I once wanted stability and security so bad, it was driving me to anxiety and depression. It took sooooooooo long, only the last 3–4 years has that left me. I’m glad of it but wish I knew how it came about so I could bottle the stuff and sell it as an air freshener or something.
How secure do you feel in your life?
Since moving out of my family home, I’ve not lived in any one apt., condo’ or home for more than 3 years. Moving constantly has actually helped me release from most possessions which was tough because I love “nesting”, I love aesthetics. I’m ok now to keep on moving, being ok with just a few things and knowing from experience I’ll always land on my feet. It was crappy so many times until it just hit me one day that I’ve always made it through and instead of feeling unique in that, I’ve come to believe most people also make it through.
Your relationship?
I’ve had several long term ones and even though I’m about to be married, I know if something tragic happens, I’ll pull through, love always finds me even when I try to put my head in the sand. Because I’ve seen bad things happen to even good people, I try to keep myself focused on the present about the relationship, try to celebrate rather than grow accustomed to or take for granted. It seems to keep the shine on things, keep us trying rather than saying, “oh, looks like this is how it’s going to be, whatever.”
Your job?
The longest stretch I’ve pulled with one place is near 5 years, again, moving so much means I have to keep starting over. There has been little in the way of being able to rely on benefits, plan vacations or retirement funds. It only came with experience that I’m confident I can drop my suitcase in just about any town and have a job within a week’s time. Having stopped using credit cards more than a decade ago, I’m more fluid with money and know how much I need to get by minimally without panic.
I wish I’d been able to not be so afraid and panicked every time change or uncertainty came around. For me, I think I’m one of those people that has had to learn everything the hard stubborn way. If you can put a few people in your life you’re willing to let very close, they’ll be invaluable to get through the tough times with.