Should I take my friend up on his offer of nursing school?

My friend basically picked me up and is giving me a helping hand. I just got out the Army and don’t have any money saved up. He is paying for everything (My room, food, etc.) He is helping me out a lot, and being a motivator. I just don’t know how to tell him I don’t want to be what he wants me to be….. I don’t want to come off like I am unappreciative.

I want a career helping people, healing them, but I’ve never been interested in medical practice. He says it’s good because I can make 20 dollars and hour after only a year of school. But I really don’t want to. I don’t know what to tell him. But I also don’t know what to do career wise.

There is one giveaway in your details of your question: ”This is not something I want to do. I don’t want to become an LVN.
That really is all you need to know, in my book.
Don’t pursue something where your heart isn’t.

@rebbel – I don’t know how I should tell him though…. He works in medical so I can see how he would want me to do that.. But I don’t know what else I can do which schooling is only for one Year ?

He wants me to do it so I can better myself and make my own money but…. I don’t know how to tell him it’s something I don’t see myself doing.

You are just going to have to tell him. Something like “Thank you for this wonderful opportunity you are trying to give me, but I am not the person for that type of job. I hate blood, needles and vomit. I see myself in the counciling end of helping people, and in the end, I have to be true to myself.”

@chyna – Thanks

@partyrock That what @chyna said is perfect.

@rebbel – I agree. Now it’s finding out what to do :( If there are schools that are only a year long. Thanks guys!

I say no. “I Don’t want to” is the key idea here.

What is worse, you turning him down politely now, or you wasting his money b/c in the end (or maybe in the beginning or middle) your lack of desire causes you to quit, fail, or something else . . . after the 30k has been committed?!

I think it’s respectful of his offer to turn it down now.

Also, free things aren’t really free. Keep that in mind.

Why do you feel pressured? Why do you think you have to follow his advice? You are your own person aren’t you?
But finding a job after graduating is? easier for a nurse. And may be he thinks you can get over your eeky feelings, just like phobias etc.

An LVN is equivalent to an LPN and doesn’t cost $30 K to earn. You can get it at most community colleges. Your whole post seems a little hard to believe.

@perspicacious – Why does my post seem hard to believe? It is 29k without loans or grants. With loans and grants in California, it’s 20K.

It’s been two months since you posted this question. Will you provide us with an update?

If it’s not too late, here is my two cents: take a look at becoming a care-giver. I just spent 2½ months with my mother in a hospital and rehab center while she healed from a broken leg. What I learned is that care-givers are hired to provide a quality of life. It sounds more to your liking.