How do men act when they are around their wife and mistress at the same time?

Any “man” (and I use that term loosely) who has a mistress doesn’t feel bad about having one, and so sure as hell isn’t going to feel bad about being in the same place as both the wife and the mistress. I would imagine the only two likely emotions are fear (of being caught) or smugness (of getting away with it). Either way, any such person is detestable.

Not sure what you mean by being in the same place as their wife and mistress. You mean that they’re both in the same house? Or do you mean like bumping into them at the grocery store, or attending the same church?

I’m guessing that some men feel guilty about cheating on their wives, but the thrill that they get is even more powerful than their guilt. Other men probably feel entitled to do whatever they please and don’t care whether or not the wife of the mistress (or any kids that might be involved) get hurt. And then there are a few men, who might take a mistress out of desperation because their wife is incapacitated (due to a brain injury or something else awful like that) or because he and his wife decided that they no longer love each other, but feel that divorce is worse than cheating.

So it all depends upon the particular man and his specific circumstances.

Back when I didn’t care about my marriage, I acted like she was my good friend, and we had a pretty natural evening. Looking back, that was kinda bizarre. Then again, the meeting wasn’t by chance, so we had time to set it up with my wife.
Not proud of it, I’m just saying I can answer this from my own experience :/

Some get off on it, others can’t handle the pressure. I’ve been the mistress often. I certainly don’t get off on it.

I really don’t know, but i do know that when I was cheated on the other guy was simply matter of fact. My guess was he felt some sense of success.
When I was out of the picture after splitting because of it, I really didn;t give a s^*t and doubt he felt the same as he did before.

Nervously paranoid! Heh!

I’ve been trying to think of scenarios for this. It seems to me there are accidental scenarios and on purpose scenarios. If it’s on purpose, then the man or the mistress must have planned it for some kind of dramatic encounter or just so the man can feel powerful or something because he can get away with it.

I suppose if the mistress arranged it so there could be some kind of confrontation, then he would be pretty anxious about it. The mistress would either be crazy if she thinks she could get him away from his wife by doing this, or she might just be trying to create damage because she didn’t care about anybody.

If it’s accidental, it could happen one of two ways. The man could be with his wife when he meets his mistress. That would he easier than the other way around. The mistress would know to stay away and there would generally be no issue of introductions or explanations.

But if he was with his mistress and his wife suddenly showed, then things would be very awkward. He’s have to think quick to offer a plausible explaination of who she is and what they were together. Maybe he could say she was a colleague from work. But if it was a more social occasion, things could get dicey.

I think most men would be pretty nervous but they’d try not to show it. Still, I’d think they might get a little too quiet or a little overly hyper. Very few could be cool and act as if nothing was different, I wouldn’t think.

It also depends on how suspicious the wife is. Does she suspect something, or is she assuming he’s the perfect husband. If she not suspecting anything, it would be easier to tell her lies and have her believe them. If you’re going to cheat, you want a secure woman to cheat on. She’ll not imagine you would do that. If you have an insecure wife, watch out, because she’ll be watching you like a hawk whereever you go and whatever you do. You’ll always get the third degree.

It probably does bear saying that it’s the same the other way around. People tend to think that women don’t cheat, but it isn’t true. Sometimes the husbands find out something, and then the relationship can become very tense. The husband doesn’t see anything, but he is always watching; trying to catch her out. In a way, he becomes her jailer.

So if he knows she’s done something, but she tells him its over and he doesn’t believe her, then everywhere the go, he’s watching to see if she acts weird. She might meet her lover, but she’d have to be very cool. So would the lover. It would be quite nerve wracking. I doubt if anyone would want to do it, either male or female, unless they are danger junkies.

So mostly I’m thinking that people who meet both spouse and lover at the same time just want to get out of there as soon as possible. They would probably suddenly develop a headache or a stomach ache or something.

I walked in on my boyfriend in bed with another girl and he didn’t even bother to get up… I just walked out and then he could stop calling me the girl ended up getting my number from his cell phone and calling me and I had to call the police because of threats she made to me. I broke up with him and he was calling me to try to get back to get together with me all the time and I kept saying no. It wasn’t till the cops told him to and her to go away and threatened them with being arrested for harrasing and her threats to me that they finally went away but I cant say what they were feeling when I walked in and caught them in bed together. It was pretty sad considering I was dating him for over a year and we were talking marriage. I stopped dating and having sex altogether for over seven years because it caused me to have trust issues with people.

Nervously.

They act consterned.

I think the answer to this question can also be found in the definitions listed for this recent question.
word to describe utter wrongness

I’m just wondering if the mistress thinks it’s a big joke on the legitimate wife or the girfriend to try to steal the guy. Or if the mistress somehow feels entitled to break up someone else’s relationship. Is it because because she’s just stupid or just mean or just lazy? Or is it that she’s simply incapable of finding her own man?

I hope the man and the mistress feel, at the very least, shame.

@chyna I agree with you there but you really never know, they may just thing they are just getting away with everything and its really really sad!