Should I just quit my job because it is making me extremely unhappy?

It sounds like this job compromises your quality of life. Since you have another way to support yourself, quit.

I think most likely you should quit. Have you tried to find another job before quitting? That might be the most prudent thing, but if you just can’t stand it anymore, and you have enough money, go ahead. That is the point of having money, freedom, autonomy, power over your life.

I’ve been in this situation and I quit my job. I was so miserable and every day felt like a sentence. I did not lead the same lifestyle by any means for quite a while, but my happiness and well being come first.

@stardust – Did it feel worth it? Do you think if you’d stuck around at work longer the extra money would be good right now? Because my income will goto like 1/10th of what it is now.

What is causing you to feel miserable? Are you able to do anything about it? Just make sure you exercise the options available to you if there are any especially if its a person or group of people making the job miserable for you instead of the job itself.

I have been asking myself the same question lately…. in fact I’ve been up all night tonight thinking about it. I’ve decided to get medical help before I make my decision as to whether to find a new job.

@JLeslie getting another job would be ideal. And I have been looking. But you know job markets. It’s near impossible.

“If you want to do what you love, you have to love what you do”, This phrase usually works and it’s nice. But you don’t have to push yourself so hard. Since you already got another source of income and you feel it’s enough to support you until you find another job, just go for it and quit… and as @stardust said your happiness and well being comes first

@abysmalbeauty – The things making me miserable: the people I work with closely are very two faced and automatically side against a female; the rest of the people (labourers) stare at me without shame like I’m their property; the bathroom facility is disgusting and I’ve complained many times to no avail; my actual office space itself is filthy, I’ll get it cleaned and organized and the rest of the people won’t bother, in fact they’ll continue to keep getting it dirty expecting me to get it sorted; the staff that is appointed to assist me is frickin lazy and incompetent; no one will do the right thing, they’ll listen to and do what this one specific person says. I’m almost in tears as I type this.

@Jellie What country are you in? Those sound like valid complaints you can bring against the company. The thing is, it still might not result in you being able to be happy at that particular job.

@Jellie that sounds like an HR nightmare! Have you made a formal complaint to the HR department?

@abysmalbeauty – No because I am well aware that the HR will not anything about it. I know from experience after having complained of other much more serious incidents with a co-worker.

Been there. Unless someone else would suffer if you did, like family who has to stop schooling, quit. Enough of that s*%it.

Yes…right away…today! Life is too short to spend the better part of your day completely miserable. More than likely you will start to get sick from this level of constant duress.

@Jellie in that case then yes id say its time to walk away…

A lot of people said quit your job. I’ma be another supporter of this idea. Better not stress yourself ^^

To me, no compensation is worth daily misery. I would quit, especially if you have enough to live on while seeking something else.

OK, I’ll br the bad guy here. I’m of the rural midwest school of thinking: “What don’t kill ya, makes ya stronger.”
Heck, Organic Chemistry almost killed me in college. I used to be physically ill before the tests. But I stuck it out and am reaping benefits.now.

Before you quit answer these questions to yourself:
What can you change about the job?
What can you change about yourself?
Is the stress temporary?
Will the staff change in time?
Does this job offer you some intangible benefits?
Are you learning something?
Can you leave without burning bridges?

It is easy to quit anything. Anyone can do it. And you have the option at any time.
But, quitting might be a permanent solution for a temporary problem.

Good luck to you. We’ll still lurve you no matter what you decide.

There! This thread needed a little Fluther balance!

Can you grow the secondary source of income? My best friend had a real job and taught voice lessons on the side; when she got laid off from the real job she started teaching more and now makes way more money than before.

Since you have an alternative means of support then I think yes you should quit. Quality of life is important.

I was in a similar position once, and quit because the job was making me actually suicidal.

YES.

Yea, that sounds like a bad situation. If you can support yourself on the other means of income, go for it.

@downtide Just curious, what kind of a job makes people suicidal? Torturing pets? Cooking babies? I would turn murderous before suicidal but, hey, that’s just me.
I’m glad you’re out of there.

@worriedguy A lot of soldiers have been committing suicide in the past decade.

You have less than 100 years on this planet, so at your age you are almost 25% done with what you have.

Do you really want to spend one more moment than necessary being MISERABLE? No way!

If you can afford it, I’d say leave. You are lucky. Many people are indentured servants, dealing with misery to pay the bills b/c there is no other option.

You may live more modestly for a while, but you will be happier and you may find time to develop whatever your passion is into something that makes more $

@worriedguy working in the kitchen of my local hospital. It was like a factory production line and it was filthy. No wonder people die in hospitals. I never saw a single other member of staff wash their hands.

I would quit. Don’t worry——one day in the future you will look back and think “Geez, I couldn’t believe the grief I put myself through. I should’ve quit sooner.” In my opinion, it’s high time to move on.

Whenever I find myself in a situation like that, where I’m kind of between a “rock and a hard place”, I write down the negatives and positives for each side. If the negatives of one side exceed the negatives of the other side, I take the other side.

For example, you say you will still have another job, but one that pays much less, and that you will not be able to live the lifestyle you once had. Compare this to your current situation/life with the awful job. Which side has more positives? Which side has more negatives? Take the side with the more positives, even if it just has one positive more.

While I agree with @worriedguy‘s list of questions to ask yourself first, if you’ve already done that and don’t like the answers, by all means quit that job. You will feel so much better. Trust me, if you can afford to live without a horrible, soul-sucking job, do it.

@worriedguy thank you that’s a good idea. I was concerned that maybe I’m over reacting because I’m sure everyone has problems with their job.

I NEVER remained on a job that I didn’t like.. To do so could bring on an unwarranted depression and effect your health. You don’t need to think on it or produce a graft of goods vs bad because you knew the exact day that you began to dislike it and each day that you remain after that is only torturing yourself.

I was in a similar situation. I hated my job last year although it doesn’t sound anywhere nearly as bad as yours. I was revolted by going in to my work place, and dreading it constantly. My mother told me to quit, but my father told me to keep it. I quit to start a small business, and it was tough to finally say “I quit” since my boss was actually very nice.

I am and have been struggling financially all of this year and forced to live with my parents. While I think that I have made the right decision, I’m not sure I went about it in the right way. I can confidently say that I did not appreciate my job for what it was… a decent-paying job. It has been tough to live on less, and I am spending my savings, still struggling though I am certainly optimistic and grateful for this opportunity. With a newfound appreciation for my former job I think I definitely could have stuck it out a little longer or tried to work part-time while still starting my business to make the transition easier. I have thought what it would be like for me to return to my job, and I have a sense that I would be kicking-ass at it and giving forth my best effort this time around… due to my newfound appreciation, and perhaps this might make me enjoy it more. Although if given the opportunity, I doubtful would take it, but since you are in your situation right now, I thought I would tell you what a little appreciation can do for you. In fact I believe appreciation for what have is the key to the whole of life.

You also may want to consider going straight to the top and filing your complaints AND showing them how you might make them more profitable, save costs, etc. – how the negatives you mentioned are hurting the company. Perhaps the management/owner will be impressed with you, promote you, and now everyone is reporting to you. Just think, now you can literally control your work environment and perhaps even the people. If the people at the top don’t care about what you have to say, then I would certainly say run as fast as you can in the other direction.

I would be careful estimating how much you will need to live on from your other source of income, as life is always full of expensive surprises, and in this economy… yikes!

Best of luck.

-Paradox