Can you help me with the wording in this note?

You could give your kid the 9 invitations to hand out, without names on them.

I would ask first and then re-do it.

Supacase Jr. would very much like to invite All GIRL Classmates to her birthday party

The teacher can’t tell me the names of the kids over the phone or through email – so I would have to go in.

I thought about using “your daughter.” Is that too generic?

@fizzbanger Can’t do it. Invitations sent through class only if all students are invited. I am not inviting 23 kids to my house even if she did want to invite boys!

@Supacase No, I don’t think “your daughter” is too generic. The kids will be delighted to be invited.

@Supacase Oh no, I forgot about schools being all P.C. and whatnot nowadays :(

Why don’t you just say “would like to invite you to her…” and “we would still like to include you….”

Please ask your parents to contact me on….

Then hand nine of these to the teacher. Also saves the teacher having to make sure the right student gets an invite. If the student is female, she gets a note.

If you drop off or pick up your daughter from school, go a bit early and see if you can catch Emma’s parent to talk to them directly? (pending they drop off/pick up also)

I’m confused by this part:

”Since she has asked for a girls-only fairy party, I am unable to send invitations through school”

This says that because it’s a certain kind of party, the invitations can’t be sent through school. Is that correct? What if it were some other kind of party? (And—I’m sorry, but what’s a fairy party? I’m just curious.)

@Jeruba. I suspect they all come dressed as fairies, with tutus and little wings and eat food like fairy bread and very pretty, delicate cupcakes.

Can’t you daughter find out the new girl’s name?

The invitations can not be passed out in school unless the entire class is invited (all 23 in this case). My children’s school had the same policy.
My guess on the fairy party would be Tinkerbell-like dinnerware, decorations and cake.

…with sparklies!! must have it sparkle ; )

@Jeruba It isn’t because it is a fairy party. It is because it is a girls-only party. Boys won’t be invited, which means the entire class won’t be invited, so I cannot pass invitations out at school. I can leave out the word “fairy”.

A fairy party is a party with a fairy theme. Along the lines of Tinkerbell, but she doesn’t want any famous fairies for some reason.

@janbb She kind of knows the girl’s name, but it is a foreign name and she hasn’t gotten the pronunciation down quite yet. I can think of about 15 ways to spell what it sounds like she is saying.

@Supacase Maybe she could ask the girl to write it down?

They are in Kindergarten. I’m sure the girl knows how to spell her name, but relying on my daughter to remember and take care of this (at an appropriate time so she won’t get in trouble for talking… again) is probably not my best option.

I think I’ll just go with the generic “your daughter” and “her.”

Once I looked up a last name in the phonebook and called them all until I got the correct one : )

I would say ‘your daughter’ and ask for the correct spelling of her name. This would cover both the new girl and the forgotten girl. I’d also make it more clear that it is school policy as some might be as confused as we were:-)