What would you think about this situation (for fun). Details (and a box of Pink Elephant Popcorn inside)

Could it be possible he’s entertaining company that has an interest in those particular movies?

@AmWiser Nope. :)

Maybe he’s starting to take a look at another side of culture and life. It’s hard for some people to talk about these things, so they watch movies as some type of introduction?

Why not ask him? It’s a perfect opening for a discussion about reality.

I couldn’t say for sure. Maybe he’s warming up to the idea and beginning to develop an interest. He might not be comfortable in discussing it with someone as yet, so is looking into it on his own. ‘Movies’ on the other hand are light and entertaining, so he’s enjoying himself at the same time.
Why don’t you ask him? I think it’s a good opportunity to open up with him.

How sad is it, that at 39, I have a hard time talking to my Pops about all of this? I come from a Catholic family and was once told that being gay is a “deformity”.

Seeking understanding.

@Jude If I came from a conservative upbringing where I heard stuff like that, I would be afraid to bring anything up that wasn’t in agreement with my families values.

@Jude My guess is he probably knows or at least has an idea about your sexuality. He seems to love you a lot, so I’d think he’d accept you however you are. A lot of guys are more than a little curious about lesbian relationships, so that might be why he’s watching those movies.

@Jude Feel better. You are who you are. Own it! Nobody has the right call it a “Deformity”. Have faith in yourself and your partner, things will turn out ok.

@Adirondackwannabe He knows that I’m gay. There is just a bit of denial there.

Also, ” A lot of guys are more than a little curious about lesbian relationships, so that might be why he’s watching those movies.” Not my Dad!!! Haha. He’s ruining quality lesbian cinema for me. ;) Maybe, we could chat about the various plots, afterwards. ;)

@Jude That’s awesome. “He’s ruining quality lesbian cinema for me”. I’m LMAO.

You now have a perfect lead in to this much overdue discussion with your dad. He now may have a broader understanding of your sexuality though a cinematic version that assuredly is not as complete an understanding he might have had you 2 talked about it from your own perspective. Just might be the right time there @Jude.

@Jude Another thing that just occurred to me. Maybe he’s trying to understand you a little more? Could he be watching those movies to get a better understanding of you? That’s way out of left field but it just popped into my head.

I don’t have Netflix, but I wonder if it has some sort of “recommended for you” feature, like Amazon does… maybe he’s following recommendations based on your viewing history?

Possibly, yes.

Then you could eliminate the issue by clearing your viewing history… or use it to control his mind. Mwahahahaha!

@dappled_leaves I don’t even use Netflix. I have it there for him.

I graded a view gay and lesbian movies when I first got Netflix (last year). Huh. I haven’t watched a movie on Netflix in the last ½ year, though.

Is he a lesbian?

Your Mama…;)

Maybe, but she never said anything.

But perhaps, 39 years later, this is your father’s way of trying to get to know more about the subject. And knowing you’d see what he is viewing, his way of saying I love you.

I think it’s great! That list is great. That he watched those movies is great. It’s all good.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir That’s a whole lotta great. :) I think so, too..

Just because you think your dad is of one mind set, doesn’t mean he really is. Often as the “children” we stuff our parents into the box we think they fit in.

Example: I also come from a Catholic family. Several of my older relatives now say things like “Marriage is old fashioned. That’s not how people are living now.” When just a decade ago, they were disappointed and readily made remarks to their middle-age adult kids for getting divorced or for living with a BF/GF.

Actually @Jude in my experience, everything that’s happening within the Church right now, seems to be making a lot of Catholics question the teachings they were raised with.
At a family function, I had a deep discussion with an older relative couple that have now walked away from the Church after DECADES of volunteering service/readings/eucharist gifts-etc. In my lifetime, I would’ve never suspected these people to open their minds to other possibiliies

Don’t give it rooming thought. If you feel the need to have a conversation about you being gay, start one. There might be a plethora of reasons he watched those movies. Ask him what he thought of one of the movies. It’s an easy way into a difficult conversation.

He grew up in a time predominantly where one typically read instead of choosing a picture. I’m sure he just read and found those titles to be of interest to him. I agree with @tinyfaery Spark up a conversation. He said you were pretty because he’s probably wondering why you don’t have grandkids and think you might have low self-esteem in finding a partner. Tell him what it is.

I would first have to ask, does he know you can see what was recently watched? You might want to ask him that first to be sure.