Do you think he still likes me but doesn't want to chase me anymore?

Even though he said his feelings weren’t hurt, being rejected is a blow to men’s pride. Did you explain to him that you do enjoy spending time with him but you’re just not ready for a relationship? Why can’t you chase him to show him that you still want to spend time with him? That’s too bad he didn’t call on your birthday, but I really think he just forgot. I think you have the upper hand in this situation. Call HIM if you want to see him.

If you want this then you need to take the initiative and ask him out on a date. He took a risk by asking you out and you shot him down, so he’s not going to push things any farther because his ego is already bruised. So it’s fair to expect you to take a similar risk.

Worst he can do is say no, and if he does that’s a lesson learned for you. But really think about this first before asking. Are you positive you really like him? or you really like the attention?

You loved the attention. If I were you I wouldn’t bother starting a relationship with him. For now it might hurt but you’ll get over it. If he really liked you he would have never stop all that attention, or at least try to get another chance.

@sliceswiththings ok. Call it man pride but how do you call it when the woman wants all that attention? I don’t wanna be rude here.

Why don’t you call him? What can it hurt? You told him you didn’t want to date him, so he is taking you at your word and leaving you alone so he doesn’t get his hopes up or his heart broke by calling someone who isn’t interested. Call and tell him you’ve been thinking about him and you think you answered him too hastily and is he still interested.

Apart from being “hit in his pride” and “not wanting to get his hopes up”, he might also just not want to intrude too much. If I were rejected by a girl, I would take that as a strong hint not to keep asking her, and would rather consider that rude.

There’s only one person who can answer this question. You have to talk to him. You have to be willing to put your pride on the line, now. You should invite him to have coffee (or whatever) and sit down and tell him what you told us. Tell him you didn’t realize how much you cared for him, and would like to be his girlfriend now if he still wants you. Then be prepared to be brushed off. If you like the guy, you have to take some initiative and be willing to get hurt.

Aside from a television show of the same name, dating is not a game. If you look at it that way, you are likely to lose every time.

Decide what you want, and go for it. Figure out what you don’t want, and leave it alone. Stop trying to figure out what he wants, and simply ask him. He will either appreciate your straighforwardness, or he won’t. Either way, you’ll have your answer, and if he’s a decent guy, you’ll have him too.

I did this 3 weeks ago..after waiting many months—for different reasons.
He said no, kindly, and with excellent reasons, but he said no. And I liked hima LOT. A whole lot. and I’m 40 years old, not a teen.

But you know what?! that was 3 weeks ago. I was mostly SO proud of myself for texting and asking, asking should I call about this, the whole thing, ...than I was the polite turn down. Besides, I don’t see it being forever anyway, just for some legitimate timing issues.
Either way, it’s over now and I feel a freedom I could NOT get rid of until I ASKED him.
Good luck, you’re young, you’ve got some pride working, you’re scared…all of that. But just go ahead and DO it, it will make you so happy to simply TALK with him.

You saying no regardless of what he said did hurt. Why do t you invite him somewhere, just the two of you and then gauge how you feel about him and see if from this invite he sees it for what it is….an opportunity and see if he takes it.

what happened with this guy??