Is having a reputation important in a relationship?

It depends. If my girlfriend was known to be a heroin user, there will be follow up questions.

I wouldn’t dump a bf over a bad reputation but I would probably avoid him becoming a bf in the first place if I knew of his bad rep. I can say this now having gone through hell with someone who I learned had a very bad reputation… after the fact.

Unless you’re feeling up to a “project” you don’t mind wasting your youth and faith in humanity on, pass. Too many nice people out there who won’t make you despise all the things you once liked about yourself.

I once dated someone in highschool that my parents as well as
every single one of my friends could not stand
thougha few supported me regardless-
he turned out to be a terrible boyfriend,
however i still think in general he’sa decent guy.
I think that people should judge for themselves and not
always just go by what someone else says.

If a person you are dating is making you happy and you are doing the same for them. Then why worry about what other people think or say. Remember misery loves company.

A good reputation is a must, if the relationship is to be on solid ground.

When I started to date my wife, her brother had me checked out, thoroughly. I did not know this until later in our marriage. He asked a hundred questions to all my friends, to make sure I met his standards and reputation, before dating his sister. I am proud to say I must have passed inspection and he gave his approval.

So, yes. Either persons good reputation is of great importance, especially if marriage is somewhere in the future for both partners.

Eh, no. Not unless it’s something to the extreme, like them turning out to be a murderer, a pedophile or some crazy business like that.

Never thought about it. I generally don’t get along with people who’d tell me any such crap about the person I’m dating.

Of course reputation is important. It tells you how reliable someone is. That’s why they always give scores on internet commercial sites.

I think if he or she has a reputation (that can be verified, and they’re continuing down this path) of being a cheater, or a player or a liar or a druggie or an abuser of people or animals or an alcoholic or a general meanie or someone that doesn’t follow through with his promises or avoids taking responsibility for things that should be his or her responsibility, then you’ve probably got a real problem on your hands.

So yes, reputation does matter, but it also matters that you find out if the reputation is actually true.

It matters, but it may not be the whole picture. I’d at least give them a chance to explain themselves.

If the information a person tells you about themselves at the early stages of a relationship conflict greatly with the facts as known by others likely to know that person, then be wary, ask more questions, especially of that person directly. Unless you are truly satisfied with the answers you get, then walk away.

Not for me. It doesn’t matter if the other person has one or not.

I don’t judge someone but past behavior does tend to repeat if not dealt with properly such has if someone was known to have beaten someone I would be weary about them if they went to raise a hand to me and walk immediately out if it happened to me without second thought. I don’t believe anyone should hit but if truth be told it does happen and it does repeat if the person who does the hitting doesn’t get help for this.

No. I would get to know the person on his own merits. Maybe he’s just misunderstood.

Well, having a good reputation helps. But if your partner doesn’t, I think its unfair to shrug them off. Make sure to keep the relationship honest. People do change. If your bf/gf knows that you have, then the past shouldnt matter. good luck :)