Yes… The “pattern” goes like this: *And it never fails… No matter what I do.
They come in to the situation knowing exactly who and what I am, how I can be at times,and how I behave.
They court and persue me, they lie and say “I love you” believing or feeling that is what I need to hear to make them feel less like sc*mbags for the fact that it isn’t true. Then, when I find out they are lying sacks of refuse and useless sacks of human unwanted baby brew… I get angry, they lie and tell me “That’s not true, I really do love you.” and then I believe them again thinking maybe I’m just being difficult? Because I CAN be difficult, so I give them another chance, and guess what? They do it all over again.
By now… I am a pissed off, belligerent, b*tch because you just got over on me, twice…
And I’m hurt and angry (two things I often get confused) then I leave, he apologizes and promises that it will never happen again, promises me it’s all his fault, or… says he has no idea what I’m talking about and convinces me that I’m actually being unreasonable and difficult…
Then the whole “One more chance” bullshit happens and guess what? Then I usually go nuts and threaten him, and spit out other various seemingly insane and irrational things that fly out of my mouth like a bat out of hell…
Then he get’s pissed off and blames it all on me because I am a “Crazy b*tch” and of course he didn’t do anything wrong, he is a saint and should have Jesus wash HIS feet!
and then he shoves his new bi*ch in my face and puts me down for everything I ever did for him, anything I ever gave him and justifies his own shitty behavior by throwing me under the bus to make himself look like a decet person, (no matter what he did to me) praises his new bitch because she is just as oblivious and belligerent as he is, and she coddles his stupid ass and agrees with him when he claims he is perfect no matter what kind of bullshit he pulls on her too…
And I lose valuable life space and time out of my life that I can never get back again wasted on liars, d*uchebags and infamous narcissistic megalomaniac liars.
All of them… Every single one of them has used me for everything good I had ever given them, done for them, helped them to create, loved them through and supported them through.
For what? Nothing… NOT ONE OF THEM, has even been worth the breath it took to say their names. Useless idiots that should have had the shit knocked out of them by their mothers for treating women like garbage disposals.
That is what I find and what finds me… Whether or not I know it or see it ahead (I don’t do that anymore, you can’t turn an idiot back into the man that he never was in the first place…nay nay nay, don’t bother!) ... or if I learned it the hard way after it was too late and there were feelings and emotions that I couldn’t just turn off that is what I get regardless.
No matter what I have ever done…right, wrong, kind, mean, good, bad… It never mattered
THIS is the pattern men follow with me. It has been a collosal waste of a life, my youth, my sanity, my heart and my body.
Which is exactly why… I want nothing, and no one anymore. I will never do it to myself ever ever again. It’s just not worth this aggrevation, heartache and bullshit.
Even if I could believe any one of them that approaches me at this point, I wouldn’t bother anyway. Love isn’t worth this much… It’s not all that big a deal really and I say if a person can live without… then DO live without. Otherwise it’s a needful thing and a waste of time.
*For me… Not for everyone. I know some of you love junkies manage your addiction rather nicely… As for me, I am CLEAN and QUITE sober!