NSFW Straight People: Do you find it flattering when a homosexual person hits on you?
I am mostly interested in gender differences with this question.
I have the perception, which may be erroneous, women like this.
When homosexual men hit on me, I am uncomfortable.
I am interested in any comments you may have.
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I am flattered when anyone hits on me if they do it with grace and style. If a jerk of any persuasion hits on me in a jerky fashion I’m just yukked out. No flattery there.
I’m flattered when people hit on me. But may be not lesbians as I’m straight. I went to girls school so I knew about lesbians when I was early age and I don’t like to give wrong signals to them. Some girls can be very scary when they hit on you and you don’t feel the same way…
Gay men don’t hit on me. But if they did, I would not give a shit. I would simply tell them to get lost.
It only matters to me if straight women hit on me. Not that it happens everyday, but as far as being hit upon, that is all that matters to me.
As long as the person, gay or straight, is polite and not creepy, then yes, I’m flattered.
It depends on who, regardless of gender and for the most part, I don’t mind and am flattered. For right now, it’s much better if they flirt for fun and expect nothing to come from it.
There are some men and women who hit on me that I would much, much rather not even go there. I’m friendly and enjoy chatting with most people here and there, but when someone hits on me and expects results, it totally changes the dynamic and often ruins things.
Doesn’t bother me one way or another. I’m my own boss, so I decide what I’m going to do and how I react.
No but I try to treat them with the same respect/reaction I would like from an attractive women I hit on that turns out to not be interested in me (bml: before married life)
I’m flattered whenever anyone creatively, charmingly and politely flirts with me.
I am female. Sure, as long as the hit on is not creepy in any way, I find it flattering.
I find it interesting this is NSFW. I would not have thought to put such a questions as NSFW.
@JLeslie I am just trying to err on the safe side lately. I have seen a lot of comments come in that have to be modded.
I’m not sure. What would that even look like? Give us some gay pick ups.
You should see how many free drinks my husband gets from gay men when we go out. They love him! He doesn’t mind. It’s very flattering.
I’m also flattered when I’m hit on. Who wouldn’t be?
I am definitely flattered in most cases when someone of either gender flirts with me. However, I am also a tiny bit more giggly and amused when a woman flirts with me. It is kind of the same as when someone much older or younger flirts with me.
It all depends on how it is done. It doesnt matter if it is female or male to me. If they hit on you in a creepy way, it is simply creepy. If they do it in an awkward local or put you in an awkward situation it is awkward.
If they do it in a way that is flirtatous and flattering, it is exactly that.
It is what it is.
I will say the creepiest location is at the gym in the locker room…. ~just sayin
Flattered of course. If in a tasteful manner, man or woman.
@woodcutter a bunch of my male friends are gay, so here is a sampling of some of the polite lines:
“Hey, nice cologne”
“That is a fabulous shirt where did you get it?”
“Want to dance?”
Pretty much the standard stuff. Below is a list of more icky come ons:
“Want to go in the back for a little spanky-spanky?”
“Girlfriend, I’d love to see you do the schlappy dance” (A dance done by a fellow wearing only leather chaps)
“Do you kiss your mama with that pretty mouth? You can kiss my bleeeeeeeeep anytime!”
Seriously? They sound so corny.
@woodcutter the polite ones are very real. Most people, who really would like to go out on a date with you (rather than just engaging in quick sex) are going to say pleasant things to another guy, just like a straight guy would to a woman.
I’m flattered so long as they know they don’t have a chance in hell and are doing it more in a fun way or at least they realize and stop after I said I’m not interested.
Gay or straight. No is no.
It’s never happened. So maybe other men don’t find me attractive enough. I’m ok with that, really.
If I don’t get hit on for a long time, then finally get hit on by someone who has no personal hygiene or social skills, it’s not flattering, it’s depressing!
That happened to me a couple years ago—I didn’t get hit on by anyone for 4 or 5 years, then when I finally caught someone’s attention, he was shorter than me (I’m 5’2), didn’t have any teeth, was dirty and built like a mini-fridge. Weird looks, I can handle. Lack of hygiene… not so much. With all that, gender’s a non-issue, really.
@woodcutter how would you react? Would you feel flattered or a little uncomfortable?
I would be just because of how absurd a situation it would be.
Yes, it’s still flattering. But I’m not 100% straight, so I don’t know if my opinion still counts.
I’m uncomfortable when anyone hits on me. >.<
@WillWorkForChocolate Yeah, same here.
But when someone hits on me, I get all shy and uncomfortable, and I never know how to react, and usually break the whole mood or the prospect of anything going anywhere. XD
Still, none of that has to do with whatever sexual orientation the people have. And it does feel flattering, even if I can’t get it together. XD
I hate when guys hit on me. I’ve never liked it. I like to be the pursuer.
I’m a straight man, and I generally find it flattering when gay men hit on me, but I also have sometimes been surprised, alarmed, and/or weirded, at least when I was younger. It doesn’t usually bug me much now, I guess, but I also haven’t received an overt come-on in a long time.
