How do you feel about scars (on you or on others)?

They all have a story behind them. As for the big ones, I’m damn proud I made it through the events that gave them to me.

As for scars on another person, I don’t care as long as they don’t obsess over them or think that they are ugly because of them. :)

I figure scars are scars wow, how profound and each one probably has a story. I have a bunch, some pretty ugly, others inoffensive, but I’m still walking around, so I’d rather have them. That’s one of the reasons I laugh when people are so concerned about the permanent nature of tattoos…I have lots of scars that aren’t pretty and are just as permanent! Scars on others don’t bother me, it just means something happened and they healed. A good thing, that.

I have a lovely lumpectomy scar; if asked, I would drape it with tinsel and display for the holidays.

Where has this unreal and bizarre notion come from that a body needs to conform to a fantasy ideal that has nothing to do with the way most humans look.

No problem for me, in any circumstance. L’chaim.

Yes, every scar tells a story, and I wear mine as badges of courage and survival. haha

I have a small scar under my eye from being bitten by a dog as a kid. Several others from various other animal bites. A scar on my left shoulder from a horse wreck that needed surgery to pin my shoulder back together. I have a scar from a kidney surgery I had years ago to correct a blocked kidney.
I wear my scars proudly, although most of them are so faded now they are hard to detect.

They really don’t bother me at all. Even acne scars don’t raise an eyebrow for me and everyone knows a scar in the right place can look pretty cool.

I have this teeny little scar across the bridge of my nose. My mother reliably informs me I got it when I was a toddler drinking some milk out of a plastic beaker. Apparently I slipped on a carelesly discarded magazine as I was finishing my drink. It’s barely noticeable & it’s rarely remarked upon.
On anyone else, it’s a non issue, largely because it’s not something i’ve encountered, certainly not with a loved one anyway.

Mine are from childhood accidents with knives and cold frames. They are almost invisible. Scars on a partner wouldn’t bother me unless they were facial. Even then I am sure I could get used to it.

I asked this question just out of curiosity about how other people felt about them. My incision split open after my second surgery and it’s only just now, about five months later, finally starting to grow some skin over the top and hopefully that will be that. I’m gonna have a massive scar from about an inch above my belly button all the way down my abdomen, maybe six or seven inches in total. I find myself not caring much. I don’t think think it’s ugly, and anyone who can’t get past it or can’t find me attractive because of it certainly isn’t the right person for me.

@JilltheTooth, so funny about tattoos, I had never thought of it that way before. What a great point.

Back in the day, my vasectomy scar was worth a few extra points.
Just sayin…

I don’t have any huge scars, just one or two small ones on my hands from all the manly work I’ve done.

Oh, @Mariah , I have a huge scar from a kidney surgery in the 70s that looks like someone tried to cut me in half. People have been more fascinated than repulsed by it.

Mine are part of my history. I look at them and am reminded of how I got them.

I think that if you look at J.R. Martinez, you can see that scars don’t matter. The beauty of his soul shines through clearly.

I don’t know, I don’t think much about them. I don’t have any scars from “heroic tales” nor do I have any surgery scars. All of mine come from being injured while skateboarding or biking and none of them are that noticeable anymore anyway…

Nothing bothers me about scars, though, and sometimes they can be interesting. I had a friend who had thyroid cancer and had surgery in that area and it left a scar. People would ask her about it and sometimes she’d tell them it came from a fight and that “knives were involved”.

For some reason, I just had this thought that if it’s a problem between a man and a woman, then make love in the dark.

The scars I have, and there are a couple good ones, are pretty difficult to miss unless it’s winter and I’m all bundled up. They don’t bother me at all, hold some good memories for me (even the ones that came through less than positive circumstances), and are usually a source of curiosity for others.

On others, I find them interesting because there’s usually a interesting story or conversation lurking underneath them!

With a romantic partner, I’ve never had an issue with the one’s I’ve been with who’ve had various scars (some significant). Though I can see how horribly disfiguring ones could take some getting used to – but if I’m already that interested I’ll manage.

I am not ashamed of my scars. I used to self harm and so there are a few scars on my arms and legs. I covered them when I was still harming but now that I haven’t cut for a good 5 years I don’t bother hiding them. They have all faded quite a bit as well which symbolizes that, not only is my skin healing but hopefully my mind is too.

