What would you do if you were taped, and the conversation was doctored and altered with intent to malign you?

Yes… This is true. Any Flutherers laywers?

Did it happen in the US? If so, what state?

Well, if it were me I would find a group of less venomous friends.

@YoBob Not friends… Supposed intimate partners.

@bkcunningham United States yes.

I sent you a PM with a link, @GabrielsLamb.

@bkcunningham Thank You very much

I separated from her.

I would get the tape analyzed by a forensic expert and provide the evidence of doctoring to people who mattered. Of course, it might not matter. People tend to go with first impressions, and don’t pay nearly as much attention to contravening data.

You might also try to smear the reputation of the other person. That would be a better strategy. It’s a game theory tactic called “tit for tat.” Take a picture of this person and doctor it in photoshop to make it look like they are engaged in seamy sexual practices like golden showers. A picture is worth a thousand words. They only have tape.

I would so do that. Once they engage in fraud, the gloves are off. They no longer deserve any consideration at all. It would be a complete delight to doctor up a picture and send it out to all their friends. Or post it on Facebook. Make them get a restraining order or something.

Plus you could email-bomb them with all kinds of disgusting stuff. Better yet, set up a fake return email address so it looks like the email is coming from them and then send out all kinds of disgusting material to their friends.

Yikes! This is too much fun! You could set up a series of fake email addresses and send him compromising material from them. Find out where he or she hangs out online, and then set up an entrapment by an underage teenager. Set up a meeting and then when he shows, take pictures of him.

You could go on and on with this. He or she has opened Pandora’s box when he or she resorted to that kind of tactic. I would tell him he needs to send out a retraction, or you are going to make his or her life a living hell. Give him or her a little taste first—perhaps a ham-fisted version of the photograph, with the the warning—next time a professional will make this.

How the hell did they get all that recorded material?

I don’t want to do back to another person what they have done to me… I just want to be left alone quite frankly. This was a trust used against me under the guise of intimacy so it hurts on top of everything else. It was done on purpose, and with malicious intent.

Ever pretend that you “Loved” someone in order to get them to open up and talk and then have that person use everything you said against you? Imagine your wife or GF telling all of your pillow talk to whomever might listen, and when enough wasn’t said that might hurt them, you altered the information and made it sound worse than it actually was.

It sucks… and it has pretty much destroyed my life because people believe whatever suits their fancy and whatever is hurting someone, it is their great pleasure to take as far as they can take it because there is no personal investment or responsability in it for them other than a free ticket to torment another person for shits and giggles.

I can understand not wanting to do it back, but if you want it to stop, it’s supposed to be the best method. You can not be nice. You can not be understanding. It’s just business. The person can not expect to get away with it with no consequences. They will keep on harassing you until you stop them.

That is horrible damnable behaviour and there may not be much you can do about it. I would look in Findlaw for a lawyer who specialises in defamation. You could also take it to the police, they may be able to give you advice and perhaps they could provide a copy of an official police report. On the other hand you could continue to look people in the eye and let it blow over. You have done nothing wrong.

If it caused financial harm, you could sue them. Altered tapes are easy to detect. If it was emotional harm among a small group of people, there is little you can do, other than show by your actions it is fake.

@YARNLADY I wish it were a “Small number of people.” it’s a bit beyond that.

@flutherother It happens. I think more than people care to realize too in that most people believe it can never happen to them.

it is fruestrating too because you have to assume, because no one ever admits it.

It could actually be one of two different situations and accusations do no good because the burden of proof as you know, is on me.

It all depends on what message it would send. Most would want to get rid of me. But most people know if I say something I don’;t need to be heard on a tape because I’d repeat that idea anytime and anywhere. Most friends/family know if I say it’s not true then it’s not so I wouldn’t bother.

I COULD CARE LESS ^^

Even when there is proof that someone is maligned, celebrities cannot protect themselves against it, and seldom even try.

I, personally, was the subject of a lawsuit that contained false accusations, and was eventually thrown out of court. The false accusations are still all over the internet, available to anyone who knows my real name. She accused me of many vile things, even though I had never even heard of her, or met her.

They were made by an insane woman who was convicted of stalking and served 5 years in a mental facility. She later changed the claims against me, saying they were the product of an alien who had control of her mind, and led her believe it was me, but the original internet accusations are still there.