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Would you describe your idea of a perfect mate?

Asked by samwas (26points) September 7th, 2011

What is your dream man or woman like? What do they look like? Describe their personality.

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Jellie's avatar

Aaaaahhh… Well he would respect me, first and foremost. Very very important. Then he should trust me in my decisions. He should be a funny guy, he should not necessarily share my interests but shouldn’t hate them or discourage them (unless my interest is meth). He should be well read even if he isn’t the most literate person. He should enjoy knowledge and self growth

Physically he is to be tall, nice butt, full head of hair.

marinelife's avatar

Smart.

Funny.

Some shared interests.

Good moral and ethical values.

Good sexual chemistry.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

I’m married to my perfect mate; he only has two flaws.

wundayatta's avatar

A person, pleasing to me in unquantifiable ways, who has a joyous, sophisticated and knowledgeable understanding of how the spiritual, mental and physical are all the same thing and who can express herself with abandon in wholeness with me. A person who agrees with me about what it means to be responsible to me, family, friends, community and the world and who acts in consonance with those notions. A person who understands there will be conflicts between those notions of responsibility and is as ethical as possible, given the constraints of real life, in managing those conflicts so as to minimize the pain caused to others.

Blackberry's avatar

A man in a woman’s body, lol. So I get all the benefits of the woman, without the emotion (amirite?!).

No, seriously. We would simply be compatible on many levels. I don’t believe opposites attract in this regard. I think people have to be alike in a lot of ways.

picante's avatar

He possesses these qualities:

Strong character—able to defend his positions when they need defending; able to reverse his point of view upon reflection/analysis

Sharp wit—a good intellect and a razor-sharp sense of humor; able to laugh at himself

Generosity—enjoys giving more than getting; exhibits caring and compasion for living things

Ease of self-expression—able to articulate ideas both simple and complex with alacrity

Self-confidence—exhibits a strong persona without being false or conceited in any way

Mental and physical health

Life-lover

Me-lover

john65pennington's avatar

Since I have been married to the same lovely woman for 45 years, maybe I qualify to answer this question.

1. Personalities alike.
2. Things in common(music, foods, etc.).
3. Having fun together
4. Sharing everything 50/50 or as close as possible.
5. Dedication to each other.
6. Lots of love for each other and showing it.
7. Thinks of your partner first. (wife buys me clothes and not herself).
8. Loves animals.
9. Thinks of you before him/herself.
10.Will be a great mother
11.Loves God and shows it.
12.Is a People Person and constantly wears a smile and greets people.

If you find a person like this, grab him/her quick and marry them.

I did.

BeccaBoo's avatar

I have chemistry with them, I love to look at them, beautiful eyes, gorgeous smile, sexy body, confident, self-assured, cooks, loves to eat, travel, learn, lovely big hands, arms and thighs. Loves to watch rugby like me.Enjoys spending time with the kids, doing silly stuff. Is spontaneous, impulsive, reliable, infectious laugh. Not to bothered about going out, but when we do…..we look awesome together. Adores me, laughs at me and does not take anything to seriously….hang on, this all sounds familiar…oh yeah its my SO!!

Coloma's avatar

My “ideal” mate is one that does not live with me. lol

Cruiser's avatar

Confident, funny, goofy, fit, strong and in shape, likes to be outdoors hiking and biking. Can keep themselves entertained with their own hobbies. Cleans up well and is sexy as hell who likes to go out on the town and tear it up! She has to know a few good wrestling moves too.

Jellie's avatar

GA @john65pennington especially number 8 & 12. Very cute.

Ayesha's avatar

I thought I had this answer down, but now that i actually have to sit and write i’ve gone surprisingly blank! Here goes..
Has to be an animal lover, not too sensitive, a good body (I lurve huge biceps!), loves the outdoors, should be spontaneous, confident, well-read, must have really good taste in music (similar to mine), good taste in cars, good sense of humor, encouraging and just be irresistible.

Londongirl's avatar

- Reliable
– Honest
– Loyal
– Have a decent job
– Love me of course and caring
– Communicative and not act like coward!

I don’t mind about sharing interests as if you are in love with someone you develop new interests together.

gailcalled's avatar

Repeating myself; 11lbs. 10 oz.,, no morning breath, lithe and limber, not too talkative, clear about his needs and wants, likes to nap a lot and likes brief sprints of furious exercises, leaves toilet seat where he finds it, tidy and well-groomed, affectionate when necessary and snuggly enough of the time.

