Do you keep it simple when it comes to forever goodbyes?

Well over 50 years of “hellos & goodbyes”, one learns to let go more easily.
Everything in life is of a transient nature, enjoy it while it lasts, but as soon as you start clinging the suffering unfolds.

For most of us it is a maturity thing, it gets easier the older you get. :-)

I don’t like or plan on forever goodbyes so yes I keep it simple.

I just say, “See you next time,” no matter how long it might be until I see them again. It’s not easy when I know it’s for good, but I always hold on to the hope that for my most loved ones, there will be some kind of “next time.”

If we are talking about death here, can there be anything harder than releasing your spouse or child….or parent….whom you love very much, someone you would give your life for? You will miss that person every day of your life on earth. Christian belief is it is a temporary parting but still, part of you isn’t here any more. It feels like a part of you died too. But releasing is a key word. You speak of your unfailing, unchangeable love for them and bid them God speed.

I keep it simple; by the time I get to that point with someone we already know all there is to say.

How do you take it?
In stride. When it’s time it’s time and when it is you know it.

What goes in your mind?
I just try to be part of that moment and make sure I’m doing the best I can for them at that moment.

Saying that forever goodbye to someone whom you do not want to lose, how do you deal with it when it comes to loved ones?
Again, in stride. I accept how I feel (usually sad, even pained) and move on hopefully better for it. I don’t believe in dwelling on loss it defeats the purpose of having lived so fully together.

There are two types of goodbye’s to me.

The first one is where a person/relationship is moving on or moving apart. I take it stoically. I handle it not as a goodbye, but that one never knows where paths may cross again.

One that involves someone that is near death and involves that kind of goodbye is a bit deeper knowing that I will not be able to enjoy being with them in this life as I know it now. I may think I take it well but deep inside it is tough. I miss them like there is no tomorrow. I however know I can’t change things and soldier on.

I don’t like to say forever goodbye. I mean why? Did they do something upset you? I would value the friendship for good friends especially love ones…

What @Coloma said, you just need to learn to close the door, you’re letting the heat out ….

When my dad was dying (he was in and out of ICU for a month) my therapist asked me if I had any unfinished business with him. It turns out I didn’t, I had nothing to clear the air or for either of us to understand about the other.

What that has had me take to heart is to do my best to never have any unfinished business with my family and closest friends, because we never know. And then I can grieve and miss them without regrets or anything on my conscience.

Well, when I said goodbye I didn’t realize it would be forever, I guess you could say that forever came too soon.

If there is a chance it isn’t a forever goodbye, I try not to focus on the fact that it might be the last one. I have said goodbye to a lot of people in the last weeks that may be the final goodbyes. I am just not thinking about that possibility.

I remember saying goodbye to my dad for the last time at the airport and we both knew it was the last time. We didn’t say anything but it was there… hanging in the air between us… I know I convinced myself that everything my instincts were telling me was not true and I kept walking away. If I had focused on that feeling, I don’t think I could have left and I know he wanted me to go because it was the right thing for me to do.

I’ve had to say goodbye a lot lately.
To my family.
To my best friend.
To Asher.
The list goes on.
But the one thing that keeps me going is knowing that the future is not set in stone, and goodbye may, very well, not be forever.

Now it depends what sort of forever goodbyes are we talking about here. If it’s about death I have to “adjust” my thoughts on letting some of them go.
But if it’s about people with whom I do not want to talk anymore or have anything to do I let them go really easy.

Very simple. If it’s a really good friend, I’ll bawl if it’s too complicated. XD
I made a friend in the group homes as a teen, and we hung around for a number of years. Both of us were barreled around, but we always kept in touch. Eventually, her mom came to get her back; and they moved to another part of the province. I went with them to the bus station, we hugged, said some bullshit, I turned around and walked off and that was it. I didn’t want her to leave, and was dreading the moment, but shit was as it was.

However, it turned out that her mom actually was not given permission to have her daughter back. She literally kidnapped her, but her daughter had showed consent. She was back two months later. XD

It’s funny, but it’s really not funny, either.

Just had to share that lol. But yeah, I keep it simple. Goodbyes seem so final, whether they are or not, so I never see any reason to make it harder than it has to be. Although if the other person involved seems to want to draw it out, it’s extremely impossible to not let it happen. :/

Forever? Is someone killing themselves? Just stay in touch via Facebook – or Fluther.

“If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together keep me in your heart, I’ll stay there forever”
~piglet

I love a man who quotes Pooh.

Goodbye takes as long as it needs to take. With most people, it’s easy. Sayonara, Charlie. Then there is the person that it is impossible to say good bye to. We have a ritual—a set of phrases and we have to go through before it is ok to say the final goodbye. It works. It makes us feel safe.