Should I get married then?

sure

It’s really up to you. If you love your partner and you feel that you have a great foundation on which you can build a marriage, go for it. If you’ve only been dating for a couple months, I’d give it some time. I think the general rule of thumb is three years.

My you grew up fast!! Last thread you said you were in 8th grade…..

hmmmm…..

maybe i missed sumthin… <runs back to reread>

I agree completely with what @silverfly said.

As I said in my last answer, before that time comes, you’ll probably have changed your mind a hundred more times so… Best not to do that after the marriage license is signed no?

Nobody knows the best time to marry or if to get married at all but you.

But anything worth knowing, or having is worth waiting for so that you can be sure.

Pfffttt. Hell, no. What’s the hurry?

Get a job, get a career, travel, meet people, expand your horizons, and then decide if you’re ready to get married. Think what a more balanced, well-rounded, interesting person you’ll be for her.

A sophomore in college is what, 19–20? IMO that is wwwaaayyyy too young to get married – even if you have been together three or more years.

Nope.

When you are a sophomore in college, which by my reckoning will be in about six years time, it will still be too early.

It doesn’t matter. @EnchantingEla Yeah it’s a youngin’ not claiming to be a Sophomore.

IMO, people should wait until 30 to get married. Some people are mature enough after 25.

You should not set a time to be married, but wait until you see what life has in store for you. You should get married when you feel like the time is right to make that commitment to your partner.

Try asking your gf out on a date just between the two of your first before you get any ideas of marriage.

You’re 13 now, and haven’t even kissed her so no.
Troll.

I advise you to wait until you’re at least 25.

Just wait until you have shaved for the first time; then get engaged and use the money from the job.

From two weeks ago. Guys, keep your antennae up.

“So, I’m 13, too young for a job and my parents are divorced so it would be hard to get one right now anyway.”

What would you say to someone asking a group of strangers over the internet? My general rule of thumb is not to do anything in relationships unless you are 100% sure. There comes a point when you know in your heart that if your partner got hit by a beer truck and needed their ass wiped tomorrow – you would be there to wipe it. I would say you will be ready, once it comes to that point.

If you have to ask the answer is no.

@Buttonstc that is my thoughts as well!

My first reaction to the ‘big letter’ question: “Should I get married?” (this is no joke): If you’re not certain to your core that you should marry, then you should not.

If you’re not sure, then no.

If you were really ready, there’d be no need to ask strangers on the internet.

I did….get married when I was a sophomore. And was summarily divorced when I grew up a few years later, and realized that my husband had not grown up at all.

The answer? No. Do not get married. Until you hit 50. You should know then by now what constitutes a good marriage….or feel as I do, that marriage is not needed. At all. At any time. Love doesn’t need a piece of paper.

PSHT! It’s overrated and misunderstood.

One does not need to get married to go dancing

I don’t know…I wouldn’t advise it. Is there any reason why you can’t wait?

How could we know? A sophomore in college might be 17 or 50, might be immature or not, might be with the right life partner or not. We don’t know.

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As others have said, you can’t really decide these things in advance. You have no idea what will be happening in your life in seven years. You may think you’re in love right now, and if you’re lucky you will still be in seven years, but you’ll have to be incredibly lucky.

In general, I don’t think it is a good idea to get married while in college. Most people wait until they graduate. If you get married, you may start a family and then you may find you can’t finish your education because you have to get work to support your family. There are many other things that could happen that make marriage in college problematic.

Of course, many people do get married in college. I don’t know how long those marriages last, on average, but I suspect it’s not that long. It takes a certain maturity to be able to handle a marriage, but then, some people don’t get that maturity until they are forty, if ever.

Other things factor into this, too, such as religion and culture and social background. So no one can really tell you what will be best for you. Indeed, you can’t tell yourself that. Just wait and live life and learn as much as you can and experience as much as you can. Then see what you see.

IMHO, if you have to ask if you should get married on a social Q&A site, the the answer is a very firm no!

Are you filthy rich, in California?