I haven’t read all of the answers but quick skimmed most of them so forgive me if I’m repeating anything already suggested.
What jumped out at me immediately was your mention of him being VERY bright and double honors confirms that.
Kids like that are many times the “odd man out” simply because of their intelligence level. Many teachers don’t know how to handle this, especially in public schools and the other students have some combination of resentment at these kids superior intelligence combined with discomfort about kids like this.
For a long term solution, I would suggest you look around for a school with a known reputation for rigorous academic requirements and a track record of much higher percentages of graduates going to college.
I know that some of these schools have programs or classes affiliated with a local university whereby students who qualify can begin to earn partial college credits.
In this type of prevailing atmosphere, several things are significantly different in terms of all students day by day experiences.
For one thing, academic achievement is consistently praised, rewarded and highly regarded by faculty and students alike. Being a nerd is regarded as a cool thing, not something to be despised.
There is also constant positive reinforcement for academic excellence. Generally, the majority of the student body has a higher maturity level because most are already goal oriented and committed to working to achieve.
His self esteem would get a huge shot in the arm in that type of atmosphere. He would be among those who take their studies seriously.
I have no idea what’s available in your area but I know that most areas have at least one private school with a reputation like that. Yes, a private school like that would probably be expensive, but it may me the best money you’ve ever spent if he can be in an institution where he can flourish and realize his full potential.
I know that there are a few (far too few) public schools like that. The term they used in Philly was “magnet schools” because they were not based upon arbitrary location boundaries like most public schools. They were able to draw the cream of the crop from all over the city. Obviously, their entrance requirements were much more academically rigorous (and conduct standards also upheld).
Another possibility might be a military school. That wouldn’t be my first choice, but they do have high academic standards and don’t put up with crap.
Anyhow, for the long term, just try to find the best school in your area with high academic achievement expectations for their students. He needs to be where his natural gifts are encouraged and where the other students are achievement oriented. I know it will be heads and shoulders above the majority of run of the mill schools out there.
I’ve been appalled at how often I’ve heard accounts of public school authorities reluctant to put bullies in their place and holding them accountable.
It seems they’re too afraid of being sued by the parents of those DOING the bullying so they just keep turning a blind eye.
Private schools don’t have to be reluctant to take action. Their school, their rules.
Your son really needs to be in a safe place which places value upon academic achievements so he can truly shine and feel good about himself.
I wish you all the best in finding the right school for him. And if he is absent until you find the right one, I think it would be fairly easy for him to catch up rather than spendin any more time in the toxic environment he’s in now.
So, thats my two cents, fwiw.