What kind of "social" are you?

As for me, I prefer to talk online and only with people which interest me or those I really have to talk to. I have only one “real life” freind, however I have a lot of friends online. I am somewhat afraid of people in the “real life”, because I’m afraid of being treated badly… Online that’s not really a big deal now, is it?

Barely.

@CWOTUS: Well that was short :D

I used to have a lot of real friends at school, but they all left and the connection with them was cut, since then, I have online friends, and now I have two real friends. But honestly I prefer talking to my online friends than hanging around with my real friends. It’s not because I’m scared of people but I just feel more free and more myself when I talk to my online friends.
I’m not really that kind of social person, I do prefer to stay alone than talking to somebody but I’m doing my best to become more open

I am very good with strangers. I can easily make small talk. I love it when we know nothing about each other (when meeting in person), we spend some time together/discover similar interests, and discuss.

Now, when people know a lot about me, before actually meeting me (say, I get to know them online), well, that’s scary for me. I feel as though, when I am walking into a room, I am naked and I feel vulnerable. Weird, huh?

Those of whom I have known for awhile, I am very open, honest, funny and relaxed. I like to talk. :)

I prefer real life to online friends.

When I tell people I am introverted almost always they say “No Way”! When I do have conversations I prefer quiet one on one discussions. People don’t scare me or intimidate me, I just prefer to be left alone with my thoughts.

I like to have “deep conversations” and talk about politics and stuff, but a lot of people obviously don’t like to talk about that, so when I’m with those people, I’m kind of quiet. But I have some friends that when I’m with them, we only talk about that stuff, plus some other random things.

I like to be around people or just in person at someone’s house or something. This weekend, my friend’s parents were out of town, so he had a few people over, and we had some drinks and played pool and drinking games with cards (I also met the love of my life, but she was in a relationship, so I sulked after that).

I’m starting to like clubs less, because you can’t talk to people, so I prefer lounges and bars.

I have a number of really good friends, but unfortunately, they are scattered all over the US. I have no real life friends where I live now (something I have the goal of working on).

I have several friends online, some of whom I have met in real life.

One friend from Maine is visiting me this week and friends from Philadelphia are visiting in October. I am really looking forward to both of those occurrences.

Very social. I prefer real life to online, except that I must admit on hot topics like religion and politics, living here in the mid south, online has been much better. Sometimes I wish the people I know in real life talked about their careers more and personal interests and hobbies. Or, talked about something they are learning about. I find people typically don’t unless they are in the same line of work as you. Maybe they want a break from having to think about work?

I like to hang out with friends, have dinner, go outside be with the public.

I have a few very close friends, and many other friends/acquaintances.

My best friend is my husband, and I love spending time with him.

My wife is a social talkathon. She talks online, in person and on her cellphone.

We both are “people persons” and we never meet a stranger.

tlm, yes, this is not good for you. Go out to any function and strike up a conversation. What you are doing is sheltering yourself in your home, like a hermit.

Put on your high heel sneakers and hit the dance floor at a local nightclub.

You need fresh air!

I do not talk with evryone when at a social meeting. I first observe them and see how things go then pick a few and talk to them.
I preffer real life interaction but sometimes it’s easier to go for online socialization.

I like close, intense relationships where we talk about stuff that matters to us. I like to try to develop intimacy and trust, so we can feel safe with each other. I don’t like being shamed about who I am, so I like to find people who won’t shame me if I won’t shame them. I like people who are interested in a wide variety of things and who have in depth knowledge about a lot of it.

I prefer people in person, but it’s not so easy to make new friend in person when you have your routines and inhibitions. So I find more people online—people who are interested in my ideas because that’s how they have been introduced to me.

Social people, when you’re at a public event, say a concert, and you’re going alone, do you find it easy talking to strangers and making new friends?

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@jessyamr Yes. :)

@Jude you mean like close friends, or just aquaintances?

@jessyamr If I am going alone, and I come across new people, I find it easy to chat with them and make new friends.

@Jude I meant to say I know what you mean about the naked thing when you have talked on line for a long time before meeting in person. Even talking on the phone can be odd after meeting online. It is not so much naked to me, but it is odd. For some reason online interferes with the ability to communicate in person.

I don’t consider myself social at all. I show an outward friendly personality but it’s just a facade. I do prefer online/telephone talking more than “real life” (sometimes either way I don’t always formulate my thoughts the way I want to). The true friends that I have see a very different person than the rest of the world and I’m very comfortable with that.:>)

@AmWiser: You’re reading my thoughts there, lol.

