Do you remember the first time you fell in love?

Ugh. I don’t even want to think of it. The memories bring me happiness, then once I look at how things are now it brings sorrow.

It happened almost ten years ago…

…and then again 4 years later…

…and again back in March.

She’s my best friend too.

Sure. I thought we were invincible and blessed. We were young, healthy, talented, great looking and it seemed everyone wanted to help us succeed.

Of course I do. I thought she was a goddess. She felt like I put her on a pedestal. I worshipped her. I have more fun in her presence than I had ever had before. We took each other’s virginity and our love-making was amazing (what else would it be since I had no other experience).

Unfortunately, she got kind of freaked at the way I needed her and the way I revered her. She thought she wasn’t the person I thought she was. She thought she couldn’t live up to my expectations and so she used my graduation from college to dump me.

That was the worst experience of my life. I don’t think getting divorced and losing everything I have could be worse, emotionally, than what that break-up caused me. I will never forget that feeling. It is inextricably linked with my first love relationship.

It is not a happy story and yet, it is not an unhappy story. I learned so much, and I thought I would never ever have a love like that again. Fortunately, I was wrong. So very wrong. I am now happier with love than I have ever been.

‘Tis a gift to be simple
‘Tis a gift to be free
‘Tis a gift to come down where you want to be

God, am I lucky!

The first time I fell in love was August 17, 1988. I stayed in love with that guy on and off for the next 7 years. I was head over heels over him and no matter what happened, in my mind, I saw us together forever, one way or another. He was my playmate- nobody was able to make me laugh as hard as he did and we had so much fun together. We were extremely comfortable in each others’ presence and could read each others’ minds (to a point). I put him on a pedestal, but he was a very dishonest, cowardly guy. He didn’t tell me the truth about many things and only told me what he thought I wanted to hear. Instead of being honest with me when things got awkward, he would disappear.

He disappeared on me a total of 4 times in that 7 years. The first time, it was because he wanted to move to California for a few months, but wanted to get back together. The second time, it was because I was pregnant. The next two times, both times, he wanted to get back together, so I did to see if we could work it out for the baby’s sake. After the 4th time, he married another girl that he got pregnant. It took me a long time, but I finally came to terms with me being in love with an illusion. I still do remember the feeling like it was yesterday and still smile at the positive memories.

I found out last year, he’s exactly the same, if not worse. @wundayatta, as Garth Brooks says: “Thank God for unanswered prayers” :)

Yes. At first I worshipped him from afar. Then I finally met him and he was even more beautiful. Unfortunately I was to shy to pursue a relationship so I let him go.

Really fell in love?

That would have to be in Japan, about 8 years ago when I went there for a visit, when a really, really pretty girl caught my eye. The pursuit was on, and I was hot on the chase! Love came next, then marriage, then offspring. The love is still as wonderful as the day I vowed to make her mine.

I remember my first crush, and then my first lust which happened to be the twin of my first crush. Ahh, the good old days. So sweet. I was 14 and then probably around 15 for the lust part. I know you asked about my first love but at the time I thought for sure what I felt was love.

Yes. It’s the strongest emotion I have ever felt and not always in a good way. Sometimes it’s downright scary.

i knew he was my soulmate the minute i saw him. Cant explain it. I guess it was the hellenistic light that shown on his face as he stared at me with those lemon green eyes. Boy did something hit me. london. 2006.