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How to deal with reasonless depression?

Asked by Written (825points) August 14th, 2011

Alrighty. So. I’m in highschool. Write that down. I’ve been in love for about 7–8 months, but those feelings went away back at January of February. Long story short, I’m simply feeling bored in life.

I have literally never made an action that I could/should be depressed about, I live the life I want I really have no regrets, I have everything I want, amazing friends, family that supports me, great school, everything someone should/could want.

But I’m just bored. And that’s what strange about it. Shouldn’t depression arise when you have a problem, something you can’t solve etc.? I think that for someone my age, I think way too much about things that really shouldn’t occupy my mind, like death, the meaning of life, and so on.

I mentioned the ‘love’ thing, because, prior to that, things were perfect. No depression, just happiness. I mean, things can never be perfect, but back then, ideas like ‘what’s the meaning of life’ and so on didn’t occupy me. Then, I got in love. And that lasted for much longer then I hoped. Listening to depressive music [back then, not now], being depressed, feeling like sh**, just all bad around.

Most nights involved me, a depressive playlist, no lights in the room, and opened window, just looking out at the sky, thinking. And that went on for hours, literally every night.

Nowadays, that’s all gone. But it’s like, that depression, back then, has, somehow managed to stay in me. The love is gone, but it stayed. Don’t know how, or why. Because of my love failure? Maybe. Don’t know. I honestly don’t feel like that should/could be the problem.

I’m like the guy from 500 Days of Summer, played by Joseph Gordon-Levvit. It’s a story about a guy who believed his life would never be fulfilled until he met the right girl. [so he was pretty depressive about it until he met her] Awesome movie by the way.

Any ideas? Did anyone else go through this? Is this whole mess the hormones fault? I don’t know. I do think about it, every night, even so know, at this hour. [3:17AM in my time zone] I just got up to ask the question, hopefully, get some answers by the time I got up. :) Thanks in advance.

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marinelife's avatar

Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. It has nothing to do with what’s going on in your life.

But left untreated, it can be really debilitating.

Take the Mayo Clinic’s Depression Self-Assessment.

Then see your family doctor. He will need to monitor your medication carefully because of your age.

filmfann's avatar

You’re a teenager. Teenagers have unbalanced brain chemestry, and it often makes them depressed.
Depression is a part of growing up. Even adults (like me) often suffer from depression, with no idea of the cause. It’s best to just ride it out, or use it to increase your creativity.

josie's avatar

Exercise.

Afos22's avatar

Go on a vacation or get a job if you’re bored. I used to think about death and get depressed too, so you aren’t alone. And, if I’m guessing right, its because you take a scientific stand point on it. Which, is quite depressing, until you step back and look at all of life from the outside. Other than that, you can exercise as @josie suggests. You could take up a hobby. Or you could smoke a little cannabis and relax.

lemming's avatar

Get some books on philosophy if you want to continue with this interest in ‘the meaning of life’ etc, every intelligent person does a bit of philosophizing from time to time throughout their lives. I think you have too much time on your hands. Get a job, explore some interest, take up a sport. Don’t be depressed about this love thing being over, don’t now think ‘been there, done that, it was pointless’...there are different types of love, different depths of love, different ‘realness’ etc.

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar

Please don’t drug yourself…only if it is the last resort. Go see a naturopathic doctor who can help you get well naturally and without invasive chemicals. The idea of telling a teenager to take drugs..I can’t even say what I want to say, that just upsets me so much. “Oh, you are sick…go get a drug and anesthetize yourself…don’t feel anything….just go blank.” Yes, join the Prozac Nation. Here is a study that shows how ineffective those drugs are by the way, they don’t even work. (The kids at Columbine were all on anti-depressants, by the way, how did that work out?) link

I realize that anti-depressants for strong psychosis..is often needed, okay? But I would look at every other alternative first for a teen.

I really would like for you to go see someone to talk to…go see a good (good) therapist and talk about how you are feeling. Go see someone that is a Jungian analyst who will help you by guiding you through your dreams. (Start keeping a journal of your dreams.) You said your family was helpful…so please ask them to get someone that you can talk to.

Change your diet (are you eating a lot of sugar? Did you know that the chemicals in the processed food you are eating can make you depressed?)
So, start by cleaning up your diet. Consider going raw. Check out link or his videos on YouTube to start with. There are lots of other people you can Google…“raw foods”. Or just stop eating white flour, white sugar, and any sort of processed foods and/or cokes. Concentrate on good whole food.

Secondly, consider taking a meditation/yoga class. Meditation will help you get centered and balanced as will a good yoga practice…that does incorporate some spiritual aspects. Here is a wonderful explanation of depression by Pema Chodron (a Buddhist teacher): link . Please view this. You can Google her name and find other videos by her.

I think that you are a very thoughtful, bright, creative young person. You have a destiny to fulfill, you just don’t know it yet. When you are close to making a breakthrough, things look a bit bleak…that’s why it is important that you get some resources (like above) to shake you out of your malaise.

I also feel that you are a bit of a “deep thinker” as @lemming said above…read some books. I recommend “The Disappearance of the Universe” by Gary Renard and or “The Power of Now” by Eckhard Tolle or “The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho. (All available on Amazon.)

Stop listening to depressing music. Stop watching any horror films/depressing films or playing video games (that can be depressing, too.) Make yourself your own project. To come back and come back stronger. I know that a relationship is hard work and when you break up (no matter whose fault it was) is really tough. You are still getting over this relationship, it meant a lot to you. So go easy on yourself.

Go ask for hugs from your family….those are always healing. Write down ten things you really like about yourself (and put them where you can see them every day.)

Please remember…you were put on earth for a purpose. You are absolutely loved and cherished by virtue of the fact that you were born! No one girl/guy/friend or anyone else can take that true, fulfilling transcendent love away from you…it’s yours by birthright. You are loved beyond measure! Always remember that.

YARNLADY's avatar

Reasonless depression is almost always caused by a hormone imbalance. Consult your doctor to rule out any medical cause.

Bagardbilla's avatar

This bit come from Nothing but personal experience!
WALLOW in it! Wridth in the mire… Swallow the excrement of destiny until you realize you deserve nothing better…!
It’s only then you’ll see that you are a MAGICAL creation of the Universe!
Nothing more, and by God nothing less LESS!
To this day we have searched the nether reaches of the Known Universe, and have yet to touch “the face of God”... The closest we’ve come is by looking in the mirror! So…
Know that you’re a spiritual timeless being stuck in a finite universe, not of your choosing… But that’s OKAY, for we’re all here as well.
This TOO shall pass, my friend. (... and we’ll all be here walking along side you…).

Hibernate's avatar

Spend some time with friends or family. If it’s not enough go work as a volunteer somewhere.

Written's avatar

Thanks for the answers. :) Yeah, drugs and such are really a last resort. Not that I have anything against them but, as I said, last resort.

I do have waaay too much free time. The school I’m in, is pretty easy, so, even when I’m supposed to be under some kind of pressure, I’m really not. Thanks a lot again guys. [and gals :)] I’ll see what my options are.

As for reading books about the meaning of life, I’d rather not. The more I think about things like that, even if I somehow manage to get myself and answer, it’s still a pretty depressive topic to even think about. So, I’ll try to skip that as much as I can. :)

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