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What can make a person continually stay happy once they see and feel it?

Asked by Mantralantis (1508points) October 16th, 2011

Share with us ‘jellies’, your most likely way, or ways, of keeping things happy for yourself or of anyone that you may know. Thanks.

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JLeslie's avatar

First, happiness is not a constant all day state. I find happiness in focusing on and appreciating the good things around me. When you focus, when you realize you are in a happy moment, time slows a little, and whatever you are experiencing lasts longer. Getting older and having been through some difficult times helps focus on the happy times. I feel much more aware of everything and myself the older I get.

CatieDalleLydon's avatar

When they’re not trying to pursue happiness, it becomes easier. When someone is trying so hard to be happy, they end up more stressed and miserable than they were before. Of course, it is probably impossible to always stay happy. But it’s easier when you just let things go…..... “Let It Bleed…” heehee

dabbler's avatar

“Make a person continually stay happy” I don’t think exists. We have free will to step out of grace, and most of get distracted by concerns and do so.

However, situations that put one in direct experience of transcendental bliss can be so transformational that one can be very motivated to get back to grace and stay there.

From what I can tell there are several spiritual traditions that support an ecstatic experience, including of course a genuine Christian born-again event.
Also Zen satori, Buddhist enlightenment, and the modern scientific enlightenment intensive

downtide's avatar

It’s impossible to constantly stay happy. But the ways I’ve found to help it happen more often:

—be in control of your own life. Don’t contstantly allow other people to make decisions for you; make your own and control the direction your life is going. If there are controlling people in your life, ditch them.

—make time to relax and do fun things even if it means putting off a chore until tomorrow.

—stop worrying about things. 99% of the things you worry about aren’t going to be as bad as you expect, and the other 1%, you can handle.

Ayesha's avatar

@downtide Great answer!!!

wonderingwhy's avatar

Understanding that happiness comes from within, that it is a state of mind separate from circumstance. Learning how to cultivate that state independently and how to maintain it though highs and through lows has worked well for me.

Mantralantis's avatar

To me happiness is…

… the most exciting, chaotic-inducing, rejuvenating, false hope-giving, low-down bubble -headed, get up and jump for joy, painfully temporary, I feel tingles…but wait, snurf-herding wack of cheese…

…lovely feeling I ever come to know. Yeps.

Coloma's avatar

Yes, happiness as everything, is not a constant state of mind. The closest one can get to sustaining happiness is to be content with the way things are.

It’s the Cheryl Crow line of ” it’s not about having what you want, it’s about wanting what you have.” If one makes happiness contingent on some elusive future moment of perfect love, or money, or attaining the next thing, well…you’re never going to get there. ;-)

Mantralantis's avatar

Well, I guess that about sums this question up. Huh, folks?

Okay who just threw the “I’m Not Happy Tomato,” please?

Where’s happiness? Its in the spaces in between. d:^)

YARNLADY's avatar

Years ago I made a pledge to myself to be happy every day, and so far it works. I don’t mean 24/7, but I find a happy thought or deed to dwell on at least once a day.

Once you realize that life has no meaning as such. Whatever meaning you assign is all there is, it becomes much easier.

gr8teful's avatar

I don’t know It is not Intelligence because some very academic people are very unhappy and some not very academic people are happy most of the time.A Dr. would say low-serotonin-levels are the reason-but why are some people born with less serotonin?I think maybe if a person just feels they belong in the World they are much more likely to be happy.If a person feels they don’t belong in the World how can they be happy?

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