If you don't hear a guy from 3 weeks, does that mean he's dead?

Unless he went to the Arctic to explore, it means he’s just not that into you.

Possibly, it could be a lot of things. Maybe he’s been abducted by aliens, is in the CIA, joined a cult and is now living in the their underground bunker in the New Mexico desert, or he and his friends got really drunk and they tied him to a tree in the woods as a joke and now can’t remember where they put him, it could be anything. Or, he could just be really busy, or there could be a family crisis, or that he isn’t really interested in talking to you or getting together with you.

Lol…..No, it means he probably has other things on his agenda.

No. After three weeks, it means he’s been eaten by a lion. A shark would be four weeks. And a polar bear would be six weeks.

t doesn’t mean he’s dead, but maybe his mother died. Or he had other fish to fry.

It means that your relationship is over.

OMG you guys are so painfully smart!!!! I do believe he might be taken by alien…

Um, sometimes life intervenes. Parents become ill, other things happen. If you are interested, you can call. If you are waiting for him to call, it may not happen . . .

ya, he’s probably dead.
sorry for your loss.

@Kayak8 but he’s a guy, he should call!!! That is a rule! :)

Yeah too bad I couldn’t even attend his funeral….I thought he liked me that much to let me know he’s dead….

Most guys are not kind enough to call your or come over to your house to tell you that they’re no longer interested in you. They figure that you’ll figure it out soon enough, and if they were to tell you in person you might yell at them or start crying. Most men have no interest in either of those scenarios.

He could be busy, but unless his land line phone is dead, his cell phone is dead, his computer is dead, his work phone is dead, his friend’s phone is dead, or he broke his fingers or his mouth, and he doesn’t have a car or a bike or enough money to take the tube and the bus to your house to let you know that he’s busy and to tell you when you can re-connect, then consider yourself dumped.

If he was actually dead, it is likely that you would have heard about it from someone by now.

Did you try calling him? Playing shy is not going to help in this situation. If you really want/need to know, then call him and ask him, directly.

Either that, or he’s forgotten who you are.

@downtide that is just so cruel…

Perhaps there is an error in your expectations that you would have heard from him.
Reevaluate the reason for your expectations and discard faulty, irrational ones.

@Dr_Lawrence So what kind of error in my expectations would occur? I like your answer but can you elaborate?

Lol sorry, but that was some funny question/details. I don’t think he’s dead. If it’s someone who lives nearby, you go to school with or whatever…if he was dead, you’d know by now. He could be missing. But people in the hood would start to talk. If it’s someone online you never met in person, well that probably happens fairly often. Online peeps disappearing outta nowhere. like on Fluther. Some members leave one day and we never see them again. Maybe they died, I mean it’s possible, but it’s even more possible that they were just like, eh.

Depending on the details with your going ons with this dude, I’m guessing he had no interest, just went on with his stuff and never bothered to drop by. Something like that. Sucks, but what are you gonna do. I’m guessing you tried to contact him.

@Symbeline I did 2 times then gave up… now on, I think I wait for the guy to contact me. If they are keen they will be in touch… but it is just rude to disappear ok, even if you are nearly die, you should let people know.

Did he, per chance, “die” not long after you gave him a fatal ride? lol

@Londongirl some of the first replies weren’t made for mockery. People tried to point out the obvious. When I don’t call/visit someone I met a few days ago it means I’m not interested in them. Most people get this hint really fast.
I’m sorry for you but it’s time to move on.

@Londongirl @Dr_Lawrence Probably means that no one is really obligated to continue on with you, so you shouldn’t expect every single person to do so. These are the risks of getting involved with people. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.

@Londongirl was booted out of the collection

@SpatzieLover Darn, I missed the questions about her steamy nights.

Not into you.

@Londongirl If you approach a relationship with someone with firmly set beliefs about how things will proceed and how fast, then you most likely will be operating under a set of assumptions and expectations that are unrealistic because they have not been compared to the reality of the situation. This will mislead you to expect things that may not be at all realistic. This can lead to disappointment and frustration for you. Check things out more clearly in the future so your imagination and fantasies don’t mislead you. You are worthwhile whether some guy keeps in contact or not. If you really want to know what’s up with him, you can contact him. In this era, women can be more direct than in the 1950’s and 1960’s.