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Do you ever ask yourself if you're worth it?

Asked by Jude (32207points) September 9th, 2011

Sometimes, I wonder why people even give me the time of day. How can I convince myself that I’m worth knowing and being around?

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Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Can’t say that I do. But I’m arrogant like that.

Coloma's avatar

Awww…you MUST change your thinking girl!

We are ALL worthy of the basics in life, respect, good treatment.

EVERY single life form on this planet deserves to be appriciated, simply for the fact it exists, and is, as I believe a reflection of wonder, beauty and mystery.

Even the worst criminals were once innocent little babes, and whatever went wrong in their development, nature or nurture, they still deserve compassion for the innocent beings they were born as.

You ARE a MIRACLE!

Your body is a MIRACLE!

Your being is a MIRACLE!

Believe in yourself!

SpatzieLover's avatar

Dearest @Jude I send you a (((((((((((((Hug)))))))))))))))! You are worth it!

I happen to believe in something bigger than the here & now, so my when I get down, I remind myself that I have a purpose. I am here for a reason.

Even if today, your purpose is as a cat warmer & lover, then you are all that to your cat.

I try my best to not look to others, as others may be less secure than I am. If you have a self assured friend, give ‘em a call. He or she will put you back to right in a jiffy! :)

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Yeah, I ask myself this question a lot.
I think that it is easy to wonder how other people can like you when you’re not necessarily all that fond of yourself.
I just tell myself that they must have a better perspective from where they’re standing. Seems to be true.

MissAnthrope's avatar

Yeah.. It’s hard to be me. I really don’t know how I come across to people, all I know is the drudgery and bullshit in my head all the time. I sometimes have to remind myself that I keep it all locked in so tight that most people have no clue anything weird is going on in there. Subsequently, they have a much different picture of me, without any of the weird negativity and crap.

I do wonder how or why anyone would want me or want to be around me. I mean, the light parts of my personality are very fun and enjoyable, I’m sure, but there is so much more, darker stuff.. Random mood swings, physical complaints, prone to depression and being brought down by life… that I call ‘the reality of me’. I would think that makes me a difficult person.

Jude's avatar

I hear what you’re saying. That is me, as well.

flo's avatar

No, I don’t. But when do you feel like that? Is there a pattern? Maybe you need to unload someone who makes you feel that way.

HungryGuy's avatar

@Jude – It’s 19.27 (or 7:27 PM) in New York right now.

Coloma's avatar

Well..the first thing that helps to build a good self esteem is to not do harmful things to others that cause you to feel self loathing.

None of us are perfect, and never will be, that’s okay, but, it helps a whole helluva lot if you don’t have a bunch of evil behavior that you’ve perpetrated against others, like lying, cheating and other unsavory acts of self and other harm.

This has been a hot topic in a couple of other threads the past few days, and while we all need to forgive ourselves for mistakes made, it’s always best if we don’t make the really ugly ones in the first place. lol ;-)

filmfann's avatar

I know what you’re saying. I am full of self loathing, and constantly doubt myself, and my contributions to society.
You need to work thru that shit.
Just be the best person you can.

stardust's avatar

On occasions when I’m not feeling as sprightly as I could be, I do tend to mull these little topics over.
It does nothing but help keep me in a dark place.
It needs to be worked through. We can only do the best we can do; be the best we can be.

SpatzieLover's avatar

@Coloma I think this has been a hot topic because there are a lot of transitions for many of our fellow jellies this time of year.

@Jude Do you suffer symptoms of S.A.D. at all? This is a rough time of year in my household, as both my son & husband are extremely anxiety ridden.

I’m betting you’re stressed out from work, too..huh?

Coloma's avatar

@SpatzieLover

What do you mean? :-)

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Sometimes if I’m not treated as I think I should be in a situation or things aren’t coming about after a considerable effort, yes.

When you get into that funk then write/type out a list of things you know are dominant about yourself and then be truthful about a few biggest positives that came from that and any negatives. Re evaluate every few years and ask if your expectations of yourself and others are for the better or becoming a roadblock of some sort.

