What is sacred in a marraige?

Its not very different than what your doing right now….....

My SO does the same thing and it drives me nuts! I am about to take a job in the company he works for, and it will be very uncomfortable for me because he has told his co-workers way too much personal stuff about me. I wish I could tell you how to get him to strop, but I haven’t had much success with that myself. I think once I start the job, I will give him a little taste of his own medicine. That should make him put a cork in it!!

In my experience people are very emotional about their money. It sounds like money means different things to you both. Maybe you can spend some time trying to understand what it means to him while explaining what it means to you. Maybe, he will become more sensitive to your feelings & talk less about it with this clarity. And, maybe it won’t bother you as much understanding what it means to him? Good luck to you, this can be a difficult problem.

I see this as a serious problem,also. Perhaps you need a trained third party to help him listen to you.And perhaps to help discover why he needs to spread so much private info around, particularly since he knows it upsets you. Personal and private matters are just that. And your financial affairs are NO ONE’s else’s business.

@ gailcalled~~ Wise woman. There are things in a marriage/partnership that need to be private. Even if you don’t agree on everything you need to have each others back.

He clearly has a different set of values than you do. There are plenty of things that are far worse than this.

If you can’t negotiate this between the two of you, then you should find a neutral party to help you iron it out. It isn’t always about getting what you want in a relationship, it’s about both parties doing what’s necessary to make it work and that means compromises from both parties.