Are you quite self-destructive sometimes?

Mine is subtle. I sometimes eat in a self destructive way. Right now it’s under control. I have been on a diet and exercise plan, but I know that I have to stay on top of it or I could easily gain 50 or 100 lbs. It’s kind of like being an alcoholic. I have to admit that I must keep vigilant, because if I slip off the wagon, 1 day of over eating turns into two, which turns into a week, which turns into a month, and pretty soon it’s a year later and my feet hurt, I have no motivation and I am 50 lbs heavier. One day at a time, I need to focus on healthy diet and exercise. (Now, off to yoga.)

I’m not so much self destructive but I have absolutely no fear and do some really stupid things and then find out there are results that aren’t necessarily good.

@Judi I used to non stop eating chocolates but I’m getting better now. Mine is more emotional side of exploision…

@Adirondackwannabe Yeah I do that sometimes and then regret it afterwards… then now I start to control it, then it comes to the boiling point then I explose.

@Londongirl It was worse when I was your age. At least now I use my head a little more. When we’re young we think we’re bulletproof.

@Adirondackwannabe Well, I do try to control myself sometimes, but sometimes it was at boiling point and then it explosed, then I regret the things I said or behaved usually…

@Londongirl I have bad news for you. I’ve been working a long time on controlling my tongue when someone is annoying me. I still have problems with it.

@Adirondackwannabe I am the same here…

@Londongirl I’m guessing we’re both screwed. :)

@Londongirl Yes, most definitely. However, I’m learning to change that old pattern as it’s simply doesn’t add to my life in a positive light. It’s become easier over the years but when I was a teenager +, I struggled with self destructive behaviour quite a bit.
I suppose it comes down to addressing the underlying issues.

@stardust Yes, but when the pattern occured, I find it difficult to control it when it comes to emotion… I would go crazy. I do much better now to control it, but it is like accumative emotion, then it exposed…

Love is self destruction.
A leach.
Happiness suction.
I rhymed. :)

@AshLeigh Very romantic…. yes love can be self destruction…

@Londongirl Yes, I hear ya! Can be hard to control the emotions. Glad to hear you’re doing better with it now though :)
Do you write? I’ve found it can be really helpful in terms of preventing such build-up in the first place

@stardust Yes I do write dairy, when something bothering me… but I am getting lazy now… I need to find ways to distract me when the time emotions explosed though… I did try different things walking and all the stuffs, but when it explosed it was quite uncontrollable.

I’m less so now than when I was younger but that kind of urge stays within me.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I would think having kids would lessen that?

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Glad to know I’m not the only one have this emotional urge to expose sometimes… yes, I was very bad when I was younger, often stormed off when had an argument with bf…

@Adirondackwannabe To a certain extent, I guess. Never thought about it through that lens. I’m just a more focused, self-affirming person these days. @Londongirl I was never ‘bad’ ‘cause there’s no such thing really – I had issues with my parents, but that’s not where the self-destruction laid.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Well, I know my emotional issue has a lot to deal with my mom. But I just don’t know how to deal with mine when it comes to play.

@Londongirl You don’t always have to deal.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir What you mean by not dealing with it? I regret it after and thought I could have controlled it before… it always ends up like that…

@Londongirl Sometimes, that kind of process (the process of ‘I should deal but I can’t so I will regret’) only fuels the cycle. If you let go of pressure on yourself, you might not act out as intensely.

My pessimism and negativity can be quite self destructive without me realising it.

Very much so. Just when I think I have it under control I manage to prove myself otherwise.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I guess I do suppress myself on my emotions and when someone press that button, I just exposed.

@Keep on running Well, I think I am one of your kind and I know about it but cannot shake it off…

@Leanne1986 Moment of time that I thought I was under controlled then suddenly exposed.

Not often but sometimes when I’m enraged then I’ll want to smoke, really smoke instead of the few puffs every few days I’ve worked down to. Also, if there’s something nasty I want to eat like a fast food then I’ll let myself have it even though I know it’s going to sit badly. If there’s booze around, that’s the worst because I’ll drink into silly/giddiness and then go to sleep with the yuck food in my belly, marbling while I snore away like a calf in a box.

Only if you describe a wilingness to die for your family, friends, Country as “self-destructive.”

@Neizvestnaya Sounds like we have different self-destructive patterns…

@CaptainHarley Self-destructive is to be destructive for yourself… not suicidal.

Never been either. : )

@CaptainHarley I wish I could handle my emotions better… but sometimes those urges I cannot take control of.

I’m an alcoholic, I don’t care about my future and every night I hope I can die in my sleep haha. :D

@Symbeline OK that is self destructive yes.

Yeah I’m just being overly dramatic, but I do have a drinking problem that’s messing me up, yet I do nothing about it lol.

@Londongirl

You can, but it may take you awhile to learn how.