How long should my boyfriend stop pleasuring himself for before we get to see each other? NSFW?

Bad idea. He will explode so fast.

How often does he masturbate now?

If he is as young as you look than you may not want him to do that. He will be done before you even get your pants off.

He is 21, not a young boy.
And I’m not sure how often he does now, that’s something I’d rather not know, but I’d say at least once a day.

6 hours? That seems fair.

Is your boyfriend on board with this masturbation sabbatical?

LOL, not young you say. Wait a second! How old are you if you think 21 is not young?

He is 21, not a young boy.

Honey, in regard to sex he is at his peak. Why don’t you just ask him to cut back to three times a day. Ok….if you wanna make sure he is about to pop his eyeballs out, no masturbation in the 24 hours before he sees you.

If he does it once a day, seems like he is able to do “it” every day. Doesn’t sound like he needs to hold off before seeing you.

@Aethelflaed 6 Hours seems harsh.

Plethora is correct.

You may want to focus on the atmosphere where you are meeting, or buy an outfit if you are attempting to make the occasion special.

@Aethelflaed, no, he doesn’t know yet. But I’m beyond sure that he would go along with it.
@Pandora, I was figuring you were thinking he was like 16 or something. Yes, I know 21 is still young, just not as young as I thought you were thinking.
@Plethora, I don’t want him to cut back, I have no right to tell him how often he can masturbate. I just want to do this once before I get to see him, as an experiment.

I just want a time suggestion that would be possible for a male to do. I do not know how long a man can go without masturbating, as I do not get those urges.
I was thinking a day, maybe two.

@ashxmy_lovee I do not know how long a man can go without masturbating Like, without dying? Or without being really pissed off at his girlfriend for being unreasonable?

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought Lol, well, I’m imagining there being some kind of flight involved, and time at the airport, where you just really shouldn’t be.

@Aethelflaed Haha, without getting really pissed at me.

Honestly, at 21, he could have done it the night before and you’re never gonna know the diff. And I am not at all sure it is going to help your relationship by suggesting this to him. You would be crossing major boundaries in the mind of a male.

@ashxmy_lovee I dunno. I mean, it sounds like you’re just going to tell him that he’s doing this, and he doesn’t really get a say, and so that doesn’t really bode well for you. Not to mention that starting off a sexual relationship by invalidating his sexuality is often a bad foot to start out on. It’s your first time, it’s gonna be special because he’s with you, not because it’s been awhile since he last ejaculated.

@Aethelflaed has nailed it. GA

@plethora I do notice a difference though, like before we became long distance the sex was always amazing for him, and he masturbated less often. And now it’s a bit different because he’s been getting himself off daily.
@Aethelflaed No, I will bring it up as a suggestion. But he is very open to trying different sexual things, he is always asking me to try new things, so I have no doubt that he will be open to this.

This question cracks me up. :)
I don’t think you need to make him stop masturbating, it’ll be fine. XD

@ashxmy_lovee In general, there’s something to the “don’t count your chickens before they’ve hatched” proverb.

So it seems like all you want is amazing sex. Why don’t you two go out for some drinks, the sex will be amazing there afterwords. Don’t bring up this Fluther conversation however.

No more than a day. Anymore than that, you may not get much satisfaction. Have you stopped masterbating as well?

@size7 Thanks for actually answering my question. I don’t masturbate, I do not get satisfaction from it.

@dreamwolf Correction: One drink. Any more, and it may actually have some downsides.

D:< I like how she acts like I didn’t answer her question…
NOT AT ALL. <—That’s an answer. :P

Yeah, alcohol is definitely not so great when it comes to sex. And he has been drinking a lot more since he’s back at school with all his friends, so that could have a little to do with it.
@AshLeigh You insulted me as if I’m stupid for even asking this question.

@ashxmy_lovee, I didn’t insult you at all. I just said that this thread is laced with humor. Or, that’s all I meant by it. It seems to be full of silly arguments. I meant no insult. :P

@AshLeigh Alright, well thank you then for settling that.

@ashxmy_lovee, no problem. :)

It all depends on how his recovery time is after ejaculation. Some guys can ejaculate and be ready and raring to go again in 15 minutes (and have another great orgasm), while others need more time to recover before being ready to go again.

If you really think this is a good idea, why not talk to him and ask him to abstain from masturbating for what he deems a reasonable amount of time before you get together so that it can be amazing for the both of you. He’s the only one that will really know what that time frame is at this point.

@Seaofclouds Thanks :) Yeah, I think I will definitely just ask him about it.

He’s a guy in his prime. It doesn’t matter what you say. He’s gonna masturbate anyhow and just tell you he didn’t.

If he’s been masturbating three times a day, then if he can manage to hold off for two days, he’ll feel like he’s exploding when he cums. Of course, unless he has really incredible control, he’ll be cuming in five minutes. No matter. If you want him to feel really great, take him in your mouth. It’ll be all about him, though. If you want something for yourself, get it first. Or wait until round two.

If he can wait for a day, it’ll still be pretty good, and maybe he’ll have enough control to last a little longer. If he’s wearing a condom, he should be able to go longer, as well. So long as there’s not too little feeling to feel anything.

But if he holds off for 24 hours before you get together, that should be just fine for him to have an extra special experience. But he has to want to do it. It’s not easy when you’re about to see your partner after a long time of not seeing them.

Two to three full days before he sees you. Not more, not less.