Would you rather be hated or ignored?

I prefer both :-/ Lol….. keeps the piece.

Ignored. There is too much mean energy coming off folks who “hate” us.

Ignored, there is too much hate in the world already

I can’t really think of an anecdote for you at the moment but I’ll toss my hat into the ignored ring as, much more often than not, I prefer to be left alone. As far as being hated, that doesn’t bother me, but it’s usually more of a hassle than being ignored and one I can do without.

It just absolutely blows my mind when people go out of their way to give somebody a hard time. Makes me feel bad about the world. So I, too, would much rather be ignored.

Personally, I wouldn’t want to be hated or ignored. But if I were to make a choice, I would say ignore me. Hate takes up to much energy. I always say, ’ignore someone and they will go away’. It usually works for me.:-)

I’d have to go with ignored, I don’t want to be the center of someone’s negative attentions.

Ignored all the way. I use my ex as the barometer for this question. He hates me and spends an inordinate amount of time wallowing in that hatred and cooking up schemes to make my life miserable. I would give money to get him to ignore me.

I would rather be ignored than be the target of active aggression. It’s much more peaceful.

@SuperMouse How much money would you give your ex to get him to ignore you? One thousand a year? Five thousand? Ten thousand? How much would it actually worth it to you to get him to go away?

Once my brother had a tenant who was doing all kinds of hateful things. He had a mental illness, apparently. In any case, my brother wanted him out, and he refused to go. Eviction, in NYC, takes forever. So I suggested they pay him to go. I think it cost between ten and fifteen thousand dollars, but my brother’s life was so much better after that.

I’d rather be ignored,
even if you hate me, what a waste of time
and energy
it is openly doing so,
what purpose would that serve?

Go ahead and hate me, dont text me, call me, talk to me
etc. and I will do the same. No sense in causing petty bullshit
drama, ya’ know?

@wundayatta that is a great question! If I was wealthy I would give him whatever he asked for just to make him leave me alone. Since I am not I could not realistically afford more than a couple of hundred dollars a year. The irony is that with the divorce decree I kind thought I had given him enough breaks (I only asked for child support even though I was realistically entitled to alimony after 21 years of marriage and 10 of them as a stay-at-home mom) that I thought he might leave me alone anyway. No such luck.

I prefer to be ignored. Just let me do my thing and we’re all okay. I do not like too much attention and being hated means usually someone keeps looking for you .. I don’t like that.

Depends on what I’m being hated for. Hated for being asshole? I’d rather be a nice person and ignored. Hated for being gay? Yeah, I’d rather be ignored than experience homophobia. Now, hated by some for my “controversial” opinions? That sounds interesting to me…as long as there are no death threats…

But still, I’d rather not be famous or in any way a public figure…

I prefer no drama, so, everyone is free to hate or ignore me, whatever works for you. lol

Ignored

I’d rather be ignored. Being hated REALLY upsets me, even if it’s someone who doesn’t matter. Then again I tend to interpret being ignored as “they hate me”, so it doesn’t help much.

I’d rather be hated. Being ignored feels worse to me.

I would prefer to be invisible…

I’d rather be hated than helpless. If they hate you, at least it means they’re listening. We truly define ourselves through adversity.

“Let me embrace thee, sour adversity, for wise men say it is the wisest course.” ~ William Shakespeare

“I consider adversity being good sometimes you know.” ~ Brett Favre : P

Actually, I am hated by a lot of people, just for who I am. And I am ignored by a lot of people, just for who I am. I deal with it :-p

@HungryGuy I don’t know if you’ll be excited to discover that I don’t hate you and I don’t find it necessary to ignore you. But that’s how it flies.

Ignored. Because at least I can wake up in the morning knowing some one wants to kill me. Also, I wouldn’t want someone to come up to me like “You suck!”

@wundayatta – Awww. Thanks for the words of kindness. It warms my cockles to know that someone doesn’t hate me :-D