Do you work with a mean girl?

You are dealing with a very unstable person. The office psychopath. lol
Seriously.
It’s no laughing matter and they love to stir up trouble and pull passive aggressive stuff and then play games about it.

You are not crazy, but, you do need to bring this up with your boss or start looking for a new job.
I have known several people like that in my life…if you can’t ignore her, find a new job because it will probably get worse.

Toxic people tend to get more toxic the longer you observe them.

I agree with @Coloma. This is called workplace bullying. I would start to keep records of the things she does too. Document any evidence. I also agree you should speak to your boss. Sadly my experience has been often workplaces are unwilling to do anything about people who behave this way.

I should have mentioned this… our boss loves her!

Of course…these types are very charming when they need to schmooze whomever to get on their good side. It’s called manipulation.

Show me a schmoozer, and I’ll show you a manipulative person, and manipulative people will do whatever it takes to pave their own roads.

You are going to need a back up plan. Think about dusting off your resume’s.

I did but she retired. Yippee!

I have worked with many a mean girl. Always act sweet, call her by her surname only, not her first. Don’t engage. Do not engage.

I’ve just jettisoned a toxic friend from my life that sounds much like your co-worker. If I was you I’d just start looking for another job especially because the boss likes her. These people put too much stress into your life.

I worked with a mean guy once. Tensions escalated to a near altercation, then he transferred to another department before quitting entirely.

First of all I work in a profession (health care) that is dominated by women. There was one job where I was just hired where I had to work with a woman who very obviously hated men in general. It was a bummer to be around her as she was always cranky. I wondered if she had some sort of medical condition that caused her constant pain. She frequently talked trash about her husband and the other token men working there. I’m pretty sure that she suffered from OCD as well because everything had to be exactly her way or she would go into one of her frequent rants. I did feel sorry for her even though she made my job miserable. After about 3 or 4 weeks I decided to brush of my interview suite and apply a position available in another hospital. I was offered the job on the spot and so I went back to the other hospital and resigned on the spot. That was 16 years ago and I’m still very happy at my current job because my coworkers are nice people.

All girls are mean.

“in fact, if I can I try to let people know the truth about her.”

Dude, shut up.

You’re just like her. Take the higher road, stop being two-faced and just move on.

If it’s a problem, go to HR. Otherwise, grow up and ignore her. Rise above. If you gave her no interactions to work with with, she wouldn’t have anything to draw from to talk crap. If she had escalated to outright lies, I promise you – it is fairly obvious to others around her. If she did it to you, and she’s doing it again then chances are she’s done it for a long time and it is an open secret.

Yep, I have. I just started ass-kissing and I got on her good side and nothing bad happened to me afterward. It didn’t take much to ass-kiss either, just stoke her ego and be REALLY nice to her and stay out of her way. It’s so easy. Did I mean any of it? No, I still think she’s a soulless biotch who should go jump into a cesspool. but she thought that I respected her, so she left me alone. She actually started to like me. So it worked.

Eventually, she was caught with a fire-able offense. I was asked about it (I knew because she told me) and I totally threw her under the bus and told all and now she’s fired and gone for good. I would not have told if I didn’t feel that it would get her fired. But it did. Now I’m scot-free.

See? It pays to keep your enemies closer. I’d do it again. No regrets.

Part of life is accepting that there are CRAZY people out there. Don’t try to understand them. All you can do is act in a way that is conducive to making things better for you. Remember, they will harm anyone in their way, so don’t worry about hurting their feelings, because they don’t care about yours. If it takes ass-kissing and then throwing the girl under a bus like I did, then so be it. You can’t win with being honest with these people. Just play “nice”.

@asmonet… go to HR, yeah, great idea. HR is ALWAYS your friend.

I am a mean girl. Scandalous girls (like the one you work with) quickly learn to avoid me.