How should I deal with seeing my ex?

I would ignore him unless he approaches you. Then take your cue from what he has to say.

It does not sound like there is any chance of you getting back together.

Yeah. Sometimes I wish there was. But he’s got some growing up to do.

Find something better to do. IMO you are being set up by your ex and his friends.

What do you mean by set up?

Sounds like one of my ex boyfriends. Ignore him, if a guy treats you like that give him a taste of his own medicine and ignore him, he’ll get the hint that if he wants to talk to you he needs to man up. If he does that and ypu’re agreeable to his apology then go from there but don’t expect a best case scenario with this. See what happens, make sure to be with someone like a friend that you can ignore him with.

I would decline the invitation from the ex’s friend to go to their show. Just don’t go. Even if everybody else you know is going, just don’t go. Find something else to do, then do it. Let the lead singer know that you would like to go, but it would be very awkward and uncomfortable to have to face your ex, like that, under the circumstances of him having been kind of an ass towards you.

Just curious, does hour ex’s best friend have any romantic interest in you? Even if he does, just decline the invitation and ask him if he’d (the best friend, nice guy dude) if he’d like to go out for coffee sometime (without the ex being there).

Since you probably need to go to your friend’s sweet 16 party, just hang in the background while the band is playing (don’t even get up to dance, unless you are way in the back where the ex can’t really see you) and just avoid talking to the ex unless he comes up to you first. If he does talk to you first, let him know that you might be open to talking the next day, but the party is for your friend and you want to be there for her and you’ll talk to him later. If the ex’s best friend talks to you, do whatever you think is comfortable, including asking him to talk to you away from the ex. Try not to just sit there and brood and try to make lots of conversations with the other party goers, both male and female if it’s coed, but try not to make any kind of spectacle of yourself. Less is more. Come a little bit late, and leave a little bit early. Be very nice to the birthday girl so that your drama doesn’t impact her party and fun time. Dress nicely, but try not to dress too conspicuously sexy or over the top. Be pretty, but not slutty. And if there is a the slightest chance of any alcohol or other drugs going around, stay stone cold sober! You don’t want to say or do anything that would draw negative attention towards you, or embarrass your friend at her birthday party.

Nope. There are no feelings between me and the friend. And other bands are playing at the show so I think I’m gonna try to go. I need to meet new people and have a good time. I’m trying to get my cousin to go with me.

Ummm…his best friend invited you to the one show and miraculously you are going to another of his shows…from all indications you are allowing yourself to be set up to be anywhere your ex is playing and IMO that is not good or you really want it to happen this way so you can be around him. There are soooo many other things you could do besides follow and old flames shadow.

@Cruiser I was kind of thinking the same thing. I remember (when I was a lot younger) when my ex played in a band, and I would secretly hope that he would be at these shows and parties. But I told everyone, that I didn’t want to see him or talk to him.