CaptainHarley's avatar

No. I know I am loved. God doesn’t make junk.

asmonet's avatar

Share the secret with me when you figure it out.
When I list my accomplishments and my talents I don’t get the same feeling of worth as I do if I was reading them about someone else. It just matters less because its me. And I don’t really have an answer as to why that is.

I know that I am worth ‘it’, I just don’t feel it most of the time.

Despite not speaking to you as much as I would like I think you’re fairly awesome. And I wish I did know you better. I always find it sad when someone doesn’t believe in themselves, despite having the same problem myself.

tedibear's avatar

Yeah, what @asmonet said. All of it. When it’s someone else, I wonder why they feel that way about themselves when I see that they’re terrific. When it’s me, any of the good things I’ve accomplished or done seem to have less meaning.

My problem is less about being cool to be around and more about being not so great to look at. But, one thing at a time, eh?

Coloma's avatar

@tedibear

It’s always more about what’s on the inside. Regardless of external looks we are all going to end up old and wrinkled. I’m more than halfway there.
Life is a series of letting go and accepting what is.

It’s actually liberating for me at almost 52. I had a good run, and now, I just don’t care anymore. haha

I mean, not in an apathetic way, but in a liberating way.

What we lose in form we gain in wisdom..or so one hopes. :-)

bkcunningham's avatar

@Jude, what has changed in your life in the past year or two? Have you moved or been through some changes that have taken you away from your friends or loved ones? I think you need to surround yourself with love and laughs and friends who love you unconditionally and who you can relate to and talk your thoughts out with.

It always helps to have a few friends who lift you up who see what a wonderful person you, are despite your flaws. We all have flaws. None of us is perfect. But friends look past our faults and love us anyway. The same way we do them. We do it because we need other people. With all of our faults and flaws, it is still nice to sit and talk, laugh or play with other people.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@CaptainHarley Really? There are many junks out there. Like Rick Santorum or that mom who glued her toddler to the wall in order to beat her.

wundayatta's avatar

For most of my life, I asked myself that all the time. Finally I believe I am worth it, because I’ve been getting feedback from people who tell me I actually am of some use to them and they appreciate it. I never knew that for the longest time. I thought I was useful, but no one ever told me so. Or if they did tell me, I didn’t believe it or couldn’t hear it.

Finally I can believe it, but it is so fragile. It disappears easily. If I get sick again…. well, that doesn’t bear thinking about. But my sense of self-worth will disappear, and I’ll probably do something to hurt myself badly. It’s a horrible thing when you no longer have a sense of self worth.

bkcunningham's avatar

If you ever get sick again, @wundayatta, I hope the friends you have now will be there to support you and love you through it. Getting positive input and feedback does help.

wundayatta's avatar

@bkcunningham postive feedback is a life saver!

CaptainHarley's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir

Yes, really. God doesn’t make junk, but we can take what he or she makes and turn it into something sad and dispicable. It’s called “free will.”

missxamanda's avatar

I believe that humans were put on earth to serve a purpose, yeah you have vagabonds wondering around in this world but it doesn’t mean you’re one of them. We are all worthy of love, care, respect and dignity we just have to find our calling and hope for the best!

Ltryptophan's avatar

@Jude I definitely have days where I wonder what the hell got me here!

zensky's avatar

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

dylzaree's avatar

everyone’s worth knowing. though sometimes, i have to admit that i’m not always interested to get to know someone. anyway, just know that you are worth it and appreciate that another person thinks so too

Thammuz's avatar

Nope, then again i’m an only child and i’ve always been above average in pretty much anything i tried to do, so my ego is nice and swollen.

Chihirolee's avatar

I understand that question pretty well. We all have those questions at some point or another. For me, it doesn’t matter how it’s answered, I still don’t feel satisfied. So I often just end up counting my blessings, play with my cat (who often cheers me up) or hug one of my many stuffed animals. I think my cat thinks I’m wonderful since his “mom” and all of my stuffed animals think I’m worth it because they don’t ever have to fear the garbage or being sold. Plus my husband tells me he loves me, even when things are all wrong…It’s the little things that take such fears away.

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