Why can't we have a baby ?

Have you seen a doctor about this? If not, go right away. One or the other or both of you could be infertile.

You need to go to the doctor.

Don’t assume it’s you, either. It’s just as likely your husband doesn’t produce viable sperm as it is that you’re infertile.

You’ve only had sex 6 times this year? That’s not trying if you want a baby. You need to have it at least that often during your fertile week each month.

If you;re pretty sure you are ovulating properly each month, your husband’s semen may not have enough sperm, or they may not have enough motility. A sperm sample evaluation can determine that. And make sure you husband doesn’t wear briefs but rather boxers, and no going in a hot tub.

We tried for 3yrs. At just the time we decided as a couple that we’d get doctors involved if we didn’t get pregnant withing the following two months, we got pregnant.

If you aren’t keeping a Natural Family Planning Log you should employ it prior to seeking medical involvement. It will help you know your cycles, and will give your doctor(s) an accurate accounting of how many times you’ve tried to concieve during your ovulation.

If you feel like keeping a log will be difficult for you due in part to irregular cycles, then I highly recommend an Ovulation Monitor. Every couple I know that has used one to “get pregnant” did so within one year of use. (Besides myself, I know 3 other couples with this success…I know of COUNTLESS others that have done so with NFP)

Most likely there is nothing wrong with either of you but age & timing.

Sex six times so far this year? or tried for six months of this year?

Maybe trying to relax before having sex. Being stressed out can’t help.

There are some good suggestions above – particularly about going to a doctor. Also, I remember when my wife and I started to try to have a baby. It was ridiculous. After 4 months, I was regretting the tons of money I had spent on condoms over the years. For many people this can be tough work. Yep, work. It involves a bit of some unromantic planning.

Anyway, see a doctor and maybe read a book. Taking Charge of Your Fertility seems to be the book within my wife’s circles.

First off, I’m sorry you are struggling with getting pregnant. Since you have been trying and you have not been successful, getting the both of you checked out would be a good idea. You both need to see your doctor’s and either have them do the tests or refer you to a reproductive specialist. You will need to have some blood tests done and your husband would need a semen analysis.

You are only fertile for about 24 hours each cycle. Your husband’s sperm can live for several days inside of you. So, ideally, you would have sex a day or two before your ovulate (you can buy ovulation prediction kits at the store near the pregnancy tests).

There are a lot of theories about how often you should have sex. Some professionals say you should have sex every other day to keep his supply up and healthy. If you go long stretches without sex, the sperm that are in his testicles can die before they even get to you. Having sex every other day means his body will be producing fresh, live sperm for when the time comes for you to have sex. During your fertile period, some professionals say to keep having sex every other day, while others say to do it daily. However, having sex several times in one day can actually lessen his supply (he needs time for his sperm to be reproduced and to get a good amount).

If I were in your position, I’d start with a trip to the doctor’s at this point so that you could be sure each of you is able to have children before you stress about other methods. Good luck!

I’m also wondering what you mean by trying to get pregnant 6 times.

The overall statistics on fertility is that if 100 couples are having sex on average twice a week without using any birth control, 80 of them will have gotten pregnant by the end of the first year. Another 10 out of the remaining 20 will be pregnant by the ned of the second year. At that point, the last 10 couples have fertility issues. If they go on to have a full fertility workup, about ⅓ will have female related infertility, ⅓ male factor, and the last ⅓ still unknown, with nothing definitive turning up.

In RL, I’m a GYN nurse practitioner, and if a couple is actively trying to get pregnant, we usually suggest giving it 2 years before starting testing if the woman is in her 20s, 1 year if she’s 30–35, and 6 months if she’s 35 or older.

Infertilty testing can get very expensive and invasive pretty quickly, and most health insurance policies won’t cover any of it. There are some first steps that are pretty reasonable and can yield quite a bit of information – your GYN care provider can tell you more.

I’m not being crass or insensitive… But Chlamydia is often carried between both partners undetected and over time it can cause infirtility. Go to a doctor and have a work-up

Maybe his swimmers are being used on someone else? You just wrote this question . If the answer to that is yes, it could very well be the reason why you aren’t getting pregnant. My husband saved his swimmers up for Ovulation Day FUN!

Don’t try to have a baby with a man who is kissing someone else.

Clear your doubts and insecurities about your husband first. Then plan on having a family. Otherwise it won’t be fair to you and mostly the ‘baby’.

Call a reproductive endocrinologist they can run all sorts of tests on you and on your husband to make sure all is working right on both of you. There can be any number of things that can go haywire or nothing at all where you are just plain and simple trying too hard. Just look up your local Reproductive Endocrinologist and they will tell you all you need to know and help if necesscary. But adoption is a great option if you don’t end up having one of your own just keep an open mind I got my two through the adoption.

If you think your husband may be cheating, then it may be possible that he had a vasectomy so that he can have fun and play two sides without the worry of getting either of you pregnant.

@MRSHINYSHOES I would never have thought of that. I guess that is more from a guys perspective.