Blackberry's avatar

@Londongirl What if they had a decent job, but were laid off and looking for another?

TexasDude's avatar

1. Dark, fluffy long hair, freckles, womanly body (nice booty is a big plus), about my height.
2. Animal lover, close to the earth, outdoorsy in an old-school conservationist way as opposed to a hippie-ish way.
3. Well-read, independent, and with a desire to broaden her horizons, travel, and experience things.
4. Sexy in a subtle, intellectual way.
5. Wild and free.

tranquilsea's avatar

My perfect mate is kind, funny (in a Monty Python manner), compassionate, intelligent and wise.

ucme's avatar

Oh she absolutely must be fun loving, of a kind & considerate nature. Have a fantastic sense of humour, be able to sing a few bars of kumbaya in times of crisis without vomiting. Above all though, she has to hump like a shithouse door in a hurricane!! Hello dear wife ;¬}

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Dream Mate

He has the ability to make me think he loves me madly, would take a bullet for me, thinks I’m smarter, funnier and the most capable and socially rounded woman he knows. He acts to me and in front of others as though I am the ultimate partner of choice, his needle in the haystack.

He has the ability to appear to me as the smartest, funniest and most capable and socially rounded man I know. I am able to judge the character of other men by his. I look at him and think to myself, “he is what I would like to be if I was a man”.

I met a man like this once and he ended up destroying a lot of faith I had in people. Be careful what you ask for.

crazyivan's avatar

The perfect woman would be there when I need her…and out of town the rest of the time.

(not my joke, by the way. Give the luvre to Steve Martin)

KateTheGreat's avatar

A man who is intelligent and humorous, well-educated and pleasant, and has a sense of style. It would be a plus if he liked guns, alcohol, and music like me.

Physically, I don’t know. I’m not too picky as long as he is fit and appeals to me.

Jellie's avatar

@crazyivan I will be stealing that joke.. what a beauty.

Blondesjon's avatar

She’s exactly like this.

duh

Londongirl's avatar

@Blackberry Sorry nearly missed your question… well, if he had a decent job but got laid off it was bad luck but he would be still intelligent, so it would not be a problem and I would date him yeah.

GialloBubble's avatar

My idea of a perfect mate is, of course, will accept me for who I am. I love dark hair guys, a little wild side in him, can be all tough but also have a soft heart, have at least a few tattoos, must have good eyes and a nice smile, very understanding, willing to be silly, have things in common, have sense of humor and mostly make my heart melt with doing something very simple.

And I found mine, he’s sitting across from me.

livestrong's avatar

Hmm my ideal soulmate would be a tall, dark man who respects not only me but everyone around him. Tells me the truth regardless of the situation always having faith and trust that we can talk it out even if he knows we won’t agree or I’ll be upset. Nothing is worse than white lies & half truths. Also, family is #1 in my book so he has to be a family
Man and want atleast 4 kids. Funny but also knows when to be serious. Someone who loves to help people, not too proud to volunteer in his free time. Not afraid to get his hands dirty. Makes me feel like I am his one and only, the one he’s been looking for his whole life. I love taking care of people, whoever is in need but would love someone who is also there for me. Adventurous but likes staying in every now and then to just cuddle all day. Basically when I think About how I want to feel when I meet the one, the only song that comes into mind is “Without you” by Keith Urban. Unconditional love.

smilingheart1's avatar

my perfect mate at this point in life (over 55)
– same beliefs
– energy
– wisdom
– humor
– good diy guy with all that energy
– financially secure
– loves to travel
– a good head of hair would be a nice asset

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@livestrong: I’ve got one of those now and many times have wished I could clone him for all my favorite gals.

livestrong's avatar

@neizvestnaya Lucky!!!!! Lol well just knowing that there is one out there- gives me hope that there are more somewhere!!! Hopefully!!

Aspire's avatar

I live with him. Obviously he has flaws, we all do, but I love him and he is my perfect mate, I wouldn’t swap him for the world.

HungryGuy's avatar

[NSFW] She’s obedient. She crawls into her cage when told to. She has no gag reflex. She doesn’t complain when I leave her shackled to the wall all day. She’s quick to get into position when I wake her up in the middle of the night and I tell her I have to pee. She doesn’t puke afterwards. Probably a few other things as well…

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