It is normal to date for a long time before becoming in a serious relationship?

I would tell her that id she is not ready to call herself your girlfriend then you are going to see other people.

I am probably wrong in my assumption so please correct me if I am but it sounds to me as if you are more focussed on labelling than on dating with a nice girl and seeing what comes from it and enjoying the time you spend together.
My advice and hers, I would guess is to keep on dating with her and do not for a while at least mention the girlfriend label.
If things work out well between the both of you, you’ll both feel automatically that you are each others boy-/girlfriend.

Not for me, everybody is different.

Why not?
Is this girl freshly out of another relationship?
Do you know of anyone she’s had her eye on before you came into her picture?
Has she some goals planned out where a relationship has been put as a lower priority?

All or any of these things could be an obstacle to you but just how she wants it. Ask her more about herself to find out.

Well I’d say it’s normal but what the hell .. 3 years and she doesn’t want to call herself your girl. She had enough time to see how you act in most situations.
If I were you I’d date other people .. not to make her jealous but you seem to want a girl of your own :P
You invested a lot of time and feelings in this relationship but it seems you’re not gonna get something out of it anytime soon. They say good things comes to those who wait but you need to remember that you wait up you might miss a lot of other opportunities.
Maybe this is your cue to start seeing other people.

How long have you been dating this girl? Have you been dating each other exclusively or have you both been seeing other people? She is already telling you that she is not ready for a committed relationship. Waiting is really up to you, but do you really want to wait around and hope that one day she changes her mind? What happens if that day never comes? Would you look back on this time as time wasted?

I’d recommend talking to her to see exactly what’s going on between the two of you (as far as dating only each other or dating other people). If she’s all for dating other people, then you should do that (and whether or not you keep dating her is all up to you). Good luck!

It’s kind of old-fashioned, but it’s perfectly normal and even sensible. What’s the rush? Slow down and really get to know each other.

yes, for some.

I have been dating this girl for about three months now and she has come out of a bad breakup. Whenever I ask her to be my girlfriend, she tells me that I am not on the same page with her but we make dates with each other. A friend of mine tells me that she is just wasting my time, but I am tolerable with it because the relationship that she had before was pretty rough….but yes I was a girl I can call my own and I really wish that she could be more willing.

@Eggie: Do you guys make out at all? If not then by this time I think she wants to be just friends. A lot of people “make dates” that aren’t intended to be romantic but in order to keep living and sharing the things they enjoy with someone. You really should ask her flat out it she’s more comfortable like that so you can know where you stand instead of holding out hope for something else to evolve. Other girls will avoid you if they think you’re romantic dating.