That depends on the person and manner in which they hit on me, same with anyone. If a nice looking gay man hit on me in a charming way I would be very flattered.
Never has happened to me.
It depends, most of the time I just take it as a compliment, some times it’s very odd feeling, almost creepy. It really depends on the individual situation.
Nice young clean strong guy at a club says something, and I’ll take the compliment and say “thanks” ... shortly followed by a “oh oh, now he probably has the wrong idea” and an urge to explain.
@Imadethisupwithnoforethought How would I feel? I have no idea. I have been out of circulation for almost 30 yrs I would not recognize it probably. I would probably have a deer caught in the headlights look and the guy would say “Uh, never mind”.
I remember it was some time ago just being confused because I was at a dance with my husband and she knew it. Maybe she was into threesomes. It made me kind of nervous.
Doesn’t matter who hits on me…it’s so rarely done well. I also don’t see why anyone would be especially flattered if someone who they wouldn’t be attracted to would hit on them…I don’t get how it would be any more flattering than anyone else hitting on them.
I feel pretty uncomfortable when men hit on me. Sometimes, it’s downright creepy. I find that sometimes men don’t respect the fact that I’m gay and not at all interested, like if they try hard enough, they might change my mind. But, you know, I do appreciate when it’s done politely, respectfully, and, if I’m lucky, with a bit of humor or flair? Most of the time, I am flattered, though.. who wouldn’t be?
I had a young guy at work hit on me once. He was a newbie, and I was responsible for training him. One day, as he was eyeing me from head to toe, he made a passing remark about me “having a good build, and that I was ‘taller’ than your usual Asian fella.” He then asked if I was married (I wasn’t wearing my wedding band at the time). To be honest, I was surprised, and I didn’t know what to say. I finally told him that I was married, and he backed off a bit. But for the next few months he was working with me, he still eyed me from time to time. To be honest, I was kind of relieved when he left. I wasn’t really uncomfortable, but I wasn’t really in the mood to flirt with him either. hehe
I have to say I didn’t feel “flattered”. It was more like “Ooookkkayy, this young guy seems to like me. Oh well.” I mean, what else could I do? lol
I have always felt flattered. It hasn’t happened for a while though. sniff
@MRSHINYSHOES You could tell he was looking at your ass because it got suddenly hot, didn’t it? Tell the truth.
@woodcutter People only look at my ass when I’m wearing my dark navy Speedos and nothing else. lol
So you’re checking them out…while checking you out. Fascinating.
@woodcutter Only the nice pretty girls in bikinis. Yes, you’re right my friend, they are fascinating. erg!
At a much younger age I might have taken offense, but these days I consider it flattering on the rare occasions when anybody hits on me, male or female, gay or straight, provided they do it in a charming and respectful way and not creepy and lewd.
I was also kind of semi-flattered as well as bemused when a man came up to me at a party and asked my permission to converse with the female friend I came with. It was the sort of party where that might have been a wise protocol to observe, but in fact my friend was an independent agent and not my sub.
Sure. I’m not necessarily interested but it is nice to be noticed.
If it’s ever happened I was too dense to realize it.
I wouldn’t mind though.
No, i’d find it…......uncomfortable. No more or less if a morbidly obese ginger welder named Sharon hit on me though.
I’m a mostly straight female, and find it flattering (and under the right circumstances, hot) to be hit on by women and men. If anyone is too creepy or pervy, not so much.
It’s only happened to me once in my life, and it was a bit awkward. But looking back on it, yah it was somewhat flattering. We both laughed about it once he realized I wasn’t gay. Added points, the guy was my bank teller for a while before and after that.
(i went to a “gay” party with my room mate, who wasn’t gay but she had gay friends)
I wouldn’t be offended at all. I was hit on a few times by men and I was flattered, and they were good looking guys, too. Lol.
It’s a good esteem booster to be hit on, although I’m not as concerned about creepy people, it’s not like they’re going to kidnap me because I turn them down.
I have no problem with it. It’s just a simple “hey thanks mate, but you’re not my type.”
I wouldn’t mind so much if I didn’t have so many bad experiences. For example me eating a sandwich while waiting for someone at the station and an elderly guy approaching me and asking “How expensive are you? (Forcing me to choke on my sandwich and nearly kill myself) Or this creepy German guy/customer asking where to find nosespray whilst slapping my butt, draping an arm around me and pressing his nose against my hair to sniff it.
Yuck.
@Bart19 That is…scary.
It makes me sad that women have to put up with that sort of shit from some men on a regular basis.
It isn’t any different in dealing with a friend’s confession about having a crush whether they are straight or gay. It just creates a sad moment when one has to say that they do not feel the same way. As for being hit upon, again, it is dealt with in the same way…I just let them know subtally that I’m not looking for a relationship, unless I am. In that case, it is just a matter of talking through what one is looking for, and that clarifies the opportunity of any hit having potential. It’s pretty simple.
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