@RealEyesRealizeRealLies Well said! IMO it is broader than that though.
(continued in a response @wundayatta): It is not just about communicating directly what you experience rather than what you think (well that is the next stage at least) – the most important part, initially, is the understanding and the will of both communicators (to use a simple 1 to 1 model here) to actually give up those communication barriers. I think the biggest hurdle in this respect is trust, or lack thereof – wouldn’t you say?
Regarding McKeena‘s Visible Language and VE, take a look at Edward De Bono‘s Language Code I read about it years ago and just remembered about the concept. Simply brilliant for clarifying and very “pro-meta” :-)
@JilltheTooth : Seems like our instinct to form a “tribe” in a crisis. I notice more and more that these types of situations, in which we are forced to rely on others foster a more (truly) honest approach to communication. I think same would ring true of people in a state of shock or with PTSD – I reckon one is more prone to be honest and to meta-talk when in danger, or in extremely stressfull situations. Wonder what the trigger for meta-communication could be for being in calmer states of mind…
@CunningLinguist : I could not agree more :-) The problem IMO boils down to the “person” fearing ostracism of sorts – one of the downsides of organized society I think. People like to forget they are mortal, and cling to whatever seems to make up this “self”, this “person” – in this respect how can you meta-talk with others if you don’t know yourself on that fundamental level?
@efritz : It might be possible, I suppose it depends on the level of personal enlightenment openmindedness of whomever it is you are trying to meta-talk with. Usually as people get older, they tend to get entrenched deeper and deeper in their beliefs, there are of course exceptions to that rule, but such truly openminded people are scarce it would seem.
Before attempting to meta with someone new, I like to ask them if they would like it in the form of a zen koan – the cup of tea, people like stories and I always liked this one for its succintness. That is one way of introducing the subject :-)
@downtide : I think the meta-mode of thinking should be taught in schools somehow, along with other interesting tools like the six thinking hats, or mindmapping etc. :-) I’m positive there are plenty of people out there who would welcome the idea, but are either unaware of it, or are too buried in their social-construct, their “person” to try that.
@Carly : no problems here :-) change the browser you are using perhaps?
@linguaphile : Jolly good quote, dear fellow! Pip, pip! ;-) Artists of sorts do tend to be more open-minded about life, and how to interpret it – “There are no facts, only interpretations” as Nietzsche said. Btw. I have such a friend too, but she is also very strongly influenced by religion, so it gets… interesting at times :D
@Everyjelly : Do you think we could get Fluther to include a “MeTalk” category to our question asking? Or, more importantly, would you welcome this new idea?