@thorninmud Honor is only irrelevant if you decide it is, but I think it has just changed in the context of modern times. As I see it, honor deserves credit for all forms of altruism (a perfect example being an anonymous donation to a charity). Unfortunately, the meaning of concepts such as honor, seem to have been twisted, and may be stigmatized (depending on who you listen to).
These days it is acceptable, even admirable, to be unyielding in the face of opposition. We hold on tight to our values because they keep us grounded. Therefore, in an election for example, it stands to reason that one should simply vote for the party that claims the same values as you – but therein lies the problem. What they’re saying, and what they’re doing, are often loosely connected at best. I think because honor has been mostly lost in the fray, it is much harder to tell who has all of our best interests in mind.
I’m short on time, so this is the paragraph where I explain how politicians are subject to corruption because conglomerates profit greatly from the pyramid scheme that is our economy. I go on to explain how lobbying (in politics and in the media) is destroying our country because of three facts: (1) money talks (2) educated people are better at rationalizing their actions (also known as deception) and (3) when we are distracted, we are more susceptible to the various influences that surround our daily activity (which is completely understandable when many of us have families to think of, and our electronic world is a nice escape from harsh realities). I wrap up by saying that we can change all of this by holding people and businesses publicly accountable for their actions, and having appropriate consequences (for example, if people stopped watching FOX saying that they wanted unbiased news, FOX would be forced to re-structure in order to regain an audience – I don’t think FOX should simply be shut down)
By giving an individual or organization our loyalty, we relinquish our own opinion to them. Our ability to discern right from wrong should not necessarily depend on any particular brand. The solution is simple in principle, but difficult in application – realize that we can never be too sure about someone else’s intentions (especially if they stand to gain power, class, prestige, or money), and we must be skeptical of anything that could do harm to others. Think about what is happening in this moment- is this in the best interest of humanity? If you answered “no, its for survival.”, that is way better than “no, it’s for the money, power, and bitches.”)
As I’ve said before, the problem isn’t that any one side is wrong – we can just be so pigeonholed that valid points get shot down simply because the overall message doesn’t align with ours. On Fluther, this type of response is removed for being a “personal attack” or “unhelpful”.
Honor, as a concept, is still a valuable mechanism to help us audit our own behavior; the only thing that has changed is that we care less when someone disputes our claims/actions. It is dishonorable to engage in useless squabbling in the face of mass poverty; lining your own pockets along the way. Instead, our uber-rich business and political leaders could choose honor – and use their vast resources to help pave the way to a better future for everyone.
Conversely, if they must prove they are worthy of leading, then as citizens we must also show that we’re capable of living in such a world. We must make steps to live with each other in harmony, instead of in competition (like our leaders) – which brings me full circle, back to the original question – No, civil discourse isn’t dead- it’s endangered.
If we could stop the constant inflammatory propaganda that’s skewing information and driving a wedge between us, we might be able to see that we really are mature enough to exist without incessant arguing. “United We Stand, Divided We Fall” – Of course the simplest answer to this problem is already a common (if not unpracticed) adage: the Golden Rule – We must learn to treat each others as we would like to be treated.
We have all defined our positions so thoroughly, there is little room for diplomatic maneuvering. This leads me to conclude that our beliefs could stand to be a little more elastic, and our judgments a little less harsh. Civil discourse is similar to the human journey – the goal is to enhance understanding…