Is my husband cheating ?

Why does your 37 year old husband have an 18 year old female friend?

If kissing another woman is cheating to you, then yes he is. It’s really hard to define cheating because everyone seems to have a different line they draw for what cheating is. Have the two of you ever sat down and defined what cheating is to each of you? If not, you need to talk about it now and let him know how you feel. Good luck!

First off, why is this (and the previous two questions) in Meta?
This friend, who might that be?
Not that it matters that much, because if he cuddles and kisses her and tells her that he loves her then I think something is completely wrong between you and him.
Partners usually are exclusive to each other (or they must have an agreement of sorts).

Why are you trying to have a baby with a man that is cuddling and kissing a woman 19 years younger than him, who is not his wife? This whole story is strange.

You’re considering having a baby with a man that may be cheating? Something here isn’t making sense to me.

I wouldn’t touch this question with a condom and a pitch fork!

@ANef_is_Enuf jinx!!!

I don’t think he is, but he really wants to be.

I read this and went, whaaaaaat!!!!
I read the other posted questions and thought:
This is fantastic material for a new book!!!

ty ty ty

“he kisses her and tells her he loves her” to me this is an instant yes. But that is because I would consider kissing alone to be cheating. .

However I suspect that is not what you are asking at all, you want to know if he is having sex, that I can’t answer. My instinct would be to agree with @Imadethisupwithnoforethought and say he is probably trying to.

EDIT:

After reading your other questions, I would advise you to turn and run while you can. Don’t have a kid with someone who you suspect is cheating. Confront him and put him in his place, and if he does not take no for an answer divorce his ass.

Here’s a quarter, go buy a clue.

In my book, this would be your husband has already started shacking up with your replacement.

By the way, @Square93 , would you care to respond to what the Fluther members have written to you not that you have to, I was just wondering what your thoughts on the answers are?

Does he kiss her on the ckeek or the lips?

I hope you aren’t insulted, but I wonder about your background. What nationality are you? What is your native language? What level of education do you have? What kind of work do you do? How long have you been married? How did you meet your husband? Where do you live? Is it common for husbands to have female friends that are much younger than they are and to cuddle and kiss them in front of their wives? Is it common for husbands to cry to the parents at age 37?

This stuff doesn’t make sense to me. I’ve never heard anything like it, and I’ve seen a lot. Your husband doesn’t seem very mature, but you also seem pretty passive. More passive than most American women would be. Is there some reason why you don’t feel you can say anything to your husband about this? Can you tell him your concerns? Are you afraid to talk to him?

All I can say is that this situation is very strange and I don’t know what to make of it. If you have an open relationship, then that’s one thing. But you sound concerned. I don’t know why you haven’t voiced your concerns to you husband. Why haven’t you told him you don’t want to see him kiss his girlfriend in front of you. What kind of kiss is it? A peck on the cheek or are they locking lips? What kind of cuddling is it? Do they just hug, or are they lying on the couch spooning? Does he touch her appropriately or intimately? Does he touch her breasts in front of you? Do they press themselves together?

What, exactly, is going on?

How does he kiss her? If it’s a 5 minute kiss on the lips then it’s cheating.

Oh good God. How old are you, again?

Did zombies steal your brains?
/facepalm

@WillWorkForChocolate Ah, I just understood the question. It makes sense if you factor in the zombies.

He’s certainly thinking in that direction.

To follow @wundayatta thought it may have to do with where you live too?

Bottomline, if you are all realated, then it’s not cheating.

More info from the OP would be helpful. There have been a lot of questions asked here and no answers yet from OP. OP, where are you?

Yes, he is cheating on you.

The energy, thought and time he should be committing to your relationship he is pouring instead onto this girl.

Not to mention kissing. hand holding and telling her “he loves her”.

Yes.

Shouldn’t it be the other way around? You kissing him and he holding your hands? HMM.