Am I required to give a speech at an engagement party?

Be prepared to offer one. What does she do for a living?

She is assistant director at a before and after school program. she’s also my boss

You are generally expected to say nice things about the bride (often some memory regarding the two of you that might indicate how close you two are, and thus why she chose you to be the maid of honor), how great the married couple will be together, and how much everyone wishes them the best. The best man will take care of making fun of them.

Yikes. Have one ready. Definately a nice one since she’s your boss. Has she helped you out at work?

Well she was my best friend way before she was my boss. I try to keep work and personal life as separate as possible.

A nice story about something she has done at work to make someone’s life easier would be a good tribute.

I don’t think you will be required to or need to make a speech of any kind. It think engagement parties are reasonably informal but you might want to prepare a little short toast for the couple.

Sure, but keep it short and sweet aka ‘I’ve known Jenny both as a friend and as a colleague for x amount of time and am honored to now serve as her maid of honor as she begins the beautiful journey of marriage with John. I am confident their many years together will bring them joy and fulfillment and hope to be able to share in their happiness for many more years to come”.

Yes. It should be 6.5 minutes ending with a toast.