Did it mean something or am I reading to much into it?

Not very easy to tell if he might still like you based on a wave that may or may not have been meant for you. You did say you were really far away from each other. But assuming it was indeed for you and he was not just being polite and that whatever happened that made you think he disliked you is not that bad, my guess would be, yes he could still be open for friendly relations.

If you can speak to him, it will be easier to tell if he is ok with you. Can you get nearer to him and start a conversation?

It’s difficult to say, it’s almost like playing roulette. The statistics that you win are an equal chance to those that say you might lose.

The best way to know anything for certain is to be honest and ask.

Otherwise, let it go. Trust me, it does no good holding on to things that split apart probably for good reasons. If in looking forward, he opts to be one of those things that you see, then it will happen all on its own.

Fate is fate, for all out good hopes and wished, it sort of tend to itself regardless.

Welcome to Fluther! There’s an old saying: Time will tell.

Welcome to Fluther.
It’s best to say, go with the flow. Don’t read much into it.
Could be nothing, could be something.

Oy! I think we women often try to read more meaning into things that guys intend. See how things go if you talk.

Hi Welcome to Fluther.

So you say that you two used to like each other. Let’s start from there. Did you ever date? Or was it just more like friendly flirting? Did something happen that made you think that maybe he stopped liking you?

You said you had been sick and not at work for a week, when did you get the feeling that maybe he wasn’t interested in you? Did that happen before you were out sick or after you came back? How long were you guys flirting before he started to cool off?

Is it possible that he has a girlfriend now (maybe that you were unaware of)? Boys have a tendency to change the way they act from one day to the next and it’s usually because a girl has come into the picture, or their male friends have teased them.

It’s hard to say what he may or may not be thinking. I’m guessing that you and this fellow used to talk and have conversations right? Or was it all kind of just flirting from afar?

Unfortunately for you, and all the rest of us, we can’t let shyness or some type of “social anxiety” get in our way, or else we will rely on it as a crutch and never gain the tools that we need to carry on real relationships with people, male or female, or as potential mates, or as just friends.

Since you guys work at the same mall, make a point of seeking him out and ask him if he’d like to get a cup of coffee with you. You can tell a few things by his answer and his reaction.

Here are some likely scenarios.

He might say,“Uh, no I’m not really into coffee.” Then you could suggest, “Well we could just go and get a coke.” If he says no again, or hems and hahs, he’s probably not interested (although we might never know why)

Or he might say, “Sorry, I can’t I gotta get to XY and Z.” Then you could say, “Well maybe some other time then.” He’ll either say “Yeah, OK” with a smile, or “Yeah maybe” with no expression or a shocked expression. Ok means he would like you to ask him again. Maybe most likely means no, but he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.

“Or he might say, “Oh, I can’t right now, but how about tomorrow?” That would be very good. To which you should reply, “Ok, I’ll talk to you/text you then.”

Or he might say, “I can’t, I’m going out with Jenny.” which probably means he has a girlfriend. He might not even be hiding the fact, but guys don’t run around announcing to other people that they have a girlfriend. In that case you should just say, “Oh yeah, bye. Well have a good time.” And smile sweetly.

If you happen to be friends with either a boy or a girl who also knows this fellow, you could discreetly ask them what they know.

Whatever you do, just continue to be nice and friendly, even if it doesn’t turn out the way you want. Things tend to have a way of turning around or changing pretty quickly. So always be the kind of person that people like to be around, be resilient and open to changing situations. Even if you find out that he has a girfriend, be nice about that, and be nice to the girl if you meet her. Don’t be weepy or sullen around him, just be nice and pleasant.

If I would have learned to be a pleasant conversationalist early in my life, it would have saved me a lot of grief LOL. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out the way you want it to. : )