What should I do about this long distance relationship?

That’s tough. A few years ago, I was in a long distance relationship. I was commuting from NY to Cleveland every weekend by train. Didn’t work out in the end…

Why do you need someone to tell you what to do here. You are free to do as you please. We cannot tell you what you want to do.

You say you agreed on the terms of being able to both see other people.
So, that is clear (I assume that if you discussed this you were both understanding and aware of the implications).
I miss you and can’t wait to see you can be romantically laden sayings, but they can also be said to someone who is ‘just’ your friend/family member.
The fact that you talk about betrayal when (possibly) dating others can mean, in my view, that you wished you hadn’t made that can see others deal, or it can mean that you feel (romantically) for the guy and if you would date an other, you’d maybe feel guilty?

Sounds to me like you feel trapped in this situation. If he comes back, would you be a couple? Would you be exclusive with him, or still want to be able to date other guys? Do you see yourself with him for a long time?

From what I have read that you’ve said above, I think you should be upfront and tell him this distance thing isn’t working for you, and that if he were present that the two of you wouldn’t be together. Don’t leave the guy hanging on that something is going to go on between the two of you.

After you’re honest with him, you can start dating other guys.

I think you should visit him or he should visit you, and you two should explore your feelings and see if it makes sense to continue on as if you are in a relationship.

Love doesn’t come around that many times in your lifetime, sometimes only once…I don’t know how inconvienient it would be, but maybe you should move.

Tell him the gist of what you’ve shared with us. Tell him you love him and it no longer feels right on your part to consider seeing others, ask him how he feels about that.

You both need to figure out if you would be willing to commute to see each other because online is no way to have a relationship, it just doesn’t work. There are just too many misunderstandings and not knowing how to take certain comments. If you can’t figure out how to have a relationship in person its not worth even trying…

First, you need to be honest with yourself. Do you really want a relationship with this guy? You said that at first you didn’t feel the same way about him as he felt about you, so what changed that?

Second, if you decide you definitely don’t want a relationship with him, you need to talk to him and make sure he’s aware of that. It almost sounds like he likes you so much that he may be willing to “take what he can get”, as in agreeing to whatever you say because he wants to be with you that much. If that is the case, you need to be careful that you don’t string him along. If you decide you do want a relationship with him, take some time to think about what the means in the terms of being long-distance. How long will the distance last? Will either of you be able to travel to see the other? Would either of you be willing to move to where the other is eventually to end the distance?

Third, once you make a decision, have the talk. Talk about what you want, ask what he wants, and go from there.

Long distance relationships can be successful if both people are really involved in the relationship. Good luck!

Thanks everyone.

@Seaofclouds I began to notice how wonderful he was to me and began to care. This is the thing. I am not sure if I am “in love” with him, but I do “love” him. I still think about being interested in other guys so I don’t know if this is a red flag, or if I am simply needing to control myself.

I will admit a long distance relationship would be tough on me, especially since we never even “dated.”

@rebbel Yes, I would feel guilty. I still stand by my “see others” deal but I feel I can’t because of the way he talks and texts me.