(NSFW)How does one keep one's homones in check when people we "want" are around?
I have a friend whom I find incredibly attractive. Not just physically, but intellectually. He has so much in common with me, and I feel as though he has experienced and researched things I’m very interested in learning about. I feel I could learn a great deal about life from him. He seems to have a deep inner wisdom which I am very attracted to. However, we are going opposite directions in life right now( He’s spreading his roots in this county, and I’m pulling mine up). We also have very different communication style. I tell things like they are, and like straightforward communication, and he’s got this whole mysterious hints thing going on that drives me a little bit crazy. We’ve talked about it and agreed that it is not for the best. Anyway… when ever I am around him my hormones go all insane. I get ridiculously horny, and I start getting all stupid and smitten. I really want to pursue a strong platonic friendship with this person. How can I make the hormonal/in love bullshit go away so that I can just be friends with this person? Is there a way to “turn it off”?
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Good old classical conditioning may have an answer for you.
You could pinch yourself hard, or think about rotting corpses, or something like that every time you feel attracted to him, and before you know it, you are conditioned to keep your horniness in check.
What could go wrong?
Ha! Don’t ask that question. It has a way of answering itself.
You two should totally have uncontrolled spastic sex, preferably on random items of furniture, statim.
Ah that would be so so wonderful, but would increase the unnecessary attachment. And now those images are stuck in my head… thanks a lot :/
I’m with @everephebe and I can add some perfectly delicious images if you wish.
You may regret this. What if you go through life and you never find someone who makes you feel the way this guy makes you feel?
I believe in giving yourself the opportunity to make mistakes. That’s how you learn what you want out of life.
I love it when people use the word “smitten.”
Go for it, girl! Have fun while the sun shines!
Nothing, really. Aside from condition, which just doesn’t sit right with me in this case. Just learn to correct and compensate if it really bugs you.
How about getting him a bottle of eau de rotting corpse lily cologne? ;-)
Condition your ass into bed with him! As @wundayatta said, don’t force things… There’s a reason why you feel the way you do, you may not consciously know it, but it’s there, especially in the pheramones! ;)
Yes, there ARE reasons. But there are also reasons to avoid such a situation… such as the fact that each of us really needs to be alone and independent at this moment, I personally need to learn not to fear being alone. I don’t think he’s all that attracted to me, and I’m moving away in a few weeks,so I don’t need to be creating an even stronger attachment than I already have.
I tie it to my leg, just around the thigh.
@Cruiser That would be myself, which is in fact awesome advice. (and an awesome song) So thanks!
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