I feel sorry for people with burns scars on their face but I am in awe of Katie Piper who has sent a message to the world that no one should be ashamed of the way they look.

When I was a kid my Grandmother had her gall bladder removed. Everytime I went to visit her I asked to see her scar! She totally got cool points for that.

I was a very active kid with very little physical-space awareness, so all my scars have stories! I can easily beat most people in one-upping scar discussions, but most of my scars are not initially noticeable.

Each one of my scars are part of my life and I have no problems telling people where they came from if asked. We have all stories of our life and the scars are part of those stories, they don’t bother me on others.

My Aunt whom I love very much has a port wine birth mark on her face and when I was young I never even noticed it until my parents were talking about it and how she wanted to get it tattoo over so it wouldn’t be so noticable. I had to ask them what they were talking about because I just never saw it. I thought she was beautiful regardless and feel its the same way with people and scars, if you love them you don’t even see the scars all you see is the person whom you love.

I hate my scars, but I don’t mind them on other people.

If I were twenty years younger, I might consider a tattoo over my lumpectomy scar. Perhaps a ladder (Jacob’s ladder?) or a stairway to paradise.

However, at present, I want no one touching me with a sharp object.

My wife has birthing scars and they do not bother me in the least.

When you love someone, you love them all the way, scars, tattoos, gunshot wounds.

Its just more to love.

It depends on exactly where they are…but it’s not all bad. If I know the person well enough, I overlook the scar and see it as part of them, not in a bad way, of course. It becomes part of their character, just like what they wear.

Scars are stories. Stories are good.

I love “stretch marks” on a woman’s tummy or lower abdomen.

I have scars all up and down my arms and some on my legs. I really hate them and embarassed by them. Scars on other people? Well, I tend to not noticed. But if I do they do not bother me.

I think scars are wonderful. They say, “I survived” whether it is from surgery or an accident. I am not a fan of scarification because I think you have to earn your scars.

I have a few scars from some more spectacular drunks when I was drinking. Some of them are a reminder to me of why I am sober.

My most visible scar is on my belly from an appendectomy. It doesn’t bother me except it accentuates to me that I need to lose weight.

J.R. Martinez is much more appealing now than he was “before.” His whole demeanor has much to teach us.

Scars are sexy, no matter where they are, or how deep they are.

My wife has a small scar on her nose. For 20 years she lied to me about how she got it. She finally fessed up, saying her father took her fishing, and while she was sitting in the front of the boat, her father tried to cast his line. The hook on his line ran inside my wifes nose, and poked thru the front. Must have blead like a stuck pig.
Anyway, she is embarassed about it, though it isn’t a big deal.
I have several scars, but my favorite is probably on my ankle. It’s from my work boots being tied too tight, but it looks like it came from prison shackles.
I also have a small one on my thumb from a chainsaw. When I got it, I was sure I lost my thumb.

I usually don’t notice scars on people unless I get to know them for awhile. It doesn’t affect me one way or another, or make me treat the person differently. Just like a person’s race or other outwardly appearance, I don’t “see it”——instead, I always react to the person’s personality/attitude/mannerisms first. It’s after that I go “Oh yes, he’s got a big scar on his forehead.” It’s not like I don’t remember it, it’s just not that important to me in how I relate to him. I hope that makes sense.

It’s the psychological scars you have to worry about.

@flutherother And those aren’t the ones we brag about, but work hard to hide. Should we brag, considering that they represent much more than physical scars?

Love overlooks scars and other imperfections.

I can never wear a vest or camisole in public because of my scar on my back.

Most of my scars are emotional scars. Not too thrilled with those. I’ve got a couple of physical scars that don’t bother me at all, not any more than my freckles or gray hairs that are now starting to come in.

My SO has a couple of very sexy scars. Makes him look very masculine : – P

Most of my female relatives have cesarean scars and a few have long thyroid scars on their necks. Those scars don’t seem to bother anyone. My male relatives like to talk about how they acquired their scars.

I have a scar on my abdomen from stomach surgery. I forget it’s even there. I also have a surgery scar on the side of my left eye (yes, on the eyeball itself) but that’s not noticeable at all. I don’t really notice them on other people either.

