Social Question
Do you consider someone who had (or wants to have) sexual alignment surgery to be the gender in their mind, the gender they were born with, or the gender of their biology?
My question was prompted by this question by HypocrisyCentral.
Likewise, if you can’t answer this question civilly, please pass it by.
But unlike Hypocrisy’s question, this question isn’t for transsexual people; it’s for non-transsexual people who’ve dated, or came close to dating, a transsexual person.
Suppose you’re a male and you start dating a woman who was born male and who had sexual alignment surgery? Or you’re a female and you start dating a man who was born female? Would you care? Would you be able to continue dating? Why or why not? Would you be upset/angry if you weren’t told until after you were intimate with this person?
I suppose the crux of this question is: Do you consider a person’s gender to be what’s in their mind, their chromosomes, or their anatomy?
Please also state whether you’re male or female, intersexual or transsexual or neither, heterosexual or bisexual or homosexual, etc.
And if you have clinical studies, please post a link—don’t just tell someone to go to the library and look it up (if your study is only available in a dead-tree version, then at least cite it and/or post the ISBN number). And please don’t, under any circumstances, tell someone that they’re ignorant because they disagree with you or because they’re not familiar with your study (especially if your study is only available in a dead-tree version).
In fact, I ask the mods to consider the use of the word “ignorant” (regardless of context) to be grounds for moderating an answer.
Again, please be civil. When replying to some moron who dares to disagree with you, use gentle phrases like, “I think…” or “It’s my opinion…” or “Maybe that’s not entirely true…” etc., etc.