’s great as a masturbatory tool, but it’s not really sexy. Sexy has a completely other dimension compared to porn. Any porn. No matter how good.

That dimension is made up of the way a woman acts in the world—how she thinks; how she acts; how she communicates with body and word. Her eyes dance; she dips her shoulder; looks from under her bangs. She shows me how much she wants me, and that desire that she has for me is the biggest turnon ever. No porn actess can do that. You have to be live and it has to be totally personal. Just for me. That’s truly sexy. That’s what gets me tied in a knot around her finger.