I prefer to sit back and let others do the talking, I learn things about the people that I’m talking to that way. I do socialize a lot and find talking to others in person preferable to telephone or online conversations, I just want them to talk about themselves and their interests instead of me and mine….. :~)

I basically sit at home in the darkness waiting to die.

Anti

I think I oscillate between anti and very social. I can be social in any way, online, offline, I don’t believe in the difference many people think exists.

@john65pennington: I have certain psychological conditions which don’t let me talk to real people properly. And do not try to teach me how to live without getting to know me.

I am so social, I am a socialist.

I’m a face to face socializer. There is a core group of friends I’ve had many years I keep up with, even if from distances because we’re in different states. Online has been a great way to keep me feeling in contact with them but I still can’t go without seeing them now and again.

As for strangers, I’m slow to open up until I’ve listened and watched awhile.

I am pretty social; I can talk to just about anyone and I often do. I like to go to parties and large social events and meet people; I have no trouble doing things like this. That does not mean that all I do is talk about drinking and what I did on the weekend (I know some people who do seem to only talk about that); it’s true that when I meet people I’m probably not going to be discussing the “meaning of life”, but I can discuss almost anything with my closest friends and we do. Obviously the best conversations are the ones that go below the surface, but sometimes it takes a few conversations with someone to get to that point.

However, often, the conversations about “issues” that I have tend to happen online. I debate all the time online and I don’t tend to debate in real life. For me, online conversation and real-life conversation often have different purposes, but I could live without online conversation. Not having real-life conversation would probably drive me insane, as an extrovert.

Lots of friends that I go out with at least twice a week (school and otherwise).. I have about 4 of them that I text constantly. Yay. I love people :)

And nothing is worse than the people that aren’t capable of talking about anything below the surface at all. I’m going on this rant because I have to deal with two people like this on a daily basis. They say the simplest shit and never know when to stop talking.

I just sit there saying, “Yep…..yeah…that’s true…yeah…” and when I try to look away and continue work, they still keep talking: “You ever wake up in the morning, and you’re just like “Geeeez, I don’t wanna go to work’...” Like freaking duh, man, and you have to know that you’ve said this to me 100 freaking times already…..I’ve known you for 2 years now. I’ve heard you and others recite the same lines over and over. “Oh man, all the close parking spots were taken….don’t you hate when that happens…?” Yes, we’ve already established parking far away sucks…..What other useless things are you going to say to me? “Yeeeep….it’s lookin’ pretty nice outside…” Just make it stop….

I can hold my own in a conversation but sit on the brink of intro/extro. Really I am like the way @wundayatta put it. One media I really don’t like is telephone. Ooooh..so impersonal.

@Blackberry

I’m surprised at you, not knowing how to handle these people. Simply disagree with everything they say, make it a fight every time. You should enjoy rainy, cold weather. You should deliberately park farther away than you need to. You should be glad to be at work (and happy just to have a job, and all).

And really, you should do and feel all of these things anyway. If you don’t agree with them, and fight them (politely) on each and every point, they’ll stop trying to make them.

I’m generally not very social (i.e. I don’t regularly seek and thrive on human contact) however I can hold a good conversation and do enjoy talking to people. My friend list has always been very small, I’d rather have a few close relationships than many superficial ones. In new social situations I tend to keep to myself for the most part, unless someone starts a conversation with me. I would like to have a few more friends, but other than that I’m quite okay with being introverted.

@CWOTUS Hahahah! I just don’t have the energy for that…..

@Blackberry what you’re not understanding is that that would be a relatively low energy output for not a very long time. It’s like… putting up a “This house is protected by ADT Security” sign outside of your house. All you’re doing is making yourself a “less available target” for the inane chatter, until the annoying person takes the drivel elsewhere.

@CWOTUS Ahhh, I see. Good idea. I would feel I was being rude, but I guess sometimes you gotta be that way lol.

I have gotten more social as the years have passed. I used to be content to sit alone in my bedroom drawing or doing another hobby for hours on end. Now when I do my hobbies I much prefer to be in the company of other people. We don’t even have to be talking, I just like to be in the room with people.

I keep a small group of friends that I’m quite close to and I’m content with that. Since I’m just starting college though, I make more of an effort to strike up conversations with people. I’m pretty shy so this is a little bit of a challenge. I also like to have online friends in addition to the “real life” ones.

I prefer to socialize in small doses. I like my alone time. I’m friendly, and I find it easy to get along with strangers easily, but I usually prefer to keep to myself. Until I’m drunk. Then I’m everyone’s best friend.

Same as @ANef_is_Enuf I like my alone time too & when I’m drunk, I’m a propper nut..