I used to be afraid of what people would say about my scar, but I don’t care anymore. I have a scar that goes from ear to ear, over 40 stitches. I had surgery at 5 months old because my skull was fusing together too quickly. I can’t help it that I’m advanced :) I guess it still bothers me a little when people ask if I knew about the line on my head and if I asked for whoever cut my hair to make the line. Not sure why anyone would do that, but it just makes them look stupid. Other than that, I am ok with scars. I don’t think a scar could stop me from loving anyone and I don’t think my physical scars would stop someone from loving me. As for my emotional scars, that’s an entirely different story :P Got caught up in them more recently and I’m trying to get back up, dust myself off and try again.

I have many scars, both large and small.
I forget that I have them,
I rarely think about them. Most people are too polite to comment about them if they notice them. I don’t really know if they are noticed or not.

I love scars. I love showing mine and looking at others. What an ice breaker. “Hey you see this scar right here in my belly button? Well let me tell you about it…”

@chyna : Hey! I have one in my belly button! It’s how I conceived KatawaGrey!

My scars remind me that the past is real

@chyna “Hey you see this scar right here in my….”
There’ll be no more conceiving for me.

But I am still willing to try again and again….

@worriedguy Do you get a scar when you get snipped?

@worriedguy My scar says there will be no conceiving for me either. But I, too, am willing to try. Can I see your scar?

Scars mean either accidents or a bad behavior. I have a few and people can see them on my hands .. I cut myself with different household items when I was younger [like 10–15 years ago].
Can’t say that I dislike them or that they make me proud. They remind me of different things from back then.

@linguaphile – I tear my heart open just to feel! * rockin out *

@creative1 Yes there is a little scar. The doc has to get up there to snip and tie the tubing. Better that way than going in through the urethra. Ouch! That hurt just thinking about it.
@chyna Sure! I’ll show you mine if you show me yours. Fair is fair.

@Mariah See? A scar can be an opening as well as a closing.

My scars from my C-sections are reminders of the two best presents that life has given me – if I ever needed reminding.

My scar from the oven burn I got on my hand the night of my Dad’s last surgery always reminds me of him.

Nope – no problem with them.

I guess scars are pretty cool, but I don’t really think much of them. I have some, but I don’t think it’s ugly or anything. They’re all pretty small anyway, so even if it did bother me, they’re not easily noticed.
As for scars on other people, same. Doesn’t bother or awe me. It’s cool sharing the stories about them, but that’s about it.

I’m pretty indifferent about my scars, I have a few on my back from my youth, one over my left eye from a few years back and plenty on my arms and hand from various jobs I’ve held. Scars obviously aren’t a dealbreaker, most of time they go unnoticed by me.

I hate my scars, and I hide them. But mostly because I did it to myself, and it was the dumbest thing I ever did.
I hate the things people say, if I don’t cover them. “What’s up with your arm?” “You’re a fucking EMO!” “Go cut yourself, again.”
I hate it.

My body looks like a war-zone, I have more scars than any three people I have ever meet.

Ooooh. I’m covered in them.
I don’t mind so much. It’s a well known fact that I fall down 86 times a day. :)

How do I feel about them? What as odd question. I have no feeling about scars.

If someone had a very prominent and disfiguring facial scar, it would take me a little time to get used to it, but I would get used to it. Otherwise I’d just take it in stride, I’m sure. And I’d listen if they wanted to tell me about it. If I knew them well, perhaps I’d ask.

My husband has a major, long, deep, and shape-altering scar on his back due to lung surgery. Every time I see it, I think how thankful I am that he was able to have that life-saving surgery. I also regret what he went through, but gratitude is the main feeling.

I have a number of small scars but nothing big. I think of them as part of my story, but they’re not really interesting enough to talk about. If they were, and someone asked, I would.

I don’t think scars are anything to be ashamed of or that they’re imperfections. I don’t think they need to get romanticized or fetishized either. But whatever helps you sleep at night.

If medical science is funded and left out of political, religious, and economic arguments, in 15 years there will probably be a stem cell treatment for scar removal. You would harvest stem cells from nearby tissue and insert them in new tissue. Scars will be a thing of the past – just like crooked teeth and body hair on anyone under 25. ;-)

@JilltheTooth You conceived @KatawaGrey through your belly button? I can see delivery that way, but it seems an odd way to conceive.

@zenvelo:And you know women who deliver through their belly buttons?

veerrry skinny babies

@gailcalled Close enough for a C section….

@zenvelo: She always worried that I would have orifice confusion when I got older.

@KatawaGrey : Well, did you?
@zenvelo : I’ve never been one to do things the accepted way…