Slightly NSFW- Do you distinguish between people you want to have sex with, and people you want to have a relationship with?
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Yes. Some women stimulate me only physically, and other women stimulate me physically and mentally. I can’t have a real relationship with someone I only feel passionate about when I have an erection.
No. That’s a secondary thing to me. First and foremost, I distinct between those who want to bust my teeth in and those who don’t lol.
For me personally, I’m the type of person who would never even consider having sex with someone just for the sake of having sex. So although sex and relationships are two separate, distinct things, for me, I need them to go together. I’ll even go so far as to say that I need to be in love with the person too.
Of course. Some people are just sexy. I have no interest in dating them, I just find them sexually attractive physically and/or mentally. They don’t fall into the same category as people I would date. It’s just a different personality type and/or look overall, for me.
At this time in my life, I want someone I can have a relationship with and eventually sex. When I was younger, it was a different story.
There are only three kinds of people out there, those I wanna have sex with, those I don’t and those I want to Fluther with! : )
Yes and no.
There is the group I would have sex or a relationship with (female) and those I would have a non sexual relationship with (male).
If you are female, and I am single, and you are disease free, you could get me tempted in to having sex with you with quite some ease. It does not matter of you are 18 and hot, or a big fat hairy woman in her mid 50’s. Curiosity and perversion would get the better of me.
However, the only thing I am interested in now days is a long term relationship. So there is not really a kind of person I would just want to have sex with anymore.
Well, I can have sex in my head with a number of women. In the space of an hour today, first at the gym (she was 19) and then at the Fedex store (she was about 48), I was passionately in love with both and could imagine myself having sex with both. On the saner side and in real life, she’s got to have a lot mentally and linguistically for me to be interested.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir i am really wondering if people trade one for the the other, but don’t tell anyone
@Symbeline i am pretty sure everyone knows you can kick their ass, so no worries.
I believe the word you mean is “distinguish,” not “distinct.”
@jca you are probably correct.
Yes. People I just have had sex with are sexcapades versus people I chose to make relationships with, live with, make memories with.
@gailcalled you are right. I should give the poster their due.
@jca, I defer to you mastery of the language. After a drink or two, my curiosity prompted a question I should have proofread more thoroughly. You are absolutely correct in your grammatical knowledge.
Yes. I have had sex-without-relationship arrangements that were very good, and some that were not so good.
I would not describe any of it as just sex. Sex is always intense, just sometimes in different ways.
When I was younger I thought that men who had sex with me cared about me, and I learned that lesson real fast.
When I was a little bit older I thought that when I had sex with men I had power over them, and often enough I still think that is true. But I am not all that old, yet. I might change my mind about that one.
@nikipedia It’s only if you’re their only means for sex that you have the power lol.
Looks are enough for just sex but to be in a relationship with someone you need a lot more than just looks.
Now that I think more about it, looks alone aren’t enough unless it is an instant attraction kind of scenario where you have virtually no non-physical interaction with the person. There could be someone physically perfect but personality wise seriously flawed (IMO), for example, and I would no longer be attracted. That clarified, my personality standards are lower for “just sex” but higher for “relationship”, and my looks standards are lower for “relationship” but higher for “just sex”. Does anyone else operate like this?
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