Guys: Have you ever let "The one" go because of your friends influence?

Those who need appeasement in order to have a relationship with you are neither friends nor deserving family.

Their reasons for giving unwanted advice are much less important than why you have been so easily swayed. We educate, understand and fortify ourselves only. The rest is a waste of time and energy.

@gailcalled I was the girl… and I’m glad you understand. Thanks!

I’m not a guy but I did have one who let me go because friends of his thought I expected him to financially support me. They were wrong but for whatever reason, he didn’t have the faith in me to want to keep me.

I look back on this involvement now and feel more like @gailcalled, if he was so easily swayed without talking to me in depth first, we wouldn’t have made it as a longterm couple.

Yes. But after a while I just said “f it” and went back for her. Eventually it all worked out fine and now they are good friends ^^

Never happened to me, but if I were truly with “the one,” I would probably put her over my friends’ influences.

@Neizvestnaya I can’t stand it when people listen to fools rather than from the horses mouth. Nobody knows what you are capible of but you, and too many times men fail us in seeing our potential if they would only inspire it… It sucks! I hope that you found someone who does love you. Life is very long lived with someone who doesn’t love you. I know this!

My ex actually assumed that I should be happy taking care of all of his needs, making sure that everything, every aspect of his needs were met in secure and safe assurance, but it was okay for him to make me live in fear that he wasn’t able to or wanted to come through because he never put the effort into anything other than his own interests.

We were NOT a “team” as is supposed to be, and the more he said “I love you.” and did absolutely nothing to show it, the more resentful I became.

How could a man believe that a woman is happy sitting on her duff shoveling the shit against the tide? What I needed, and what I wanted and asked for, and yelled for and never got… What the emotional, mental and physical support, that he was never once at a want for, that I in turn never once had.

His love… was likened to a rich man, handing a woman a wad of cash and saying “Here, go buy yourself something nice.” WIth the money that is supposed to pay a bill or secure a future. It was 9 years of sickness and after the pain and the shock of his “Punishment” of cheating on me, and then leaving me for his boss… I realized how it was the very best thing that ever happened to me.

@GabrielsLamb: As much as I hurt over that situation, as much as I wanted to “prove myself”, it’s for the better I learned early rather than late that particular man wasn’t man enough to deal straight with me, put me first, show some faith. Maybe his friends also knew something I didn’t. Maybe they knew his fickle nature and frequent infatuations, that he’d end up feeling trapped if he took on a serious relationship with a serious person like me.

In any case, I do have someone who loves me very much, enough to go through thick and thin and keep after me as I slowly grew out of my hurt, suspicion, defensiveness and bitterness in order to let my love come through. I believe there are several good matches out there for each of us and that love has a way of finding us even when we try to put our heads in the sand.

@Neizvestnaya *I’m glad that you’re happy… You deserve it! *And points too! *Smiles.

The only reason I’m with my husband is because he could tell his mother, politely, to go fuck herself when she tried every trick in the book to pry us apart.

@tranquilsea YAY for Hubby! *That point respectfully was for him… *Smiles.

No, partly because I dunno if I’ve met “the one” yet. However, I have had friends screw me out of girls before. Several times, as a matter of fact. Yes, it sucks, very hard, but it made me realize I had to be more self-reliant when it came to girls.

In my first marriage I married a guy who’s family and friends didn’t support me.
When he died, I swore that I would never again get into a relationship with someone who’s family didn’t adore me. It was really miserable.

@Judi we kind of solved that part by moving very far away. That being said dealing with his mother has been one of the most stressful things I have ever had to deal with.