Shouldn't she stop calling my husband?

Does she know your husband is married?
Try and think about it in her shoes. If she had a good friendly relationship with your husband at work, that might be all it is. Approach your husband too, see what he thinks about why she might be doing it.

How does your husband feel about these calls?
Chances are he feels slightly guilty about her getting fired, since he works in that same place. Maybe he’s not discouraging the calls because he feels he owes her?
And as long as he entertains it, she’ll keep leaning on him…..doesn’t sound like she’s the type to take it in her stride and move on.

I talk to him and he doesn’t seem to think it’s a big deal.

You may be right. I think he feels guilty because he knew she was being let go before he did, but it wasn’t his place to say anything. I just wish he would be as supportive to me as he seems to be to her.

You should tell him that.

Thank you both. This site is great! It’s nice to get other people’s perspective. :o)

No problem….and welcome to Fluther ;)
You’re right, it is a great site for getting insights and perspectives :)

I would ask him how he would feel if you were taking calls from a man.

I think he would say itwouldn’t bother him, but it really would.

emotional affairs are still affairs

Try to be laid-back and nonchalant when you approach the issue. That way he doesn’t feel the need to get defensive and if he is, that could be a suspicious indicator.

awkward!