Can't talk to the girl I like. What to do?

Just do it over and over and over again. It is the type of thing that takes practice. We like you for trying. It means you really want us and is flattering.

Have a list of topics in your mind of things girls like to talk about. If you can’t think of anything, randomness can just catapult you into conversation. And it isn’t always your fault if you can’t get one going. Sometimes the girl might be the one who is bad at conversation.

Sometimes you need visual reference. I watched the movie “Say Anything” with John Cusack in my teens and thought I learned something.

Seriously, not even joking, talk about the weather. It’s not that most people are really that interested in weather (some people are, but not most), so much as that they’re just trying to start a conversation. Also things to ask: So, what do you do (job)? If you’re younger, what classes are you taking? Oh, yeah, who’s the teacher on that one? Oh, yeah I had him/her – pretty strict with the tardy policy, eh? Or, oh, I don’t know much about them, are they good?

Also, it may feel stupid to you, but it’s almost never that other people will think it’s that stupid. They are just as concerned about talking and not being awkward and not saying stupid things. So while you’re saying “Uh…. I’ve got legs”, she’s thinking “Omg, he’s talking to me. He’s talking to me! He’s talking to me!!! Thank god he’s doing the talking. Omg, what am I going to say next? I have to say things? With words? ‘Um… Yeah, legs are the best! You can totally walk on them and stuff!’ Omg, did I just say that legs are the best out loud? I totally did. I’m such a loser. I’m going to go home, crawl under the covers, and die about a thousand times. Then maybe have some ice cream.” Evidence: Number of times a girl has talked to you and you thought “This girl is so stupid, and clearly a loser, and I should obviously put effort into publicly shaming her”? Number of times other people have thought that of you. Really, everyone goes through this.

Yes. It is very common. She likely does not think you are stupid.

Please think about what you have to offer a girl. Then go up to her and say hi. She wants to feel comfortable as much as you. If you are nervous she will catch it like a cold. If you are relaxed and happy, she will catch that too.

If she’s a sensitive, good girl, she will understand how you feel and how you act around her, even if you act awkward and say the “wrong” things at times. If she’s like that, she’s even more special, and you should have no reason to worry. If she’s not, then is she still worth pursuing? She will like you for who you really are, and who you really are is your everyday self. The more time you spend with her and talk to her, the more it will smooth out, and you will gain both confidence and comfort around her.

Almost all guys feel like that in the beginning when they see a girl they like. It’s very normal.

It’s very common. You’ve got to be confident and not be afraid to be yourself. The reason you say something stupid is because you have your “impress them” mind on. That mindset is not bad, thing is, when you’re nervous, it’s kicked into high gear. So just try and be genuine about her. Approach her about something you two share in common. Oh I know, how about asking her out to some coffee, or go for a shake? I use to mac my game on AIM. AOLS Instant messenger, but then in person, it was different. Haha, when you get to my age, 23, it becomes so easy. You ask a girl out for some drinks and dinner, val-lah. So get your practice on young pup, and ask her to some coffee, shake, or the movies.

Use the Big Five, when you run out of conversation….......

The Big Five are who, what, when, where, or why.

Works for me.

Man-up! Say what you want to say and get it done! I don’t think she’ll have any reason not to like you after that.
I love bold and confident dudes, most girls do. You’ll be fine.