What do you do when someone you know is dying?

If someone I know is dying I pack in all the good memories I can while there’s still time. You only get one go-around on this crazy carousel of life.. might as well make the most of it.

I distance myself.
Don’t judge me. I have my reasons.

Tell them what they meant to me in my life and then work on remembering all the best memories with them.

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Make time to be with them on their own terms. Ask them what you can do for them? Do they want you to sit with them and read to them, or to reminisce with them or to help them sort out their affairs, or to contact other people, or to put together a selection of his/her favorite foods, or music or photographs?

Ask them what they would like you to do (and not do) and then do your best to fulfill their wishes, even if they ask you not to visit them. Some people do not want you to see them at their “worst” or at the end and would prefer that you remember them how they were at their best. Just ask them what they want you to do.

I’m there. If I am privileged to be there at that sacred moment when they pass, I usually sing to them, and when my mom was dieing, I rubbed her feet with frankincense. I also try to be more ready to listen. I have learned, that when you know that your hour is near, the most important tings in life come to the forefront. I need to be reminded of that. My mom kept saying that the Doris Day song Red Red Robin kept coming up in her head. Especially the lyrics, “Live, Love, Laugh and be Happy. ”
I need to be reminded what’s important.

I go and talk with them, read to them, and try to make them laugh. I try to do what ever they need in that moment.

I’m with them every minute I can be. It’s not about me, it’s about them not being scared and lonely in their last days.

I will spend all my time with the person and be there for the most precious time we have together…

The only time I ever knew someone was going to die was a few hours before my grandmother died when I was eleven years old. There wasn’t much I could do at that point. She seemed fine, until that day… All I could do was tell her I love her, and say goodbye. :/
I never expected Asher to die. But when he did there was nothing I could do…

I spend every amount of time I can with them. I exchange text, chat, phone, face to face as much as possible.
I add to the memories not matter what they are going through.
I try to find if there are “bucket list” items they have that I can help them fulfill.
I try to help them in anyway possible from getting things in order to making them laugh till they tell me to stop.

Try and respect whatever wishes they may have. For example: My great grandmother is dying of lung cancer. Doctors don’t think she will be with us at Christmas but she has asked for everyone to carry on and treat her as normal. She doesn’t want any fuss and she wants as much independence as possible.

Thanks for replies ^^

I think it is important to remind him/her things he/she loved most as many have said. It is a good thing to see someone letting go with a smile. I think people struggle with pain for their last breaths because they really cherish to hear or see things they love best.
I am going through a tough time myself, I just went home recently in response to my grandmother’s illness reports. But That moment she was a bit fine able to talk with me,then I came back to school in town. Just three days back she is reported very ill, mind you she is 91years. I can’t help myself, but i feel I should be there while she fight for last breath. She is my last hope in parenting matters. I wish I should be by her side telling her “God loves her and will pay her good works.” I love her..