I’m not very social. There are certain people who can pull me into a really chatty mood, but for the most part I am relatively quiet in “social settings” (school, work, parties, etc.) What I do enjoy most in social settings is listening to people. I absorb conversation and will remember what a stranger said for a long time. Getting me to open my mouth and join in is much more difficult. Sometimes this bothers me, but for the most part I just cannot fathom being an extremely social person.

tim, sorry about that. Did you advise of this condition in your question?

How are we to know?

I’m extremely introverted, but have an extrovert’s facade. I talk easily and often to strangers and friends, and am nearly always friendly to everyone. I must have my alone time, though, as all that social stuff drains me, big time. I dislike big parties and events, and much prefer having a few people over at my own house. I have only one or two very close friends (in real life), and tons of online friends. I prefer deep conversations to shallow ones, but understand that small talk is a necessary means of a) getting along in society and b) getting to the point where you can have a deep conversation with someone.

I’m fairly extrovert, I’ll happily talk to anyone, on a superficial level, and I have a lot of friends, but I have very few close friends. I talk as much in real life as I do online, and that’s a lot.

I’m definitely an introvert. I talk to people and do so gladly, but only when I have something to say on a matter. If I lack interest, then I won’t venture a saying. I’m not opposed to speaking with anybody, but I’ll only talk to them if, either, they talk to me first or I have some other reason, too. Online, I do talk more freely, but that’s only because I can put more thought into what I say, which I can’t do in real life. I don’t prefer one over the other, online and real life both have their perks. There’s a joy in seeing somebody react to what you say and form responses, but the freedom of speaking online allows introverts, like, me, to get their thoughts clearly said.

I talk to anyone and everyone…I think this world is made up of all kinds of people with stories to tell. its up to me to decide then if that I like them. I know so so many people but believe it or not I only have 5 people I can call really close friends. But I love to people watch and interact either online or outside in the big wide world. People are great!

Ain’t social at all, no good with people. Unless it’s people I know, like friends, I only talk with people if I have to. I can do it easily today, but it doesn’t feel like ’‘me’’ and I dun like it. Not because I wanna, it’s just the way I am, can’t help it. It is, indeed, way easier online, but that’s not really the same to me.

Although with my close friends, I’m hyper and I won’t shut up. That’s why I hate it when a stranger or someone I barely know walks in, cuz then I can’t help but to turn all silent and vanish in a corner, like a ninja. Unless I’m drunk, but I’d also rather do that in a dark place while I wait for death.

Antisocial. ;)

I am an outgoing person and would rather talk face to face. ;)

My sociability varies a lot. When I am happy I want to be around people and when I am feeling down I tend to keep to myself.

In general I find it hard to make friends. I am shy about approaching someone at a party and just striking up a conversation. I will almost always wait for the other person to make the first move. It’s a lot easier for me to talk about something specific especially if it’s something I am very interested in and know a lot about. But I also read the person’s responses and I need to feel that they are interested in it the same way I am. My husband thinks I am funny because if I can’t get someone excited about something the way I am excited I feel let down. I think it’s natural to want to find something in common to connect with and sometimes finding that thing is hard for me.

There are people that I can immediately feel comfortable with. It’s almost like they have the right aura. I like people who are really down to earth. They can be sophisticated in their interests, background and tastes, but what I mean is they are open and unaffected. They seem genuine and not snobbish. You can see it in their face. I hate it when people are a fake kind of friendly. That just turns me off so much. I know they may have their own social awkwardness to overcome and perhaps are overcompensating but I can’t help it, I just hate it in particular when women are overly bubbly and laugh at everything incessantly.

I live near Manhattan and commute to work every day. On the way I meet all kinds of people and I can strike up a conversation on the train with a complete stranger and really hit it off. I love these little social experiences. Some have been very memorable. Even a smile or a compliment is one of the nice perks of seeing new people every day and it’s one of the things I love about New York. I get friendly with the guy at the deli who makes my coffee every day and the butcher at the grocery store. I will talk to anyone. So even though I tend to be shy and reserved I have my talkative moments. I guess I have 2 speeds, totally quiet and reserved or talking people’s ears of, lol.

@AshLeigh not really. You’d like to think you are but you are not or else you wouldn’t stick around ^^

@Hibernate, Haha. You don’t know my life. :)
I was feeling antisocial at the moment.
I know what I am. XD

Well not knowing you is true but when you feel antisocial you don’t feel like sharing. It’s not a place where people come to share the mood. Feeling one way and being that way are total different things. And I don’t remember the question to ask “how social are you right now?” it was per general thus that’s why I said the above.