Should I go out of my way to bump into him?

Are you seeking a more relationship? If so, have you talked to him about it?

Why are you considering avoiding him?

I feel like its not going anywhere, like were going to just spend the rest of the year walking past each other every friday, and just saying hi and that’s it. The only reason I take that route is to see him. I just feel like hes not attempting to contact me. Im always the first to smile and say hi when we bump into each other.

Well… it sounds like he’s just not that into you.

Sounds harsh, but he doesn’t call you or text you, doesn’t go out of his way to see you, doesn’t say hi to you. What do you think you have here?

I think he used to like me, he used to do all of the above, and I broke his heart by rejecting him. It wasn’t intentional just a misunderstanding, I tried to fix it but it was to late damage was done. Every since he doesn’t try anymore. I don’t know if I should just stop trying to make it be back to how it used to be. I keep saying hi first and being really sweet, but he still hasn’t attempted to contact me first should I give up? Does this change anything or is it still most likely that he’s just not that into me.

Think of it this way: you have spent how much time of your week or even just your day plotting out how and when to walk by this guy for two seconds of his time to say Hi. All of that time and effort for just a hello or even a nod in your direction. Is it worth it?

@momololo Sounds like you blew this one. Lesson learned.

When I was a kid, I got a job in a pet store to be around the guy that I had a crush on… I got nothing for my efforts and I ended up cleaning puppy kennels…

He never noticed… not once.

I suggest you find a guy that is willing to go out of his way for you, better… no?

Lesson learned

I think you need to reach out to him, explain you regret rejecting him and wish he was in your life, and ask him out!

You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. He has learned that once a girl rejects you to not keep after her. He will never ask you out first, so if you want to go out with him you have to make the first move.

I believe it’s never too late… that’s the hopeless romantic in me : )
You can’t make someone miss you and you don’t want to settle for crumbs of attention. If you do, that may be all you will ever get : (
Personally, I would stop going out of my way to run into him.
If a guy wants to be with a girl, he will.

@GabrielsLamb I would love to work at a pet store with all the puppies. One of my sons and I will be volunteering at the human society in town here. It’s gonna be so fun!

Stop him one of those fridays and ask him if he is trying to avoid you. Be honest. Tell him you miss hanging around with him and if you did something to offend him.
If its a relationship you want to explore than let him know that too and tell him that if he is not interested that you won’t be offended and wish him well. Life is too short to go about wondering all the time what is on someones mind.

Im so conflicted of what to do
If I dont go I’ll wonder if he was hoping to see me, but at the same time i’ll be able to heal and move on from a guy who’s hurt my heart in he past. I just feel like if he really cared about me then he would have atleast have sent me one little text in the last month to catch uo. But he never has.

There’s a saying I always find that best describes this kind of situation.
Shit or get off the pot.
Wondering isn’t going to get you anywhere.

Quit playing head games. Quit obsessing. Go up and have a REAL conversation with him and ACCEPT any answer he gives. If he wants to hang with you then do so but if he is not that into you then deal with it and move on.

Nah, there’s other fish in the pond.

@momololo Ask him to go out for coffee with you. Then talk to him. Tell him that you miss talking to him. If you can bring up the inadvertant rejection do so, and tell him that you didn’t mean it.

Don’t give up until you try to fix it.

@momololo It’s now Friday after class. Did you go ask him out?