What would you do if a good friend goes bad?

I would no longer try to make plans with them and phase them out.

I would try having a calm and reasonable dialog and see what happens. If he/she gets defensive, hems and haws or cannot otherwise talk about substantive issues, say “good-bye for now” and see what happens.

Friendships do ebb and flow; it’s hard to predict.

This happened to us recently…not with the cancelling, but the lying by omission and odd nay-saying. I talked to her and let her know how much I didn’t appreciate being lied to. She knew well that I would be there for her if she’d be open, honest and upfront.

Her odd behavior continued. It went to blatant lying for no apparent reason. I had it. The friendship is no longer. I made it clear that I would not continue a relationship under these circumstances.

It sounds like the friendship has run its course. The friend clearly has different interests.
If it was a guy I’d say he was dating your girlfriend – or your sister.

I’d probably phase it out as well. My boyfriend and I had a close friend in high school that we tried to reconnect with but he just didn’t seem interested. Sure, we’d talk to him online, we’d hanging with him over break, but when we tried to get him to spend time with us, he’d constantly cancel or have an emergency trip to Bass Lake or take 2 days to respond to a text or a Facebook message and I realized that he wasn’t interested. He had a new life and it’s not that he hated us or was trying to be a jerk, but his new life didn’t have room for us so we stopped contacting him and gee, he never contacted us once. That right there showed me that we cared a lot more about him than he cared about us.

Drop them like a hot potato.

Find out why. Address the issue, affirm the person. Deal with the reason, and move past it or if not possible on.

I’d go berserk, visit them, got him/her drunk then go out and do some bad things to .. [I’d rather not say.

Or found another way to make the relationship work. I don’t abandon friendships that easy [as long as it was a good one]. Picture this: If someone whom I know for 1–2 years and we had somewhat of a relationship and saw each other every other 3–4 months I wouldn’t care much about the relationship. BUT if we did a lot of things together and helped each other I started by trying to understand what’s going not so well in his/her life that he/she always cancels. If it’s about me or thigns I’ve done I’d try to make up for those.

Happened to me this past year. I quit trying to make plans with her and trying to talk to her. Now we rarely talk, but cutting her out of my life has made my life less stressful. It was sad to see a friend go, but I’m happier now than I was when struggling with our friendship, or lack there of.