[NSFW!] How long did it take to train your partner for buggering, or how quick did you learn?

2 hours

I’ll let you know once we’ve crossed that bridge… :( lol

I’ve slipped in there a couple of times by accident so pretty quick :-/

You missed out “to you if male or to him if you are the female with a strapon, and to him if male and you’re male”?

you get the idea

Patience, preparation and state of arousal makes all the difference. The same person may not be able to tolerate it every single time. From personal experience, I don’t buy “slipped in accidentally” at all.

@Blueroses followed by “but now it’s there we might as well make the most of it”

Classic !!! ^^

When I was young I had to take it slow with women since they weren’t that open for such situations. Then I grew up and in every relation I was they asked how would I feel if I wanted to try it with them. I never said NO but if she wasn’t enjoying it I did not try to bring it up for discussion too much.

And anal sex always needs to be performed in a somewhat safe environment .. vaginal sex is required before so the muscles can be relaxed for the girl… etc You get my point.

Ain’t never got no anal sex, but I want to answer this question in order to acknowledge your choice of wording. As a fan of swearing and slang and their history, my heart is glad to see the word ’‘buggering’’. :)

I wonder why this question didn’t get more responses?

perhaps everyone got sucked into the “related” questions over there——>
I did

Ha! Buggering!

As for myself, I’d introduced anal play into my own masturbation since I was about 14, so the first time I decided to be the receptive partner with a guy, it wasn’t that difficult- just a little lube, and it was fine, and his dick wasn’t exactly intimidating. My partner tells me I’m atypical though.

For my current practices, I like to warm my girl up with a butt plug. She was a little intimidated, and we talked about it for a good while before we tried it. but we’ve got a few toys around, so our first time we did some graduated foreplay with toys of increasing sizes before we went at it proper. These days we still use toys, but she’ll start with the largest plug she has, and warm up time is down to 15 minutes or so.

There’s never really been “pain, strain, or discomfort” in unreasonable amounts. Lube, time and relaxation do wonders.

My partner and I have tried on numerous occassions and it is still too painful (even with loads of lube) for me to continue past a certain point.

@Smashley Wait! Did I read that right? In your teens you were a widereciever then switched to pitching later in life, so to speak?

@Hypocrisy_Central – Nothing’s changed, except that I am dating a woman currently, whereas I was dating a man when I first started practicing anal. I perhaps do a little less “widereceiving” these days (O! those wonderful toys), but I don’t think I’ve changed. I didn’t say that I exclusively was the receptive partner in my teens, or that I exclusively dated people with penises: I was discussing the first time I decided to be the receptive partner. I’ve known I was bi for a long time. I’ve dated different people through my adult life, and each relationship has had it’s own unique set of sexual practices, but I haven’t “switched” anything that couldn’t switch back by Saturday night.

Tried it, don’t like it, never have and never will… But that being said, if he does, and it get’s him off and he is careful and responsible and decent about it… I’m like genii, your wish, is my pleasure. I love making a guy happy and I love being sexually explorative. I believe that if two people love each other anything is allowed and anything is worth trying… even if only once! But I am with Leanne on this note… It will never not hurt no matter how careful he is or isn’t so. That one is always and ever FOR HIM! Not me. I derive no pleasure from it.